compensation for the wife???????
By manong05
@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
January 1, 2007 8:56pm CST
years back there was a proposal to pass a bill in congress that wives should receive compensation from the government for doing household jobs. cleaning the house, cooking, laundry, looking after the children,(feeding,dicipline, bathing, tutoring) them clean the backyard, shopping etc. etc. etc. Many are taking these jobs for granted but they are willing to pay people to be domestic househelps realizing the awesome nature of the job. Any sense to this idea or it is totally wrong because that's part of being a wife. A labor of love. Or maybe just a good thing to think about for now.
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@satyamss (870)
• India
2 Jan 07
No, this is totally a wrong idea...its not good! it will force women to live in the same condition as they are...u can't expect good from this law, according this idea ..female are made only for these things....so its a rubbish! and wat else an illitrate politician can think!
very good discussion...rated +
@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Well, I'm not sure about government compensation. Being a stay at home parent should be a labor of love. I'm afraid if there was government compensation you would get people choosing to stay home for the assistance and not the welfare of the children.
I do think that there should be recognition for the hard work stay at home parents do. And the skills learned and used being a stay at home parent. It is not easy and it takes a lot of patience and organization skills. I think skills learned and used being a stay at home parent are important for any job you choose to get.
I actually had persepctive employers laugh at me because I put being a stay at home parent on my resume. They thought it was a joke. It's not. I wish overall there would be more respect professionally for stay at home parents.
Maybe instead of assistance they could instigate some sort of tax break or something along that lines. Something that isn't regualrly tangible but would show the respect and keep the ones who want to do it for the wrong reasons at bay.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I totally agree. I stay at home with our son and I love being able to stay home with him. I do wish we would get more respect from people because we work hard just like others that are out there working an outside job.
@Clairec23 (136)
• Ireland
2 Jan 07
There are family allowances here for single-income families. This means that one parent can stay at home without the family struggling. Rent can be too high for a single income but having two parents at work means that childcare needs to be covered. A lot of families here consist of the mother living with the child claiming benefits because both parents cannot afford to live together. High rent and childcare costs mean that a lot of families are struggling to get by. I think the family allowances are a great idea and they are meant to encourage families to stay together which would probably be cheaper for the Government than paying full benefits.
@krizz420 (4385)
• Canada
2 Jan 07
Actually growing up I new a guy whos parents did this. His dad had a really good job at the Canadian Mint (making money) and his wife cleaned everything and raised the 3 boys. He payed her $10 a hour and she was paid for a 50 hour week I think. Anyways I though this was a great idea since stay at home wifes have alot of work to do in a day.
@sweetbabe77 (224)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
Being a mother and a wife is a very rewarding and a great achievement among married women that money cant buy, yes it's a labor of love. It reflects how you care about your family and in that manner you can also develop good relationship with your children and to your spouse. Some countries do that tradition, that the wife should stay home and take good care for the family.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
That's precisely the reason why the more the government should appreciate your labors. You are doing it out of love. Without love, who can stand all those jobs, I don't know, for sure not we, the husbands. It was said that if the husband passes away early, the children will still be in good hands with their mother but it the wife passes away early, it will be a disaster for the children. Of course there are some exceptions. Thanks for your opinion.
@fluffleshark (810)
• Ireland
2 Jan 07
Very interesting topic Manong!
In Ireland they have just introduced a 'childcare allowance' for any family with children under 6 years old. (Theres been a lot of debate about the 6 year cutoff, but that's beside the point for this discussion) This childcare allwance is given to both families where both parents or the single parent works and they have to pay for childcare, and its also given to families where one parent stays at home. This was introduced because of the exorbitant cost of childcare in ireland on the one hand, and to compensate stay at home parents for their loss of earnings. I agree with this completely! And as far as houshold 'chores' are concerned, they are NOT a labour of love for me, and I would not say no to being compensated or at least appreciated for doing them by SOMEONE, even if that is the government! (Scene as this REALLY HARD work is NOT appreciated by most husbands, causing, certainly in my marriage, almost daily arguments....)
