Do you live alone?
By myslewis
@myslewis (286)
Australia
December 27, 2006 6:28am CST
I don't but am thinking of ending my present relationship, which would mean living alone. I am fairly self sufficient but quite enjoy having another in my life to share interests etc.
Anyway I was wondering how people coped with living alone, what sort of groups do you belong to to maintain some sense of connection.
Are you looking for another relationship cos living alone is just too difficult or do you thoroughly enjoy the solitude.
I'd like to hear your thoughts and your experiences to help me make up my mind about whether to stay in an unsatisfactory relationship or to take the chance and leave.
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6 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Dec 06
At the moment I am still living with my Kids but I am moving away next Year
There is someone in my Life but I will be living alone and no I am not scared of it because even though I was married he was more out socializing then with me anyway so I am quite used to it
@seenoreen (559)
• Philippines
27 Dec 06
I don't live alone but I would, I can surely cope with it. I know how to do household chores and I can keep my connection with my family by phone or email.
I could also visit them once in a while and go out with friends.
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@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
4 Jan 07
i had been living will someone from age 16,if it was either a roomate or boyfriend i was never alone..untill abotu 5 years ago till I had my son,its been 5 yrs now..and at first it was strange..and lonly../but I got used to it..now i have total freedom,come and go when i want to. no one tell me what friends they like or not,I like being single now,yes i have my days i wish i wasnt alone..but ya know if i find soemone great..if not..ehh thats ok too..ohh yeaa less to clean as well too!!! lol
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@myslewis (286)
• Australia
4 Jan 07
sheesh what a story - I love to hear of successes like yours:)
Oh boy to feel loved, that would be great. I think I will have to content myself with having affection from my daughter, grandkids and friends.
I'm finding it hard to separate, not only cos of living alone but because I feel responsible for him - he has no money, will not/can not work, and he has no where else to live.
I am almost resigned to him not earning but when he doesn't even help around the house, I just want out - but I guess that's an old story!!
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@memaw_of_8 (73)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Is it he can't work or does not want to work? Hun don't make yourself miserable because you feel sorry for him. If he is unable to work, there are places out there that can help him find a place to live. If it is becuase he doesn't want to work than this will give him insentive to get off his butt and find a job. Don't keep a man just because you dont' want to be lonely. Only you can make yourself happy, not anyone else. Give him 30 days notice, Remember life is short and your happiness is the most important thing in life. You don't want to turn around one day and it is too late to be able to enjoy life. Do you have yahoo messenger? A microphone, and speakers, I would love to just sit and talk to you and get to know you. With Yahoo messenger or Skype you can call computer to computer without any cost.
Have a great day and remember you are the most important person in your life.
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@lorenamorais (72)
• Brazil
27 Dec 06
i don't but its like a dream to me live alone, with a friend or partner. I know that have a litlle of complications beyond like homesickness but i think that valley to pass for evertything.
@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I left my ex about 11 years ago, and although I have always had the kids with me to keep me company, I will always say that alone or not you are almost always better off to get out of a relationship that makes you miserable. Sometimes it's a bit rough at first, but it gets easire with time.
I realize that it has been 3 months ago when this discussion was first posted, and since the last response was made, but I was curious if you were still in this relationship or if you had moved on.
@myslewis (286)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Gee thanks for the response:)
I still seesaw between wanting him to go and being sort of content. My main problem is that this is a 64 yo guy who is unable to look after himself financially. I know that of he was going to someone or somewhere where he would be looked after I would feel so happy, but I can't take the risk of coping with the guilt if I was to "throw" him out.
I think about it alot but can't seem to come to a satisfactory decision.
