Should you marry your friend??

That was going to be my first question--do you love him? It sounds like you have a great basis for a good marriage if you are already best friends! Give it some thought, discuss with him and think on it some more. I'm sure the right decision will come to you.

Yeah, thts true...gettin jealous and being in love is way different dear !! Realise wht it is dear !

That is exactly the question that you should be asking yourself. Also, you probably need time to adjust to this new idea. That is, he's changing the frame of reference within your relationship. It's a shock, of course. Before you make any decisions, the best thing to do would probably spend some time together-- date. Give it thought, and see how you both feel while spending time together from this approach. I think that friendship is the absolute best way to start a relationship. Marriage isn't all about passion and romance-- it takes effort and time and a lot of putting up with one another. If you're really good friends already, chances are you've already had to deal with some things together, and you've already invested time with one another. That doesn't mean you SHOULD marry the guy, but it does mean that a more "intimate" relationship between the two of you would be solid from the beginning. Friendship and commitment are sometimes what gets a marriage through rough times. Like I said, there won't always be that passion-- so sometimes you need another type of bond or you might end up resorting to divorce before the relationship even has a chance. After all, romantic/passion love usually develops into companionate love eventually, as time passes. Anyways, just because you feel jealous over each other does not mean you want that person romantically. I've felt jealous over some of my closer friends just because I wanted to feel like I was special, and I was afraid of how I would measure up to other people. You just have to decide if being with him is what you want-- for the rest of your life. (Well, in theory.) Oh, also-- oftentimes, "storage" lovers (storage love is similiar to companionate love) atually remain friends even if the relationship breaks up. It sounds like the two of you would have that kind of relationship, where you strive for comfort and stability within the relationship, most likely based on the intimacy and feels of deep affection involved with companionate love. Don't let the fear of losing a friend deter you from losing out on a long-lasting and potentially fullfilling and meaningful relationship. If you marry, work to remain friends-- not only would that help see you through, but if the relationship ultimately fails, you will still have that friendship. In the end, it's really what you want. It's a tough situation because you don't know how a yes or no will affect what you have now. I hope that everything works out for you. (I haven't read through-- by now, perhaps you have already made a decision.) I wish you all the best-- Good luck!

cute... "Listen to your heart" thats what my husband told me when he first courted me... and I knew we will be more than just friends...

I think that if it really desires it with love, it must try yes a relationship.

Wow, well said :) Thanks for the advise. You get a +

Always remember that friend and life partner is very different. Your best friend may not be ur best partner in life.The rest is history.

Why not??If both of u have feelings towards each other. I married my best friend. cheers!!

Ur welcome my dear friend. Wish U happy and sunny new year 2007

thank you very much for your well wishes :)

Thank you for your well wishes. We agreed to take it slow...although not as "slow" as it has been :) Maybe a year or two instead of the 5.

That is not true. You must have friendship always with your partner. And you will not loose the friendship no matter what if you are that good of friends. And if you really are that good of friends, this will only make it better. Really!

We have been friends for 5 years. I have asked his advice and he has asked mine on dating. At times I felt women he was seeing was no good for him, I would tell him this, just as he would do me if a man I dated was no good to me. I don't believe I was jealous really it was moreso that a part of me longed to be with him.Deep down even though I was happy for him, my heart would feel pain and I would often get almost "choked up" when speaking of another. Happiness for the other really has always been important to us.

Thats right man the main ingrient of good marriage is trust.

and marriage to anyone is a risk be itfrind or not so the key is to make it work with hard work and effort from both sides