Should I tell my mom her boyfriend kissed me?
By jen20619
@jen20619 (1300)
Ireland
December 27, 2006 10:54am CST
My mom is with her boyfriend a number of years now.I have seen him look at me in ways he shouldnt be.Although I didnt want to jump to conclusions until that is. One day my mom was out.I was in the kitchen cooking.Her boyfriend came behind me called my name .I turned round and to my amazement he kissed me.I was very shocked and just stared at him.He began to look nervous and left the room.I dont want to break my moms heart as I know she really cares for this man. But I feel bad holding this all in.Should I tell her?
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@iknowitall (455)
• United States
27 Dec 06
How old are you?
If your under 18 then you should tell your Mom then the police.
If your Over 18 you should definitly tell your mom.
and if thats you n ur pic then i dont blame him but hes a sicko...lol
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@ummhasna (70)
• United States
4 Jan 07
i agree with you this is scary please to the advice dont worry about losing your friendship you are her daughter she have to think about the consequences he could be watching in your sleep or something get some help and try to find counseling for you and your mom in a case like this
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@kellahinx (370)
• United States
28 Dec 06
what? you think she should let her mom's boyfriend do stuff to her?!? that is just wrong.
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@southernpixie (741)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I think you should tell her..If you don't there's no telling what else he might try to do.
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@rameshgopal365 (918)
• India
28 Dec 06
Try to tell your mom as early as possible before the next kiss from that stupid.
@ummhasna (70)
• United States
4 Jan 07
yes i agree, but also how is you and your mom relationship sometimes that matters the reason why im saying this is because if you dont communicate with your mother and its very poor then you need to figure out how to tell her. maybe you can spend sometime alone with her you know like girls hang out first to see how far that go thats if you guys dont have a good friendship start with that first. if you and your mother have a good friendship and you dont want to hurt her feeling talk to her about it like its one of your friends or someone you know at school if you feel ashame talking to her and telling her you are that person and if she give you advice on what to say to that invisible person then kiss her on the cheek if its positive advice and hug her and say thanks mom and then you guys go for a walk maybe a week later just you two and tell her then or right her a note.my sister went threw the same thing and my mother did not believe my sister and put her out my sister at that time was only 13ys old and now she is 34 my mother love him so much and did not believe my sister and i promised myself that if my children was to tell me that he will have to leave or go to jail because this is serious im cheering for you listen to the advice that the people in mylot are telling you and dont be afraid and if you are consult with someone you trust ex:teacher, best friends mother or principal.
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@espulido76 (155)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
you should tell her right away!! Don't wait for something more to happen!
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@mirage108 (3402)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I would tell her, you mom can make up her own mind on what to do.
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@manu_ghimire (2626)
• India
27 Dec 06
what are you waiting for tel your mom and throw that man out of house ! thank god its Indian culture for me ! disgusting
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@ahmedrulezz (103)
• Pakistan
27 Dec 06
what the hell? what does he wants from you now... tell your mom. thats not ethical anyways... but whats your momz bfs doing in your house... let him stay out... hez moving far beyond his reach.. is he really serious with your mom or is he just time passing.. Lokk over it babe.. and you stay away from her!
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@prashanth_vv (848)
• India
28 Dec 06
ofcourse you should tell her.it is for both of your well being.he might be a pervert and you wud never no.better telll her and she will know what to do.
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@rico_suave (159)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
You should tell her about it. But remember that timing is important. For starters, just give your mom hints about the incident. Say that it happened to an acquaintance of yours and that you wanted advice on what to say to your friend.
@jerseypink (176)
• United States
28 Dec 06
Wow, I would think there is no other choice but to tell her. He could do much worse, and I'm sure if she knew that he kissed her daughter she would feel a little differently about him. I would tell her as soon as you can, he might be a closet whacko, and for your sake watch out and speak up!
@idrob2006 (317)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 06
Yes, I agree with most responses. You must tell your mom. You can talk to her slowly, and explain that what was happened. the earliest you tell, the better it will be
@maio19 (81)
• Thailand
28 Dec 06
So disgusting! I pity your mother to be with this kind of guy. You should tell her right away. I know it would cause her a lot of pain but its better to tell her the truth. I think that guy is just sticking with your mother just because of one thing... to get you one day! Be careful and tell him frankly how you dislike him.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
28 Dec 06
it is you who said you feel bad holding it all inside you. you are feeling bad and you need to burst out your sadness. the only way for you to feel better is to tell your mom about it. it's gonna be hard for you to do it. but it's the best way to escape the bad feeling inside you. you mom loves you and will understand you. plus she gets to talk to her boyfriend about the case. this will make everything better.
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@kimmypot (285)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
honey, you have to tell your mom, otherwise, he might try to do something more than just a kiss.
first i suggest confronting her boyfriend first. but make sure that you have someone with you a cousin or a friend. make sure you have a witness who can protect you. or that when you tell your mom i suggest that the boyfriend is present while you do it so that he cannot make retractions or if he does deny it, you will be there to contradict him.
maybe you have an aunt you can seek advice from?
@phon4u (2215)
• Laos
28 Dec 06
Tell your mum as soon as posible before it is too late for your life ruin and being sorrow. Your mom will missunderstand you if you tell her late. You know what a man want. When it is too late, What a child will call your mum,and how your mum will call her boyfriend
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I haven't read the whole thread, so I'm sorry if this has been said a dozen times.. but the fact that your mom cares so much for a man who is willing to betray her in such a way- with her own daughter- makes it obvious that this is not the man for her. Unfortunately, it seems like most of the time, if somebody in your situation were to tell, the mother would not believe you. How close are you to your mother? She might be p*ssed at you for a while, but do you think telling her would completely ruin your relationship with her? Any man that hits on his girlfriend's daughter is bad news! if you don't want to tell her, you make him understand in no uncertain terms that he better never come near you again. Or you will tell!!
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@amafrias (455)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I would tell him to tell her, and if he didn't I would. I am the type that would confront him with a recorder in my pocket, and tell him he has to tell her himself. Then when he refusues you have it on tape. I know that's going a bit far, but I have seen too many mothers with a fear of being alone, and they refuse to believe anyone but the boyfriend. Usually the boyfriend knows when he's got it like that also. I wish you luck, it has to come out.
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