gay marriage
By riverchase
@riverchase (1)
United States
December 30, 2006 8:47pm CST
Ok..why is gay marriage such a huge issue? I don't understand why to be honest. I mean couples who are in love should have the right to share thier lives together and get all benefits that marriage offers. There was a gay couple that was together for 20 something years. When one died he left everything to his partner. A huge estate, couple of homes. The family of the one that pastway took his partner to court and the court award the family everything based on the fact that they were not considered a "married" couple...he was just a friend. How would it feel if something like this happened to you? The home you lived in for the past 20 years was taken away from you, the one you loved with all your heart has pastaway, and cause your gay and don't have the rights as straight couples due you lose everything. It would be hard enough to deal with the lose of the one you spent your entire life with but to also have everything else you two had shared and built taken away as well. Please think about it from a stand point of a human being with feelings and compassion for one another. Look at it as if you were the one this happened to. It is always better to look at it from another person's point of viewas if you were in thier shoes!
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@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I personally don't agree with homosexuality because I am a Christian, but I have nothing against any of them. I would befriend them and never hold it against them, afterall, everyone sins, none of us are perfect. I think that it should be their choice to get married and have the same rights as everyone else, even though the lifestyle isn't for me, I don't think that gives me the right to take away their freedoms.
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
31 Dec 06
That makes me so happy to hear a Christian say they aren't judging someone. You are a true Christian. Thank you for helping to renew my faith a bit.
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@smbilalshah (1316)
• Pakistan
31 Dec 06
i think legalizing gay marriages just promotes this menace coz there is no freedom of choice in religion whats forbidden is forbidden if religion was so open to what ever u wanna do n think abt it then wat was the need of sending it to the world in the first place, by conducting these marriages in church its like u accuse God for this menace
@carolynpb (647)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I am a Christain too but I do not believe in gay marriages or same sexes being together. I feel this way because the Bible planly speaks agaisnt that kind of lifestyle. That doesn't mean I don't love their souls I do but I don't love their lifestyles. I don't have anything agaisnt them either. I care for whether they go to heaven or hell when they die.
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@angel_manders (912)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
i agree i think it should not matter who it is that want to get married if they are in love then they should be able to get married. no matter if its two guys or two girls they should have the right to get married just like a man and a women have the right...
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@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
31 Dec 06
First of all, regardless of the relationship between the men I think that sucks. If my friend, for example, left everything to me in his will, I believe it should belong to me and the courts shouldn't have a say! Regardless of the fact that these two were partners, the family should not have gotten the home.
Anyway, although I don't see how a man could love a man or a woman love a woman, I know some say they do and if they wanted to get married, well I could care less. Go for it. I really don't see what effect that has on ME so I don't understand why there's all the fighting about this.
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@MntlWard (878)
• United States
31 Dec 06
In my opinion, the government shouldn't be in the marriage business in the first place. They should offer civil unions to all adult couples that want one.
Marriage is a religious practice. In fact, gay couples get married in churches all the time. Of course, they're not getting married in churches that condemn them, but not all churches do that.
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@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Marriage was around way before it had religious connotations. Marriage started as a way to make sure a man's lands and properties were going to his own offspring. It was a governmental practice long before it was a religious practice.
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@cajundharma (641)
• United States
1 Jan 07
Amen! You summed up my feeling exactly. The government can't create a marriage; that's between people and their higher power. "Civil marriage" is just bestowing some divine ordinance on something that is really nothing more than a legal contract, which all consenting adults should have the right to do.
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@MntlWard (878)
• United States
1 Jan 07
misskatonic: That very well may be the history. I haven't actually done research on that topic.
However, the current usage of the word is in a religious context, at least that's how I hear it when people are arguing *against* gay marriage.
For example: Gays are being accused of destroying its "sanctity." "It's a holy union between a man and a woman," they say.
Whatever the semantics, my argument still stands. Thanks for the history lesson, though. ;-)
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think over the years there has been more data to support the theory that homosexuality is unchangable. Due to the fact that most anti-gay laws are based upon biblical scripture, I believe denying gays the right to marry, constitutes a seperation of Church and State issue and should be thrown away. This is about equal rights, not special privilages. Gays should not be put to the status of second class citizens. And for all of you who claim the "traditional marraige" is better, consider this: marraige in ancient times was for money and property. For love, people took lovers. We have only recently entered an age where we could choose our spouse based upon emotion. I for one wouldn't want a "traditional marraige.
