Help shes afraid I'll be too fat for her wedding

Well she doesn't seem to be the best of friends after all if thats all she can do. I know that a wedding day is special to the bride (and groom) and they want everyone to look their best, but I would feel insulted if this had happened to me and would seriously be considering my options. When I was married last year, we had some photos taken after the ceremony. I normally wear eyeglasses, have done since I was 5 years old, but the photographer asked me to take them off for a series of about 6 pictures. When we got the proofs through both my wifw and I said that no-one else was to see those pictures as they were not me, that is not what people are used to seeing. I feel that your friend is trying to change you into something that you are not and that may make you feel uncomfortable. I hope you manage to resolve your differences.

She sounds like a bridezilla. Stand up for yourself and say, "I thought you liked me for me. If you're gonna give me a hard time for being fat than I don't want to represent you in your wedding!" I mean say it how ever you want but be forceful and mean what you say so she knows she is being selfish, thoughtless and shallow. I would have been all like, "Excuse me?" and dropped out immediately.

If you are the same size you are now thne she knew what your size was. She should not be riding you to slim down. I was in my friends wedding and she said nothing to me about slimming down. I'm 6'2" and about 375. I was honered top be in her wedding and all my friends weddings. Besides it's not how people look on that day it's what is happening.

That's not very nice on her part. Have you tried talking to her about the way she acting and treating you? Maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing? If talking to her doesn't get you anywhere then maybe you shouldn't be in the wedding? Sounds like her words are creating some hard feelings on your part. That's never good for a friendship. Hope you can get it worked out?

I think what your friend is doing is very offensive.If she asked you to be part of the bridal party it should have been done sincerly.She should accept you for who you are not what you look like.The way it sounds is that she wants a certain image for her wedding day.I would tell her nicely how you feel.To be honest if it was me and she would keep asking me about my weight i wouldnt want to be included that day.I would say find another bridesmaid.

I'm sorry, babystar... your friend doesn't seem to be much of a friend. She seems a lot more concerned about controlling every detail of the wedding, including what you are allowed to EAT? Your diet goals?! They, if you have them, are YOUR business, NOT hers. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where one of the other bridesmaids was pregnant. The bride was making the dresses for all her attendants and she had to keep making and re-making the dress for the pregnant lady. At one point, she mentioned to me in passing that she "could not believe" that this girl "chose to get pregnant before my wedding is over." I just stared at her with my mouth open. Was the girl should put her entire life on hold because someone else was getting married? Being pregnant didn't affect her ability to share in her friend's special day. The dress situation was difficult, yes, but the pregnant girl had offered to buy her own dress closer to the wedding date so it would fit. The bride refused because that wasn't good enough for her and she insisted that the dresses had to be identical and not just the same color. I always thought the PEOPLE standing at your side on your wedding day should mean much more than the CLOTHING.

She shouldn't worry about your weight. Good gosh. If you are her friend it should be enough that you accepted her offer to be in her wedding. If she continues to ride you about your weight, you should consider backing out. It is insulting of her that she asks you to lose weight. That is not true friendship.

that's so sad....you should ask her outright on this, the next time she ask you about your diet goals...if she say yes, she's afraid you'll be too fat...then turn down the invitation to be her bridesmaid. dont let yourself go through that torture! Good Luck!

I would never ask my friend anything about her weight nor ask her to lose any because I want her thinner for my wedding. I love my friend's exactly like they are, I would not care about her weight unless she had a problem with it and wanted some help. Tell her, that if she has a problem with your weight, then you won't come out in her wedding. But make sure you tell her, how you feel about her suggesting you go on a diet.

