Is it cheating?
By Trace86
@Trace86 (5030)
United States
December 29, 2006 12:44pm CST
Lately I have been having dreams. I can't specifically remember them, but I have a sense that they were of a romantic nature. I am pretty sure that the man in last night's dream wasn't my husband, I am also sure that nothing romantic happened. I am also sure that I have not met this man before. Are non-romantic dreams that include other men cheating? I mean, I had a nightmare the night before where I was being chased by a man-eating monster and I know that I don't really want that to happen!
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104 responses
@gacki001 (1)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Perfectely stated. Who doesn't fantasize? If you say you don't, I would have to say you were lying. We may not all fantasize about the same things, or other people, but we all have some fantasies hidden away in our minds. My husband and I say as long as no real physical action goes on between two people then everything is good to go. I would have to imagine that dreams would fall into the okay category since it is just that a dream. Besides, like you said, you even have dreams about man-eating monsters or whatever....I don't think those are coming out anytime soon!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
29 Dec 06
No, you can NEVER controll your dreams, you just dream and if it isn´t an act that u are aware how could ite considering cheating!
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@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Actually, you can control your dreams with training and practice. It's called Lucid Dreaming. It's not common and it rarely happens without practice and lots of effort, but it is possible.
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@loved1 (5328)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I don't think we can control what our dreams will be about and I would not consider that cheating. It would be different if you were fantasizing(while awake) about being intimate with other men. That would be commiting adultry in your heart. We human beings are funny creatures and we dream crazy things sometimes.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
29 Dec 06
No it's not cheating. It's not like you are going out looking for a guy. You can't help it if they pop up in your dreams...lol Monster chasing you..hmmm very interesting. Pulls out the black couch,pencil and paper. Come sit and tell me all about it? *winks* just teasing . enjoy the dreams
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 06
of course not ..how can it be...maybe you have it in your subconscios mind thinking about such things as what ifs..thats why your been dreaming it..dreams are the result of your subconcious mind thats what i have learned reading some books...
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
30 Dec 06
It is not cheating if its a dream. It a normal typical reaction from the brain. How are ur guys relationship?
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
15 Jan 07
He had to go out of town for a few days and has been calling me and texting me constantly telling me he misses me and vice versa. I actually volunteered to work yesterday so I would be busy and not miss him so much. He told me yesterday that these few days apart have made him realize how much he loves and needs me.
The whole time he's been gone, I have stayed on my side of the bed. I can't sleep without him, so I've been staying up until I pretty much crash from exhaustion. When he was here, I would wake up in the night if he stopped snoring so I could double-check that he was breathing.
@shivaanand (31)
• India
30 Dec 06
dream is only dream. i think you should not take tension any more. it's just a dream .it's a human part wecan not control it. after sleeping we see it and wecant do anything only we can enjoy.
@nyka08 (403)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
i don't think having dreams that you are with another man is considered cheating. maybe your dreams isn't really implying that you are with another man..maybe it has a different meaning with what you think. besides, it's not real..you don't even an idea on who you're with. it's not like you wanted to be with another guy and cheat your husband.
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@miznewbooty (6)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Dreams are out of our control, and although its no fun to tell your man you dreamt about another man, its okay. Personally I have this belief that if you have to questioni telling your significant other something, than u need to tell them because there's a reason why you dont want to. Anytime you try to rationalize your way out of telling them something it means that you think what you did or what happend to you was wrong. I think he'll appreciate the honesty and realize how trustworthy you are that you would bring that to him. But no, its not cheating if you dont.
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@theaustinproject (99)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Your memory seems to be fairly cloudy. You had a sense they were romantic in nature... you are pretty sure the man wasn't your husband... then you are sure that nothing romantic happened. So, I am confused by your question.
Maybe you dreamed about stopping for Chinese food at the mall and there was a man in line behind you holding a gift bag from Zale's jewelery store.
It sounds to me like you may or may not remember an actual dream. My question is... Do you want to have romantic dreams about other men, provided it is OK to do so?
@zainogenius (289)
• Pakistan
30 Dec 06
no not at all well if same case with me my hubby will surely come to noe as seriously i TALK IN sleep!!!!!lolZzz and i am serious it will be a big problem if u do to!!!
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@vishal_patel (194)
• India
30 Dec 06
Don't think too much about it. What you see in your dream is reflection of your thoughts in the day. If you do want to have your husband in your dream. Think about him in day.
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@maximus2006 (835)
• Hong Kong
30 Dec 06
I should say many people have the same experience as you! So take it easy,but remember not to tell it to your husband. He will feel jealous. I know the feeling of man on that kind of dream that because I am a man.^_^! Sometimes, there are a girl in my dream,but I am sure she is not my girlfriend. I have never mentioned that to my girlfriend.
Dream is just the dream, and we can't control what we are dreaming. so just put it aside!
Have a good day!!!
@tomer_g (196)
• Israel
30 Dec 06
it is not cheating. you can't control your dreams. but the dreams are an expression to your subconscious which you can't control. maybe that man was someone you admire or love but in a different way than you love a husband.