Just another point on your original post, do you not think that it would be more appropriate to say 'part of being a houswife / househusband', rather than 'part of being a wife'. No it is in my opinion NOT part of being a wife! It is part of being whichever membre of a relationship is in a better position to do it!
Anyway, good topic!
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
Thank you! Point well taken. You are right. Household chores shouldn't be just for the housewife. The common concept is that the husband is outside earning a living and the housewife is in the house to look after everything to which I don't agree with. We used to share an apartment with an Irish couple, I remember the husband doing the dishes while the wife dries them. Sweet couple. Happy New Year to you and to your family.
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@Janono630 (238)
• United States
3 Jan 07
I think that this shouldnt be that big of deal any more because i do alot of the house work.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I am a fulltime mom and as much as the money is needed, I chose to stay home with my kids. I was not forced to do it. With that said I dont think it would be right to get paid for raising my own kids. They are mine. If I was watching someone elses kids then yes I would like to get paid but not for staying home with my own kids.
@brightbluesea (1143)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I think that it has to be one of the most underappreciated jobs in the world. All the many duties that a person does for their family is more than a full time job. I think that this should be considered at-home work for social security purposes anyway. I have seen it count for something in the courts during divorces in the US at least
@mef623 (81)
• United States
2 Jan 07
After reading through this, I'm still not sure why the government should compensate anyone for staying home with children. Note that I say "anyone" because more and more, men are staying home with the children and women aren't.
Don't forget, if the government starts compensating people for household tasks, your taxes and inflation are going to go up by enough to offset any increases you might have.
Mike
@theaustinproject (99)
• United States
2 Jan 07
It seems like a very unusual proposal. My support for the idea would be based entirely on two factors: 1) amount of compensation, and 2) availability to husbands if they do the work.
If the pay is good - $20-$30 an hour and I can do the work instead of my wife, then I am in full support of the proposal. Especially if I don't have a boss, time card, schedule... oh!!! I almost forgot... I have two boys, but if I have to do all the work that comes with staying home with them... I don't want the job!!!! No amount of money could keep me sane! I love them, but I am not wired to nurture and entertain and teach and maintain children all day! I can handle it for a few hours at a time on a limited basis... other than that, forget it!
@sidearthman (179)
• India
2 Jan 07
THANKSS for starting an excellent discussion..... i was looking for such an interesting topic....this bill was basically introduced to reduce the rate of unemployement and bring te indian population above the poverty line.....
@makinmoneyonline00 (10)
• United States
2 Jan 07
As much as us moms do and then the "MAN" comes home and says nothing is done, we should get a sum every month, they did a study at stanford U and the at home mother would make over 200,000 a year if we were paid, even football players say that they would rather get beat up on feild than be a stay at home parent. So He** yes we should be paid for it, but it shouold also be done because it is what we were built to do for our family.
@sireesuccess (1254)
• India
2 Jan 07
no how can they give so bcoz some will b they work outside and they take care of their house too.so wat about them.so if one want to earn more they can work right.r else many oppturnities r there to earn from home itself.even thought i am girl i am against the compensation for womens for their household works
@sudhir4441 (668)
• India
2 Jan 07
Different people different openion. THE person should enjoy doing his job.
@SarahEC (545)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Well, I can see why they would propose that, but being a housewife should not be paid for by the government. Yes, we do pay other people to do such chores and work, but when you are the wife and mother, you make the choice to stay at home and do those things. I am a 'housewife' but I know my payment is that my boyfriend pays all the bills and as long as I keep the house clean, food on the table, etc...then I can play on mylot all day. lol.
@sweetstacy (159)
• Philippines
2 Jan 07
well if that were to happen then i wouldn't waste my time studying anymore!!that's good!i hope a bill like that could be passed here in our country too!
@rajulvermaji (69)
• India
2 Jan 07
it's a nice bill. with the help of this bill women's can be more secure.