I need advice about my friendship

@jen20619 (1300)
Ireland
January 1, 2007 12:42pm CST
I have been friends with this girl for over a year.We have a laugh together when we are out .But at end of night if she has not met a guy like I have she gets realy nasty and turns on me She has done this a few times and even infront of the guy I am with.She is a nice person when shes not drinking.Im thinking about stopping the friendship with her.Do you think I should?
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29 responses
• Canada
1 Jan 07
Maybe not stop the friendship, but explain to her how that has to stop. Tell her the truth. You said she's not nice when she's drinking, tell her that.
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@rhorry93 (164)
• United States
1 Jan 07
Well why is it she isn't getting guys? Maybe you could give her some pointers or even help her snag a guy while you guys are out.
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• India
3 Jan 07
I don think that friendship is meant to be stopped... C ur Fren has got the X-factor Jealousy... If she doesn't bring it down as time goes by then if u still want ur friend .. then party alone with her... Party with ur Guy when she isn't around ... Friendship & Love are two different paths never bring them together u'll lose sumtin valuable ... Think b4 u do.. have Fun...
@nehaaaa (1748)
• India
23 Mar 07
i dont think so you shud stop talking to her..rather den dat talk to her y is dis happening to dis..i think her expectation level is too high..sit n talk to her ...n try to find out solution to dis probm rather den running out
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Yeah, stop making friend with her. A friend in need is a friend indeed. So many other girls out there you can make friend with.
@webbuff (926)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
well you should sit down and talk about her behavior. Its not that serious thou but having this behavior all the time will result to fighting.. my recommendation is for you to go out have a coffee kind of nightout instead of going to bar/clubs etc... and observe her behavior.. reply back what happen. Goodluck
@emarie (5442)
• United States
2 Jan 07
well, some people do get nasty when they drink. its probably that. she may not be that appealing while drunk. its not something you should end the friendship over. i mean, its just a guy. i agree you should help her and giver her pointers. does she remember going off on you like that?? in any case, she could just not know how to meet guys, or maybe thats just not the right place for her to meet guys. i'm not a big fan of meeting guys in clubs because of the 'type' of guys that are there. there are many other places to meet men.
@tanaclark (570)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I think true friends would never do that to you no matter whether they are drinking or not. If she is your friend and you want to keep her then sit her down and tell her what she is doing and how it is making you feel. If she doesnt stop then you should dumop her as afriend.
@kareng (59186)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I think you should talk to her and explain what is happening. If she is drinking too much, chances are she doesn't realize how she gets. Be gentle and talk to her and express your feelings of concern. Tell her you don't enjoy going out with her when this happens and you won't continue if she doesn't stop it. Give her the chance to alter her behavior, if she doesn't then find someone else to hang out with and have fun!
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
It is not a valid reason to have your friendship stopped. You as a friend has the obligation to give advice whenever you see something that you don't like about her. Please do tell that to her in a manner that she will understand. It may sound difficult for your part but actually its not. Friendship is tested everynow and then so prove to her that you are really worth being a friend. And also don't allow her to drink too much. Too much is not good, please tell her to drink moderately or else she will get loose and out of control that she might do something that she must not. Please do evreything as a friend and that would even make an even deeper relationship with her. Thank you for posting a relevant discussion!
@neeraj05 (211)
• India
2 Jan 07
U SHOULD TRY TO MAKE HER GO ON A PROPER WAY
@hurri03 (40)
• Romania
2 Jan 07
I think that you should talk with her about her behaviour and try to find out what's going on.You can't understand her untill you ask her why is she so nasty sometimes...my opinion..
2 Jan 07
Is she expecting to pick up guys too? Maybe she's mad because she wasnts to go hang out with you and you keep picking up guys. I know there were times (before I got married) that my friends and I would go out and it was a "no guys" night.
@tiggyann (614)
• United States
2 Jan 07
hunny, that is no friend! A True friend would not treat you like that! krissy
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Honestly you should have a talk with her and let her know how you feel. She may not know how to get a guy. Offer tips and pointers to her you never know.
• United States
2 Jan 07
Maybe you could make a point to go out as freinds.. and it be a girls night out.. not looking for guys.. just " the girls" so there is no " competition" you know? but if she's just a jealous person she may just find something out to freak out about..
• United States
2 Jan 07
Or at least step away and not go out with her so much, there is no way you can reason with someone like this since she changes so much when she drinks, just move on and don't party with her as much and you will live a better life without all this drama
@snakeyes (569)
• India
2 Jan 07
Well i think she is doing so only because of the fact that she is not getting a guy,maybe you can help her by giving her some valuable tips about how to get a guy coz this is not the currect way to get over a friend.
@Syphon (286)
• Germany
2 Jan 07
Well, this is normally. She is just envious. Probably she needs someone but she can't find him and when she look how is your situation she can't bear it. I don't wanna say now that you should quite your friendship with her. Help her with her problem. She needs it. Don't let her go with this problem. Or maybe it's not a problem....maybe just a reaction because she can't grant it you...People can be sometimes cruel and you know that you don't know what she is thinking now in her head in such a situation......So if she means you something help her. If you don't mean it seriously leave her. Maybe she will see it herself what she done and she will come back to you and apologise you then........Make your choice girl:)
• India
2 Jan 07
Talk to her. Talk to her straight forward. That is the best way to solve it. If you really think you are better off with out her, than do so. If you don't like her than why not? Tell her that her behavior is not pleasant and you do not wish to be friends with her. Let me tell you a few things about psycology, try looking into it mabey. personality psycology is a branch of psychology which studies personality and individual differences. One emphasis in this area is to construct a coherent picture of a person and his or her major psychological processes. Another emphasis views personality as the study of individual differences, in other words, how people differ from each other. A third area of emphasis examines human nature and how all people are similar to one other. These three viewpoints merge together in the study of personality.