P. M. T. why all the fuss ?
By mangrove
@mangrove (122)
Australia
December 29, 2006 8:46pm CST
why is it that women can't control their PMT behaviour ? Women know that once a month this is going to happen...So why all the drama ? I'm sick and tired of women using this as an excuse for irrational actions..Do they know what affect this has on their partner and those closest to them ? It seems to me that women don't feel the best at this time so do their best to make sure all those arund them feel the same,,,or am i missing something ??????
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42 responses
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
whether the discomfort is real, imaginary or even just an excuse, PMS is a fact of women's lives. Some may not behave as others do, but it is something they have to face and contend with unlike us men. Personally, extending to them a little understanding is not too much. Anyway it is only a temporary malady or excuse as the case maybe, it doesn't last forever. That's what makes them women, they are different. Reacting negatively, my reactions may be worse than the syndrome itself, don't you agree? My thinking is, let them behave like women and let us behave like men.
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@missyann73 (1454)
• United States
30 Dec 06
What is PMT? Isnt it PMS??? Now, have you ever for once just considered that women are suffering from a medical condition?
I would love to see a man go through half of what a woman goes through!!!!!!!!!
You should help the person that has PMS, and if you know how that person is going to act a certain time of the month, be a MAN and help her out, and try to keep her stress free, and maybe offer to cook, take her out, give her a back rub, and the list goes on and on!!!
Try helping, insteading of complaining
@hassanchop (820)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Come on. Even you know that it's used as an excuse more often than it should be. Men should not start doing stuff for women who act up especially badly and treat them badly and blame it on PMS - ever heard of Pavlov's dogs? That's basically psychologically training the chicks that complaining and maltreating the guy = reward.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
30 Dec 06
My goodness, seems like you've got one foot in your mouth, and the other on shaky ground. PMS is a physiologic state of being that you must live with unless you find an island to hide on, and considering that you think its an excuse, not a medical condition, then I have little wonder or doubt as to why you feel you need to hide...so, why should a woman who does not feel her best - cater to those who are believing she's making excuses for her irrational behavior - of probably refusing to cater to you?
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Fortunately for you, you grew up around a bunch of girls. I say this because my husband grew up with 5 sisters (most of them older), and he is actually quite understanding and sensitive about the subject. If he ever said to me "Oh, you must be PMS'ing", I'd definitely give him what for!! LOL
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@karimulla_ou (161)
• India
30 Dec 06
its totally misunderstanding of yours; you should not comment like this; it is very pain full for ladies for these three days. how frequenly men will suffer from pain? hardly none; but woman has to suffer from these periodic pains, please respect the woman.
@mamabulldog60 (351)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Lets see we do something you will nevvvver do, we can bleed for 7-10 days without being cut, doesn't that sound a bit mystical to you, besides if you felt like your guts were coming out you'd cry too, oh wait hang nails make men cry, mybad LOL
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@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
30 Dec 06
Well first of all you would have to be a woman to understand what we go through. It is not all just because we want to be mean...or hurt others..or take it out on men...It can actually be a hard time...We go through bloating...pain...headaches...cramps...tiredness...you name it..and each woman is different. How they deal with this is different too. So when you say ..you are missing something...yeah...you are not a woman!
@april444 (1341)
• United States
31 Dec 06
well for starters its called pms post menstraul sytems.
And im on the depo shot I dont have a period dude, and you just already piss me off. Some men are just plain stupid so if you cant stand woman being pissed off all the time its a good clue to you to get some brains.
@ASoldiersAngel02 (633)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Clearly you are not a woman yourself. especially since you call it PMT when it is actually PMS. Maybe you should try it sometime and see what we really go through. On at least one set occasion EVERY month we have to experience a change in hormone levels which leads to alterations in our moods, our emotions, as well as our pain levels. You try dealing with the sickness, the nausea, the horribly intense cramping, the terrible back pain, the aching, the sorenes... and various other pains and ailments. You're right that we dont feel the best at this time but it is by no means our intention to make others suffer as well. That is a male judgemental stereotype. and yes we know the effect it has on our partners and others but do these same people understand the effect it has on us? As a male you will NEVER fully understand so please do not mock us for what we have to go through. Remember it was by no choice of ours.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Til men can stop acting like pigs, grow up. Be men. Maybe women will learn to control their pms behavior. For one day it would be nice to see men suffer with this, lol. Now that would be nice, then men would shut the heck up about this. Laddies don't you hate it when men are able to predict when it's here or coming, all because our moods change. Hum, If men are allowed to get in a bad mood, so can we. Men get upset because they are jealous, because we can do it better, lol.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 06
my dear friend, whenever women in P.M.T all that they need is about attention to their selves especially from the closest person. I know they having this feeling in every month and still they cant handle it very well. coz PMT related with sense, feeling, and hormone which we also know these things cant be regulate by our own selves. PMT is the sensitive time for every women, i m sure coz i also belong to them. they also know the affect of their partner in this situation but they helpless
@LittleStars (318)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I hope you mean PMS. Some women can't control it. Its hormones...uncontroable. There are also women who suffer from something called "extreme PMS" and they actually have to take medication for it every day to control it. Its not always something we use 'as an excuse' for our irational behavior. Its something we can't control. We understand that it can hurt those around us, not always something we can handle. My husband has learned that when i'm "PMS'ing" or pregnant not to push my buttons. I can be set off at the drop of a pin. PMS is not something 'we' are proud of...it just happens. Give us a break.
@ivorysterling (71)
• United States
31 Dec 06
You're definitely missing something. Women that use it as an excuse are one thing, but it's a serious thing and very real. If women have that much of a problem with it every month, they should see a doctor about it and not just use it to justify every irrational action they make. They have many treatments available, but that still doesn't give you the right, as a man who could never possibly understand, cast your opinion about as they should control themselves. Try to understand the issue first.
@classy56 (2880)
• United States
31 Dec 06
the every month thing,hurts woman cramp backaches an swell up like a up ballon.an haveing to wear protection is not fun. an pms effects every woman diffrent some goes heavy an some dont.an some may have serious promblems.so dont judge women until you walk a mile in their shoes.
@bimmer999 (1158)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
yeah its just an excuse..
they can control their emotions and behavior
perhaps its a way of letting out or something
cheers!