@vinu123 (224)
• India
31 Dec 06
YA i think according to me in today's time the world has accepted GAy Relationships, so nobody should have a problem with that.
think about it from a stand point of a human being with feelings and compassion for one another. Look at it as if you were the one this happened to. It is always better to look at it from another person's point of viewas if you were in thier shoes!
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@thisisrightnow (537)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I don't think there's anyone wrong with gays or lesbians who want to marry, as long as they're happy. I think people in general are threatened by what they're not familiar with.
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@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Right on, man! All we want is the same rights of inheritance, custody and medical judgment. That's it. No one's asking for secular marriage, just governmental marriage. I don't see why people think that's such a big deal. It doesn't effect them. Did you know that if a gay person has no family, their medical decisions are left to a *hospital court appointed lawyer* rather than their life long partner? That's insane.
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@Goranimal (315)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Gay or straight everyone has the right to be miserable if they choose so
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@cowboyzfan (718)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I don't care what anyone says...Gay marriage is totally wrong!
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@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Why? All that anyone is asking for is governmental marriage rights, not secular marriages. It's about being afforded basic human rights, nothing more.
@smbilalshah (1316)
• Pakistan
31 Dec 06
totally agree with u folks i regard it as a menace.Acctually the legalising of this just shows how secular minded these capitalists who run the US are, they dont care a thing abt religion all they want is money and government
@fxysxysrkly (619)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think that the only reason is that when you think about it. When a man and another man get married it puts a tight on not having spawn. Meaning there is not futher generations to come. There is direct statment in the bible on this factor. I think that homosexuality is great and I don't judge upon it but not the marriage part.
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@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Really. Does this mean God does not favor me because I am barren and all my boys are step-children?
@prasad1961 (5597)
• India
31 Dec 06
There is a large body of evidence that traditional marriage is good for society. Statistical analyses repeatedly demonstrate that people in stable, traditional marriages live healthier lives, have better jobs, better educated and more stable children and provide a long list of other benefits to society (compared to people not in traditional marriages). The only reason for government to recognize marriages at all is because of the clear benefit to the state and the civilization in promoting the institution.
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@Celestialvie (679)
• United States
31 Dec 06
they are just making an issue out of it since some people cannot accept gay marriages. however, i believe nothing is wrong with it and that gays shouldn't be treated differently. there are also countries wherein gay marriages aren't accepted.
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I hear ya.
I can't understand why people think other people's lives are their business. If gay people want to have the same legal rights with their partners as straight couples, wtf is it to other people? None of their business, that's what.
The day someone else decides what I do with my life as a straight married woman, that's the day all hell will break loose. To each his own. Live and let live.
If people would worry about their own business and leave other people alone, maybe there wouldn't be so much fighting in the world.
Thanks for bringing that up. Individual rights and people messing with them really get me fired up.
Go, Gay People (for lack of a better term), go forth and love one another. You have my blessing.
Love will always overrule hate, no matter what judgemental people think.
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@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
31 Dec 06
Let's see how much into your own argument you really are...
Should siblings who are in love be able to marry?
Should someone who is already married, but in love with another person, be able to marry them without divorcing?
Should kids, who are in love, be able to marry?
Should adults and kids, who are in love, be able to marry?
Should bisexuals be able to marry a male and a female at the same time?
If you answered "No" to any of these, then your "couples who are in love should have the right to share their lives together and get all the benefits that marriage offers" argument doesn't hold water, since you yourself don't believe it.
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
31 Dec 06
1) If they've been sterilized. The main issue with sibling relationships is the genetic problems with children of that union. As long as there can be no children from the pairing, there's no argument against it other than moral.
2) If everyone in the relationship agrees and is happy with the arrangement. Polyamorous relationships work out wonderfully for some people.
3) Children don't fall under this argument, as it's clearly referring to consenting, legal adults.
4) Again, if all members of the relationship agree and are happy with the arrangement.
You don't know how the OP is going to respond to your question, so don't say the argument 'holds no water'. The main point is that there are no *legal* or *Logical* reasons to deny gay people marriage rights.
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@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
1 Jan 07
Ah, so you both are insisting that you should be able to set limits to who should and shouldn't be able to marry... but no one else should. I see. How "enlightened" of you.
@becauseidontknow (52)
• United States
1 Jan 07
Absolutely......they have right to live the way they want.We do not have any right to keep people away from their preferences.Just imagine if the law prohibited marriages across races...that sounds so foolish...objecting gay marriages is as stupid as above
