Do You Find It Hard Letting Go Of The Past?

I never find it hard to let go of the past. I think people never accept the fact that they made mistakes. You'll never have a good life if you can't go forward.

Maybe you should just think about what to do next. Thinking of what has been done will bring about only sadness. I guess searching for a solution to deal with your present life will eventually take your mind away from your past. I did some mistakes in my past but managed to make them seem better by trying to deal with the consequences. That's my advice to you, and remember that some people live with wrong decisions and remorse every day.

Sure there are things in my past that I have a problem dealing with. But I know things happen for a reason. We are meant to learn from it and our mistakes. If we never made mistakes, we would not grow as a person. Some mistakes have impacted my life to the point that if I had made a different decision, I know I would not be who I am now. Even though I may not be happy where I am right now in my life. I am happy with whom I have become as a person. I am strong, insightful, fun, off the wall, intellegent, and experienced mother and person. If I did not go through what I have...I do not know who I would be today. So, even though I regret and have a hard time letting go of some things, I do move on and learn. :)

I completely know where you are coming from ... up until a couple of years ago I was 'clinging on' to an old romance .. he suddenly moved to America .. we've stayed friends over the years but I suppose I was always 'secretly' hoping he would come back again ... Ohh yes .. I've wept .. I've ranted .. I've raged .. I've sulked ... I've been miserable ... I'll kill him .. I love him .. I miss him .. ohhh dearrr ... yes I've been there ... And then one day I thought .. what if he came back .. would I really want to pick up where we left off .. could we pick up again ... and I searched deep down in the basement of my heart .. and I thought no ... it would never work again .. there would always be this abyss between us .. there would always be the anger that came from him leaving for America without telling me he was going .. I would never be able to fully trust him again .. there would always be a rift between us ... And yes after coming to that momentous life changing decision I was at first very sad to think that I now knew I would never see him again .. but after a few days it was like a HUGE weight had been lifted from me ... and for the first time in many years .. I truly felt at peace and content with life again .. I think we would always like to think we could go back to an old flame and it would be great once more .. but I think it can never happen ... whatever the reason was that the person stepped out of your life it will always be there ... there would always be the fear that it would happen again .. and there could be no real trust between you ... it would be an uneasy partnership at best .. and a horrid heart wrenching partnership at worst ... There is always a new life just waiting for us to step out and try it ... and who knows by turning your back on things gone by you could be walking into the most wonderful future you could ever dream of ... only you'll never know unless you take that first step ... And that's all it is .. just one step at a time into a happier future :o)

I understand what you r going through coz i too find it hard to forget some of the events that happened in the past. Many are the events that really cause a lot of pain to me and i normally find tears rolling down my cheeks anytime i remember. This life is full of perplexing situations and there are things which are very hard to forget no matter how hard we try. All in all, with God everything is possible. He is able to make us whole again.

There have been things in my past that I had trouble letting go of, but the one thing that I still have trouble letting go, is the fact that my mom left when I was a baby and never came back! She not only never came back, she didn't call, and worst yet, she made sure she never saw me until I was 20 years old. That is the one thing I have had a problem letting go of from my past. Even though it still bothers me at times, I do forgive my mother, it's just that it hurt a lot and it is very hard to forget and let it go.

It's not so hard now ... I still think about the past sometimes though... who I was, what I should have done differently. Here is the really sad and slightly embaressing part. My first real love, the one I gave all of myself to (heart, body, soul, etc) - we were together for 10 months, and we were engaged. My parents put him through hell because he wasn't the same religion as us. He eventually broke up with me... never gave me a reason ... said he would always love me etc etc all the other crap guys say ... and that we could be friends. And then one day I came home to find that he had taken his things, left my key and a note he could never see me again. I was completely and utterly devestated. I thought about him every day in some way for the next five years. That's so sad. Really. When I look back on things he wasn't worth all that time - he put his friends before me, he cheated on me several times, including with his ex-girlfriend. I'm really grateful now that we never got married. I have made a lot of poor choices in the past in other regards, and sometimes I still think about them... but I try not to give too much thought. You can't change the past... and it's made you who you are today. And if you think about the past it usually just drags you down... so now I try to stay present focussed.

its really hard to let go of something/someone you have in the past. but i can say that its just in the beginning, time will come everything will be okay. accept the fact that its not yours anymore. stop thinking of what you have lost. i know its easier said than done. focus yourself with other stuff that also interest you. good luck to you.