Wow... Wh ythe hell she asked you to be in her wedding like thay!!? ¬.¬ Bad girl...(her, not you :P) well just tell her: "If you want me to be in your wedding i will be like this, if you dont like me to then go search for another person and next time think what you are doing." Thats it.

yea i dont think she should be after you about it, but maybe she is just trying to tell you that she dont want you in her wedding casue your not perfect and thats not right. i wouldnt ever loose weight cause someone wanted me to id do it for myself

She should never interfere with your weight, being a bridesmaid doesn't cover anything about weight, it's about helping your friend in preparing up her wedding. If she can't accept your weight as it is, you can tell her that you quit and she should find someone who really fits in her "size" criteria to save both of you the heartache. Though I'm sure she's just worried about the wedding.

you are right on the button. When I was in a wedding a few years ago we ordered the bridesmaids dresses in and I gained weight after they where ordered due to medications (steriods). The bride did not hassle me. It was even touch and go if they were going to be able to make this dress fit me. They ended up using the sash that went with the dress. So that ment no one had a sash because we had to be the same. I felt bad but the bride never made me feel bad or singled me out.

Your friend should like you for who you are and not what you look like. I would be upfront with the friend and tell her that you can't meet the goals of weight loss just because she says so and that she's your friend regardless of size and you hope she feels the same way. It shouldn't matter to her.....

yes you are and if she dont like it you need a new friend. My Maid of honor put on weight and I was like so what lets just find a dress in your size and its all good:)

Babystar: In my first wedding my maid of honour was way over 250 lbs. She was BEAUTIFUL. I don't pick my friends because of their looks. I am fat, too. My husband loves me anyway. Your friends who really love you are going to love you no matter what. If she didn't want you the way you are, she doesn't want you at all. I am glad, as I read in your topic earlier, that you decided not to be in the wedding. You're a winner.

I can understand that she want the wedding to be perfect and for everyone to look their best - butif she truly is your friend then your size would not matter to her. You say you wanna loose some pounds, but you should do it for you - not for her!!! Good luck with the wedding!

Step 1 Once you reach target, add 250 calories a day to your existing daily calorie intake. This means if you’ve been having 1,250 calories each day, you should now have 1,500 calories a day. Step 2 After a week, weigh yourself on your usual scales. You’ll probably have lost a little more weight. If so, add another 250 calories to last week’s daily allowance. So, if you were having 1,500 calories a day, now have 1,750 calories daily. Step 3 After a week, weigh yourself again. If you’ve lost more weight, add an extra 250 calories to your daily intake, for example from 1,750 calories to 2,000 calories each day. Step 4 After a week, if your weight has stabilised that’s the amount of calories you need each day to keep your new slim shape. If you’ve gained a tiny amount, drop your daily calorie intake by 100 calories, for example, from 2,000 calories to 1,900 calories daily. After a week, weigh yourself again. If your weight has stayed the same, that’s the amount of calories you need each day for weight maintenance. If your weight has gone up or down, juggle your daily calorie intake by 50 calories a day until your weight eventually stabilises. Step 5 Weigh yourself once a week on your usual scales until you are confident that you’re maintaining your healthy weight.

Look, if you gained your weight a couple of years ago then you were the size you are now when she asked you to be in the wedding, that is unless she's been planning her wedding for several years. She knew when she asked you that you were who you where that you were the size you are, if not the size numbers. If I were you, I would ask her over for lunch, or out to lunch, whichever you prefer and sit down and have a heart to heart with her about how you feel about the way she's treating you. Tell her that you understand that it's her day, but her being able to run the show on her day does not extend priveledges over you life and that if she truly has a problem with your size then perhaps she should find someone else that would be fit what she is envisioning for her wedding. Tell her that you'll understand if she feels like she has to do this, but you really would love to be in the wedding, but that you can only do it as you are. Not to come off too crass, but hopefully your friend doesn't have to head too far up her wazoo to realize what she's doing to you. Good luck!

Are u really friends? Well if ur then there are things u shd have asked her and adjusted for. Ask jovially what ever u feel inside of u, if she is still stern abt, won't u lose a few for ur friend. Try to analyze what put this thought in her mind maybe it came from her hubby. Maybe she wants to portray her friend to the best to others at the wedding. There thing that are too be kept open with friendship get to know here better and decide if she is jus bossing u arnd or it was for special reason or she will like u there with that extra fat on and move accordingly.