Spanking children.

I am a parent, with a fifteen year old daughter and a nione yeard old daughter, along with a 19 yr. old stepson, and fifteen yr. old step-daughter. Understand that I will not claim to know all, and then state I do not have children. That is about as bad as having a woman teach a Divorce class about how to treat your children, and the turn around and say she has none...(this has happened to me and I got up and walked out. First, all children are different, and must be considered so. But... There is a time to get their butts, and if you don't then authority in your own house is lost, as they see you as weak and not willing to enforce the rules you have set down. I truly despise folks who do not understand that force is needed as a loving response when discipling your children, as it sets boundaries that they are to follow or consequences are paid. Life is not fair, and any fool who teaches their children that it is; is doing them a disservice. If you steal, then aren't there consequences? If you lie, should there not be consequences? If you break the rules of my house, then should there not be consequneces? I do not advocate smacking your child anywhere but on the bottom, except in cases where the mouth overloaded the a** when back-talking, of which I will not abide, and sometimes...it doesn't hurt for a child to know what Ivory soap tastes like. New Age, IRS's religion Scientology, and other ignorant social ideologies have sapped many parents of their will to actually teach their own children right from wrong, and allow the Public School (Fool) system to supplant them as parents. I wish for this to not be so, but fear that posts such as this will continue until parents finally take control of their children once again as described in Natural law. Think about it for just one moment, please...Did your grandparents turn out so terribly bad? Food for thought. Freedomrox

I was spanked as a child and have no lingering side effects. I have an awesome relationship with both my parents. They are my heroes and I respect them completely. I can honestly say, I've always had a good relationship with my parents and have never doubted their love. As a public school teacher, I see evidence everyday of lack of proper discipline in children. That is not to say I think children should be spanked for every wrong, no way. But there are sometimes that that is exactly what they need. But never should a parent lash out in anger. If the react in anger, that's what they're teaching their child to do. I know many people who spank their children and always tell them why.

I dont believe in spanking either. When I am really angry, i might give my elder one (8yrs) a slap on his arm not more than that. But I talk to them a lot. I try to maintain good dialogue. I sometimes dont let them watch tv. anyway, generally, i hate people who spank their kids. Kids are delicate flowers, one should not abuse them. Thats what I think

I do not beleive in spanking. As parents we should be teaching our children. What are we teaching them by spanking them? Violence?

We as parents are teachers. Our children follow from example. Spanking is wrong to me, why would you physically want to hurt your child? I know others believe a swat on the butt can help but really does it? Sitting down talking to your child does wonders, no yelling or screaming but getting down to direct eye level and talking to your child to me is more appropriate. I have respect for my children as well as they have respect for me. Try timeouts, loss of privledges, toys etc.. It is much more effective to lose something they really value than to swat them and send them on their way.

My father used to beat me when i was a kid. It really took a long time for our relationship to stabilise. Don't spank your kids unless you want them to hate you for decades.

Should be avoided at any cost. This is not a desirable act and there will be lot of remorse inthe minds of children.

I do spank my children but only if talking to them and making them sit in time out doesnt work. I dont agree with spanking a child under the age of one. They do learn at a young age what will get them in trouble and what wont. They also learn what they can get a way with. Sometimes I feel a spanking is the only way I can get their attention and get them to behave.

Speaking as someone who was often ‘smacked’ as a child I don’t see any harm in it however I realise it instead often increased the anger I felt and in further antagonised the situation. It’s not something I would use heavily as a form of discipline (although it wasn’t really with me). I don’t have children although my nephews stay with me a lot, I practice a lot of ‘time-outs’ in the corner that’s for sure although I wouldn‘t think of hitting them at all..

AP, too, and we don't believe in manipulation through punishment or rewards, so not only do we not spank, but we also don't take away toys, etc. We don't let him run wild, though, far from it. We set reasonable expectations, and he generally complies because, I guess, historically, he knows it is expected. Noncompliance is dealt with in a number of ways. Generally, as he has grown older, we allow him to experience the natural consequences of his actions. If he's doing something dangerous, or harmful, we put a stop to it immediately, but without berating him or hitting him or yelling or whatever. We just remove him or remove whatever he's being dangerous with. We do count, but not the typical "Put that down right now. 1, 2, 3." that clearly implies that there is going to be swift punishment once you get to 3. We do "Let's count to 10 and when we reach 10, you need to be ready to put that back" followed, if need be, by "You need to put that back now" and then "you can put that back by yourself, or I'll help you do it." Sometimes, he really does need help - he cannot convince himself on his own to do whatever it is. I've really found that our 2 year old does really well when we're patient. He needs time to process our requests (or demands) and time to comply on his own. If given time, he's usually pretty compliant unless he has a good reason (or he's tired, then all bets are off, lol).

I so agree with you I had gotten spanked as a child and I believe that it made me nervous and panicky I also practice Attachment Parenting. THe dicipline that I pratice with my daughter is sitting down with her and explaining to her what she did wrong if that doesnt work I will count or take things away until she says she is sorry and then I ask what she is sorry about and we talk about it. KIT I would love to talk to you more.

I wasn't spanked as a child. I think if parents have self respect, clear boundaries, and are active in teaching their kids how to behave, that reactive punishments are not necessary.

I, personally, am not a "spanker". I know parents that do though. As long as it's not a young child I believe that parents know what works best. (with in reason of course). We stick to the old fashioned "corner". Hands behind our back, so there's no self ammusement, and the timer starts when he's quiet. And for serious issues- we strip his room-all toys, games, everything.

I understand that many parents feel that spanking is abusing their children, but there is a big difference between a swat on the butt and smacking them across the room. When I was young I was spanked and I don't feel as if I have been affected in any way. I do spank my 3 year old daughter if I feel it is necessary. Mainly it is when I feel she has done something that could really endanger her well being. Just for being naughty, I have found that time out on the couch works wonders. Having to sit still is probably the worst thing that could happen.

I refuse to spank my lil girl shes 2 and she is naughty sometimes but i will put her in timeout till i turn blue in the face.before i lay a hand on her.My parents spanked me and i still cower sometimes when my husband makes a quick movement..I dont wnat that to happen to her.

In my opinion and my experience spanking is not bad. to dicipline by a single smack on the behind is ok but to hit in the head or any other place other then the behind it is bordering abusive. Most the people I know who were not diciplined as children have no respect for anyone or anything. If you investigate it you will more then likely find most teenagers who have dicipline problems were not diciplined when they were younger. Most my friends who had not been diciplined at a younger age have grown up to be criminals and have little to no respect. I was spanked regularly when I was a child and have no violent tendicies and have never been arrested for any reason.