husband being very stubborn and not cooperative
@smartearnings (130)
India
December 28, 2006 1:26pm CST
Due to some problems in office my husband was forced to leave the job but that was ok but problem started after that because he doesn't want to work. We have 1 child and we are going thru hell of period but he doesn't care. We have so many loans on us but he sits home eat and sleep. some how i had managed to find him a job he went but after some months he left that also now he is idle and sits at home argue with me, fights with me, dosen't agree on any topic. whenever i tell him to find job he becomes mad at me and starts arguing voilently can,t understand what to do?
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6 responses
@rosaflorence (1924)
• United States
4 Jan 07
He does seem to be depressed. I was once in your shoes and I can tell you from experience that it will pass. He is probably upset over money issues and he probably liked his last job and now he doesn't want to work at a job that he doesn't realy like that much. Hang in there girl, it will get better. Money problems are the cause of a lot of couples arguements. They may not notice at the time but they are usually stressed out and this can lead to upsetting behavior.
@smartearnings (130)
• India
6 Jan 07
You are absolutely right about it. He did liked his last job and use to work sincrely. I m giving him some space so he can figure it out. But he is being so difficult that sometimes he interferes with my work also.
@smacksman (6053)
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29 Dec 06
Very difficult situation. My heart goes out to you.
If you can get a job then get him to do the work in the house. As a simple man myself I know how hard housework is!!
It may shame him into keeping a job and that job may well be easier than housework.
Good luck and keep your spirits up!
@smartearnings (130)
• India
31 Dec 06
Thanks a lot. I have my self doing the the work as my kid is very small he needs me i had being working before bout for the kid i left the job. But then also i m earning i take private tuitons at home. Problems is that he doesn't want to take any responsibilities.
@srhelmer (7029)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
28 Dec 06
It sounds to me like he's depressed. The job market isn't what it used to be and he probably feels he can't provide for his family.
@ecpunzalan (401)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
why dont you find a job and let him be, let him be the man of the house. if that doesnt work, leave for a while maybe when you are gone he would come into his senses
@handsomeearning (267)
• India
29 Dec 06
Dont let down. Lets work hard on MyLot will help u in over cominig in your problems. Its Hard times. Cope Up
@meeshee1 (188)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I am almost in the same boat. My boyfriend has been sick for a while but he has not had a job in TWO YEARS!! We don't live together any more because I can't afford to support him and pay the rent if he is not working. It's soo hard to deal with, because like you, whenever I bring up the fact that he needs a job, he gets mad at me. I hate this situation. I really don't know what to tell you do except give him an ultimatum and tell him he either gets a job or hits the road until he can find one.
