Surrogate mother!

It is a very good topic. Yes it does sound like a good solution to the problem of childless couples. Only hitch i see in it is that after carring a baby in her womb for 9 mths can a lady simply just give it up. Would she never try to enter its life in some or the other way. Wont this lead to complications in all their lifes. Wont it be simpler to just adopt an orphan child. Afterall there are so many chiidren who dont get the love of parents.I feel adoption is a better solution. But anyways its a matter of personal opinions

I guess it is a hard concept to grasp for the women. And they probably also feel even more worse because they miss out on all the things that comes with pregnancy, like bonding with the baby etc. It's totally a subject that people I don't feel will ever be comfortable with. It is a difficult situation for everyone to be comfortable with. And I guess the wives will maybe feel a certain sense of animosity toward the surrogate, jealousy, whatever. For a woman to step down and let another woman carry her baby takes a lot, emotionally. On the other hand, other women are excited to even have this opportunity, that they would do anything to have their own baby from their own genes. There are always 2 sides to the stories.

You know I wanted to be a surrogate mother when I was done having my own children. The problem was when I was pregnant with my last child I had too many problems that my Dr. advised me that having any more babies could cause me to loose my life and honestly I cant risk that. Believe me if I coulde be a surrogate mother I would to help those who couldent have a baby on there own.

well human has life for some exceptable, well I think it's ok do that.

yes it real.. due to parnets it will affect one

A couple of weeks ago my sister found out that she had to have her remaining ovary removed. Last year she had the first one removed after 2 cysts formed due to endometriosis. Now she has another cyst growing. The surgeon said they will try to rescue some of her eggs but her chances of being able to carry a child with her condition are slim. When I asked her what she thought of surrogacy, she said that she didn't feel she could cope with not being able to take control of the pregnancy - she would want to know where the surrogate mother was going and what she was doing etc and it would drive her crazy! Until she knows what the outcome of the surgery is, I suppose you cannot decide until then. I am trying to prepare myself for if she asks me to be a surrogate, and trying to think what I would do... Would any of you do it for a sibling?

I think because alot of people believe that maybe in the end the surrogate mother won't want to give up the child, I don't think I could ever be a surrogate mom or would I want a surrogate, she could always claim she's the mom and I couldn't deal with that, I'd rather adopt kids.

to me it`s just the same as adopting a baby really there is no difference but it would definately take a strong woman indeed to give up a baby she has carried for nine months i just couldnt do it

it is okey for me, i dont have problem to use ssurrogate mother if given the chance.. as long as you will love the baby,and as long as you have the capacity to share yourself and be a mommy to a kid, thats is very good to me..

I think adoption is better than surrogate mother, it is not worth, as the mother who carries this child will unknowingly form a bond with the child so much guilt is involved at least a orphan child the parents willbe free from any guilt feeling no danger of the mother coming bcak and caliming for the child etc, more peace and less guilt.

hmmm... no comments without proper knowledge...

i think there's nothing wrong with having a child through a surrogate mother. i don't understand it either why some people are not open with this kind of issue. but in my own opinion, i think what matters is how the mother loves and raises his child into a good person.

his luck.

Yeh i guess the concept isn't all that hot because the woman who can't have the baby dosnt feal all that hot about her spouse having the baby she always wanted to have being given to him by another woman. Bad enough she can't give birth and to see someone else caring the baby you always wanted to have is hard. Plus its the pregancy experiance in its self fealing your body change and fealing the baby move inside you, the labor its all wraped into it.

i see nothing wrong with it if both parnets and the woman who is going to be carrying the child are all ok with it

I do not understand why some people have a issue with someone being their surrogate isnt the important thing here is that they want a baby and are unable to have one because of medical problems.some people may have a hard time with it and fail like a failure because they are unable to have their own maybe that is your friends issue.if they want a baby then i dont know why this is a issue because if they get a surrogate they will have a baby the mom just wouldnt give birth but it still will be there baby.

I think that adoption is a much more viable solution to the issue of childlessness. China has thousands of unwanted girl children, so does Ethiopia. Countless other countries have orphanages bursting at the seams. While I don't think it should be as simple as going to a supermarket to grab some goods, I do think adoption should be made easier. With surrogacy if you use your own egg and your husband's sperm, even though the child is not biologically related to the surrogate woman/mother, she will go through 9 months of pregnancy and then give the child up, it seems like a lot of medical hassle and expense to have to go through just to have your own biological child! Just adopt, there are plenty of children out there that need it.

having a surrogate mother is certainly a practice society should look with agreement rather than annoyance.when a couple is sure that they cannot have a child,there is nothing wrong in following this practice.surrogate mother is really doing a great thing and helping others while making living for themselves.

Much as i think being a surrogate is a nobel thing to do. But many people feel differently - it's certainly the best gift you can give someone, but i think that if considering it, you shouldn't underestimate the attachment that inevitably forms between mother and child during those 9 months...

It is a matter of personal opinions but for me, I am ok with having another person conceive my child. Adoption is still a good solution for couples who cannot have their own children.