Is money is enough 2 lead a peaceful life...???
By sherinmac
@sherinmac (3)
India
December 30, 2006 1:46am CST
As m a women of 21,residing at b'lore. i recently got married.m hubby is a software eng workin in a wel known comp..he is so dedicated in his work.. he hardly spends time @ home with me..as v r financialy strong there is no requirement of workin so n so hard.... i keep askin him is money alone is enough witout peace n happiness,but he nvr listens 2 me... he says work is worship n keep himself busy for 24 hrs... i really get pissed off wit his quality..but i love him more than anyting even though i fight i cant overlook him...i don knw wat 2 do...???
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93 responses
@prasad1961 (5597)
• India
30 Dec 06
Self discipline is when your conscience tells you to do something and you don't talk back. He is such a man with lots of discipline. He is to be get controlled very amicably, otherwise her problem may increase to untolerate proportions.
@rameshgopal365 (918)
• India
30 Dec 06
Money is required to lead a sophisticated life but to be in a family it is our duty to satisfy our dependants in all ways.
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
30 Dec 06
U must make him understand that u need him more than u need the money. Just tell him that no one will take his place. He is obliged to apportion u quality time as husband.
@achyuta (2851)
• United States
30 Dec 06
It is understandable I would say. In this day and age it is not easy to keep oneself detached from work. Generally it is we the women who are more materialistic. So we normally push our husbands for things. But your case seems to be different. I would say try to be loving and understanding and he will come around. These things happen more in early part of marriage when we are still figuring out things about us and each other. Be patient. Good luck.
@sweetrascal_85 (26)
• India
30 Dec 06
at 21 a married gal would expect more care frm her husband...its her husband who should understand...
@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
money is not everything, money cannot buy love, care and affection,,,
by being so workaholic, he forget the best thing in this world, a loving arms of a dear wife, akiss of a passionate wife and the hug of a dear one...
i hope he wont miss that someday, when he is old and gray, have so much money, but no family beside him...
@sweetrascal_85 (26)
• India
30 Dec 06
u r wrong...he may not b money minded...
he has 2 just understand her expectation
@chaitrakrishnan (181)
• India
30 Dec 06
Yes i agree with you money is not everything in life.. here you are missing one thing your husband he's not saying only money but he's doing his job sincerely. So he's not working only for money, he may have long term goals and some goals where he is using his job as an initiative. so its not correct to just think like that he's working only for money...
And you are saying that you dont have financial problems but still your husband is working hard so please try to recognize your husbands goals and this mindset. And its the job of the wife to encourage him but you are just talking non sense about his hardwork. so please try to discuss about this with your husband
@sweetrascal_85 (26)
• India
30 Dec 06
ur suggestion is fine..they both have 2 sit together n discus...hope a s/w engg would understand her problem
@geethasanumuri (139)
• India
30 Dec 06
money is not needed to lead a peaceful life .ur husband is not concerting about earning money he is concerting about the duty he is sincere at his job ur opinion is wrong money can solve some problems that to only financial problems it doesn't bring happiness when u r alone( all are left).u've to understand the problem of ur husband
@sweetrascal_85 (26)
• India
30 Dec 06
u r cent percent right...
but a noramal house wife's expectation should also b satisfied
@johar_deepti (797)
• India
3 Jan 07
try to indulge yourself in some work that why dont get bored. dont expect to much form your hubby. make some good friends go out with them for shopping or go for watching movie or do what u like. u have the money then spend it. or u can also join some social helpers as volounters. i hope this may help u.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
31 Dec 06
definitely not... money alone can't buy love and satisfaction that we need to lead a peaceful life... more importantly, we can't trade money for a faithful, caring, nice and dedicated partner to share our life with...
@froogle (775)
•
30 Dec 06
money obviously cant buy peace n happiness . am also a software engineer. but i really dont care abt my work. i work only for 3-4 hrs a day. i am tellin this from my experience. a software engineers job is not so strenous as it seems to be. if your husband keeps his mind, he can finish his work in 4-5 hrs a day. he spends half the time checkin mails n all n stuff n then sits late nite to complete his work i think.
@mridig (202)
• India
6 Jan 07
Hearing Problem
Load Concerned husband goes to see the family doctor and says, "I think my wife is deaf because she never hears me the first time I say something, in fact, I often have to repeat things over and over again."
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Still no reply. He gets fed up and moves right behind her, about an inch away, and asks again, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
She replies, "For the fourth time, vegetable stew!"
@aaku5467 (22)
• India
31 Dec 06
u said u r age is 21.i think u r hubby age is 23 or 24.at this age any one desires to earn more money .that is nature of men of his age.but money is not enough to lead a peaceful life.u only have to adjust with him.u only have to adjust with situation and say to him we spend atleast sunday together
@onlyme123 (124)
• United States
31 Dec 06
If you're sad, how can you lead a peaceful life? All the money won't make a difference. Does your husband see your sadness and loneliness? If he still does not respond, you'll need to find something to do that you enjoy during the day to keep your mind occupied. Do you have hobbies you can do? Does your husband have hobbies that you can learn to participate in, so both of you can do it together?
@mridig (202)
• India
6 Jan 07
Man With An Earring
Load A man is at work one day when he notices that his co-worker is wearing an earring.
This man knows his co-worker to be a normally conservative fellow, and is curious about his sudden change in "fashion sense." The man walks up to him and says, "I didn't know you were into earrings."
"Don't make such a big deal, it's only an earring," he replies sheepishly.
His friend falls silent for a few minutes, but then his curiosity prods him to say, "So, how long have you been wearing one?"
"Ever since my wife found it in my truck!"
@lulylove (1560)
• Brazil
31 Dec 06
Dineheiro is not everything in the life of a person. I think that it provides some good chances, but still thus exist muitascoisas that the money cannot buy and the love is one of them. But if it does not desire to be happy, he is rich and it uses to advantage its sadness.
@Khangura (924)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
Don't Let Money Lead You Down the Wrong Career Path
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Slippery Salaries
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Your Interests?
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Your Abilities and Skills?
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Your Values?
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Your Personality?
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Consider the long-term implications of your career choices. Selecting a career based solely on the promise of big money now may be a short-term decision that can lead to a lengthy and costly career change later.
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@rajiv_de_champ (70)
• India
31 Dec 06
yeah! of course i agree with you! itz all about money ,honey! i mean yeah we need money for everything! now we can define life to money! we need money for everyting! even to lead a peaceful life! we need money!
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
31 Dec 06
You r in a hard situation it is nice to have money but nicer to have time with your spouse. Seems he has made his work his whole life. I would ask him to go to counseling with you so that he can see that it hurts u and u need him. Good luck
@bimmer999 (1158)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
no i dont think money is enough..
money is not everything you know
you cannot buy friends or family
cheers