What should i do for son who wanted to runaway?

The hardest part in communication is listening. You may hear, but do you really listen? A child who 'runs from home' may not be running but crying out for love. Or may be seeking to understand without seeing the opportunity to do so. On the other hand a parent may not be offering the opportunity for understanding to occur. The speaking part of communication both sexes can do just about equally. It is the hearing part that women generally do better at, because of the left brain vs right brain. Everyone needs places and people to vent to, including our children. Mostly what we all want is an attentive ear, with few words contributed.

This is a hard one if your hubby has a hard time communicating, both have to sit down and try to talk out problems. I would ask your son to talk to your hubby his dad when he is not busy or watching TV and try to talk to him. With out them communicating it will only get worse

Maybe try to get your husband to sit down and talk to your son and tell him that hes not rreally good at communicating but he does love him no matter what happens.

As far as what to do when the kid ran away, I think that you did the correct thing. Just follow him and make sure he is safe. Eventually he will turn around and be ready to go home. He just needed some time by himself. Son and dad need to have a good talking... it may take some time, hopefully it will be soon. Perhaps dad needs some sort of counciling to learn how to show and communicate his feelings.

Would the father go to family counseling ? They might could help them both talk to one another also be some one out side the family the son could talk to alot of times that helps .I think you need to at least look into counseling for the son even if the father won't go .

I would suggest sitting down and trying to talk with each of them by themselves and then together. Another thing I would suggest is setting up someplace where your son can go, so that when he gets that upset or frustrated he doesn't have to sit right there. I know for my niece if it gets that tense she can go to grandma's for a while. It can help for both her and her mother to calm down if the situation has risen that high. It's rare but anytime you have family together they have a tendency to push each others buttons.

Most men don't know how to talk to children as well as women do. I think you did just what your son wanted you to do. You got upset, you went after him, you begged him to return, and no one yelled at him. Will he try it again? Probably. What a lot of positive attention and warm fuzzies. I would suggest that if he tries this again, just let him go. Help him pack. He'll be back, and he'll realize that this isn't a viable way to handle a problem. In the meantime, talk to him about better ways the situation could have been handled. Kids will push every button you've got, and it's up to you not to let them do it.

Yes, please talk to your son, let him know that you are always there for him (as a listening ear, not to undermine your husband) - and tell him to come to you, this way he will know you care about his feelings (not just generic mom love, but specificly caring about his feelings) and in the future, he will always know he can come to you. It will be a blessing for everyone.

Kill him, no kidding, Oh ho. Put the knife down, i was just kidding. Dont be rash now.

Do you really want to chance creating a power struggle between yourself and your husband? Kids grow up and move away. Your husband is supposed to stay. YOu didn't say how old your son is. Most people let the child go for that little walk. They usually com back when they are ready. If not they usually find a friend to go to. YOu need to get a plan that can be followed so that your son can get away when he needs to. He cannot feel that he can play one parent off the other, which is more likely to happen if you tell your son that when he hs tired of dad, he can come to you. If you find the "getting away" not acceptable becauces it meams his leaving the house, then he should be able to go to his bedroom to chill. Talk to your HUSBAND about that arrangement first. If you find it to be th only acceptable alternative then you TELL THE HUSBAND THAT IS WHAT WILL HAPPEN. No arguments. This is something that has to be settled before it happens again. It will be better for you to put both husband and some on the same level with you setting the ground rules, than you telling the son he can come to you, etc. Good luck!

Hi....i can understand your problem....dont worry everything goes fine....the best way,according to me,to sort out this problem is that you have to take sometime for your child.....sit and talk with him whatever happens in his life,share his problems...i can say this would certainly help you out..... you ask his father even to talk with his son and spend time with him...i think this would certainly help you people....all the best...hope your relation gets better....

I'm not sure how old your son is, but walking 10 miles -- I'm assuming around 15. AS a family you need to be able to communicate. IF you son gets frustrated he needs somewhere he can go to calm down -- it could be an aunts, his bedroom with music on. . .You husband needs to learn to communicate, if he can't communicate with his son- what ways does he communicate with you. Have weekly family discussions to bring the family together.

Tell him that he needs to stay because he still needs you, his life would be easier if he stays with you than go on the streets and he can go if he have his own resources.. Whenever i think about running away i always think like that so that i would stay.. it really helps me a lot not to run away

My daughter did the same thing when she was 17, except she and I got in a fuss. She used that as an excuse to leave home. She staeyed gone all night and we didn't know where she was at. I was so upset and so angry but by the time she came home the next day I had suffered and worried so much the night before that I was just glad to see her when she did come back home, so I hugged her. It was later that the anger came back cause we didn't raise her to do us like that. Anyway, I told her in no uncertain terms that she would NEVER do that again and if she did for her to plan on finding somewhere else to live. I told her running away everytime she doesn't like something or get's mad is very imature and if she wanted us to treat her like an adult then to act like one. I don't know how old your son is but you really need to tell him that running away is no solution and you will not tolerate it. You should tell him this because it is so dangerous out there walking and being alone. So many bad things can happen and it is a very bad thing to do. You are very lucky, as we were, that something bad didn't happen to him while he was out walking. I have tried to tell all my kids, talk things out, do not run away from stuff. As for hubby, mine doesn't know how to communicate with the kids either. Tell your son that you will listen to him anytinme he needs to talk and assure him his dad does love him but just doesn't know how to show it. And talk to your hubby about trying to show him more love. I have talked to mine about that. Good luck.

I wish to give you right solution. There are number of solutions for the problems of this like. If you give me your family background,your and your huby's tolerance level and sacrifice level to live together,financial background and financial strength, the cultural background of you and your huby, your son's age , I can give you some real lasting solution.

If mother and father are still married, then you need to help him clear the air with his father. Otherwise, you will be forced to take sides. If mother and son do not live with the father, then you can focus on helping the son understand his father and deal with his own anger. Running away really won't help him.

You need to speak to your husband about his communication problem and tell your kids that you will be there whenever they need you, re-assure your husband that he will need to work on his communication problem as it could split up your family and you dont want to be the one stuck in the middle. good luck.

how old is ur son ,mam?i dont know how to adivice u without knowing his age.Different age need different type/way of conversation.

Been there... not only with my children but myself included. I take it your son is a teenager probably around 16/17? Whatever his age it is important that he and his father sit and have an open hearted intellectual discussion. If that means you have to be the referee! Sometimes people say things that don't come out right to another person. If you are there to 'interpret' maybe they can get through to each other and go forward. DO NOT let it go any further with out trying! Things like that build up and up and it will happen again. If the talking doesn't work try making them write a letter to each other explaining thier reasons, dislikes, likes and so forth. Maybe reading this will help each see where the other is coming from. I wish the best to you!LOL;)

This happens in every home where communication is not there.I think u must build a bridge between that gap. U must explain to ur husband that it is not a good way to talk to son and also what if the son runs away from home.And u must also talk to ur son that he knows his father and his father also cares for him but don't express it.So be the bridge.