Is it just me who is disappointed by some friends on MyLot...?

Bunny I will repeat what I have said before. When I come to myLot I check my own discussions and make a comment, rate etc anyone who has responded to my discussions. Then I go to my list of friends and start on their discussions and try to respond to at least one of them every day if I can. However I was like you too and noticed that some on my friends list were not responding to my discussions, although they were here regularly. It did take me some time to check through them all I will admit but I wanted to be sure. When I was absolutely certain, I sent them a PM asking if they wanted to stay on my list as I had noticed they weren't responding to my discussions. If they came to myLot and didn't respond to my PM and start responding to my discussions, I hit the delete key. I actually deleted about 25 "friends" off my list over 2 days and since then I have had a few more requests for friends, which I have accepted. That is my solution to the issue because like you, I think that friends should help each other and if someone who is on my list of friends cannot respond to my discussions, then why have them there. Also I will in future limit the number of people I accept as friends, as I would rather help them than have a very long list that I cannot possibly get through them all. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

well i'm not yet a friend , but i still stop by with this movie line: Keep up the good work we all are counting on you

I find it really annoying when my friends reply to my things with a few sentences about how they don't know anything about what I was talking about. I try to post to my friends, but alot of the discussions are not anything I can answer. Isn't it better to abstain than post something stupid? I also don't have tons of time to start discussions and post replies. I am lucky if I can do 10 posts a day.

hi bunny definitely you are not alone. iam also feeling like that . we are having the same thinking so if you want me to be your friend and just add me. definitely i will boost you income. and i hope the same from you. lets see who of us two is the best friend.........

Yes I totaly understand what you mean.I think having friends on mylot is great and they should reply to the topics .I have over a one hundred friends on my list.It would be great if they would all reply to my topics

U should choose ur friends wisely ask ur heart and u shall know how many of those r ur true friends

No, there are a lot of us that get irritated by this problem, but after you've been here awhile you become resigned. I've gone through my friends several times and deleted the ones I never hear from. I'm just grateful for the faithful ones who answer my posts regularly. I've noticed several people who have requested to be my friend who already have 100 or more friends but haven't made a single post. To me these people are only after what all these friends can do for them. It is impossible to keep up that many active friends unless all you do is post discussions for them to answer and then don't answer any of theirs. Maybe mylot ought to put a friends limit on people. Like, you can't have a friend until you make 50 posts or something and then have the number increase as the person's # of posts does. I always turn people like this down as friends. A friendship is supposed to work BOTH ways. That way we all make money.

I apologize for my lack of involvment in your discussions, Bunny. Let me tell you my view on friends on myLot though, and maybe you will understand. Yes, friends are there to respond to your discussions and visa versa. But to me my friends are more than just that...they are people that I desire to communicate with and like and am enjoying getting to know. I have over 90 friends on my list, if I responded to every topic they put up, it would be real overload. I do browse my friends discussions first, and do my best to reply to those that I have something to "add" to. I can't respond to a topic/question if I know nothing about the subject or if I don't really have anything to say. I am sorry. I also think that so many topics/good discussions get buried and aren't seen or found, even by our friends, so it is hard to reply to something that you are not aware of. I do enjoy your topics and like having you as a friend. I will try harder to reply to your topics if I can. I am sorry if I personally have offended you in any way, it was not my intention. Please be patient with your friends, it is also the holidays and many people are just really busy. Hugs and Happy New Year.

i have kept my friends list down on here but i do try to post responses...i also have the problem of knowing whether or not ive already responded lol and i sometimes hate going through each page to see if i have or not as there are often pages and pages....tis why i tend to try and respond to discussions with no responses but i also do try and respond to friends ones....

I try to keep going back to the people I have as friends and answer their questions before I go on to look at others. sometimes they post and sometimes they do not. I do not ask many questions, but when I do I try to go back and give them ratings and remarks to all those who have responded to me.

Well i have to say that alot of the time that i am on here i don't have time to go in to all of my friends and comment on every article. Your earnings also arent raised by how many replies you have to your discussion. However, i do do my best and that is the best that anyone can do. I have close to 300 friends and that is almost impossibe. I will say though that i will get to at least one of my friends discussion each or more within a week. i think that this is as much time i can give to just my friends list. i also need time to make more and comment on other discussions as well.

no i m wid you..friends dont reply as expected..isn't it..!!!

I dont think you should take it to heart, i know you are on my friends list, and i dont always reply to your posts just as you dont always reply to mine. Its more a matter of replying to posts you feel like you have something valid to contribute too. I could respond to every post my friends make but they would be lacking in quality i dont always have much to say on the subject of the post, i always make visiting my friend posts my first port of call but i cant always respond.

I have the same problem, but why do you feel annoyed? Take it easy, this isn't so important (to me, obviously). One month ago I knew an Italian woman in an Italian forum, and she asked me to subscribe to myLot. I tried, I liked myLot and here I am. The funny thing is that she gave me some names of Italian people and she advised me to request them to become their friend, so we Italian would have helped among us responding to our discussions. Ah ah ah ah, only one person responded to a discussion of mine, and only one time.... maybe that all my discussions are stupid and not interesting, but if I have to expect something from Italians.... :-) Every time a friend of mine responds to a discussion of mine I sudden go to his/her profile and respond to two discussions of his/her. If I find something interesting also to other discussions....

Please do not be discouraged, actually at mylot we belong to different variety of people, see even I have many friends and at times I try to answer, but some discussions I just do not understand so I am unable to answer. But I assure you keep posting good posts you will definately get response if not by friends but by others.

I know they've saw your post. Maybe somewhat they don't feel to answer your discussion. Or might be they haven't notices some of your intesting posts. Try to approach them first, like sending message of saying "hello, just droppin' by." And ask a favor if they can answer your posts.

I am not annoyed, I am just waiting for the responses to build. I make new friends almost every day, and like you I try to respond to at least one discussion every day for each. They do not all start new ones daily, though. I seem to have almost more than I can keep up with already. I see my earnings improve. I think we need to do more to get the word out about ratings. I did not always used to do that, myself.

I'm beginning to think the friend thing is sort of a bust. I got ten pending friendship requests and didn't know what to do with them. I couldn't figure out why they wanted to be my friend but I didn't have the heart to deny them. I posted a discussion on the topic and someone told me I could turn off any discussion notification. So I okayed three friends at random to see how it worked. Well one guy turned out to be a serial poster and in one day I had pages and pages of his postings in my friends discussion's area. It took a lot of scrolling to even find the avatars of the other two people. I turned off the notify button beside his name but the old postings are still there....As I surf around this site, I do see some folks that post thoughtful discussions and follow up on them. I think I might like to be friends with them. I'm thinking I might wait until I've replied to two or three good discussions posted by the same person and then I'll make a request to add them to my friends. That seems like the sane way to do it.

Most of my friends don't reply to my posts. I don't think that I am really "disappointed" by it. I added all of the people who requested to be added because I thought that they would read my posts also, but even if none of my friends reply I don't get upset. I still answer their posts when they look interesting to me.

i think other people just need to be reminded of the one thing that's important in mylot: support. i guess everyone's busy checking out some new and old interests but bunny2's concern is valid, cuz as the cliche goes, what are friends for? :)