At first, I found it difficult to let of the past. I made a terrible decision last year which cost me a lot. But my sister, my friend who I spoke with made me realize that the decision I made is in the past and just remember that we all make mistakes some large some small but learning from them and moving on is the key. In order to move on from the past or the worst decision I made, I stop thinking about what happen and started to think positive about what I can do for me and for others in the future. I am not going to say it is easy because it was not easy for me, sometimes I think about it but then I realize I have something to look forward to by trying to enjoy my life to the fullest.

The more you try to forget the past events, the more they call you back. But it's always too late to change the history, and regret is a useless action. Look at the present time, and the future. Then time by time, the past will release you.

it is sometimes difficult to let go off ur past some times i feel i wish i could turn the time wheel back to 2002 and start living life again coz some of the decisions made by me are so awful that i feel like god i wish that would never had happen i feel so disgusted about those thing whaich had happen to me in past 4 years difficult let go

I do find it hard to let go of alot of things. I had a great group of friends about 5 years ago until my mom moved me 1000 miles away from them. I have gone back to see them 4 times in the past two years. Most of them fell apart and lost control of everything and some moved onto other peole and places. I miss how it use to be sometimes, i get kinda jealous knowing they've moved on with out me. I even long for childhood movies or toys that I use to have so I can have something to remind me of that time in my life

It's not strange at all. I though have it the other way round and find it very easy to forget the past. My attitude at the moment seems to be a bit like Robert De Niro's character in the film heat. "Never get too attached to anything that you can't drop it at a moments notice if you feel the heat coming round the corner" I do however get attached to girlfriends, but once it ends and after the intial period of loss etc. Then get on with life as if nothing has happened. There are things that happened way in my past that i haven't addressed. There is a fine line between living in the past and ignoring the past.

Letting go of the past is the best way to enjoy your future. While it is difficult to move on from past relationships, you can't let that affect your life moving forward. Things all happen for a reason and you just have to trust that that is the case for you. Keep your chin up and live life to the fullest!

I do agree that it can be difficult to let go of the past. Some things that have happened to us or that we have done are harder to let go than some other things but eventually we learn to let go and move on with our life and try and put the past behind us. I had a hard time letting go of my childhood when I was younger but I managed to put it behind me and move on and be happy again.

There are big chunks of my past that are just plain missing, there are pieces of my past that I just dont think about..but none of it is ever completely forgotten or let go with me...I do however over time change my view on it..for example with my mother i went from thinking/feeling "how could she do that to me? am I so horrible she cant love me?" to "she doesnt love me but thats ok because she's missing out on having some great ppl (myself and my kids) in her life by being that way" its not something that can be done overnight mind you and its not easy by any means depending on the situation but its certainly doable..

hi..actually many of us experiencing giving decisions but then afterwards just feel sorry about it..Its really hard to let go something especially if you invested time and love with it..but..the best that you can do..is to face and accept the fact that past is past..no matter what you do..you can never bring it back again..just charge it to experience..anyway ..life is beautiful, and many opportunities will cross your path..just "never cry over a spilled milk" or else you will never experience the beauty of life..past is part of our life..no matter what you do..whether we like it or not..it is your fate..keep positive...

Sometimes yes. I know my husband had a hard time with the past and always wanting to fight about things in the past when we were first married. Finally, he has realized there is no point in fighting over the past. It is over with and gone. But we can shape our future. Of couse, being human one will always wonder "what if.." I hope you can put things behind you and move on! No use in wasting your future! Good luck!

You can't change the past so why dwell on it? You have to move on...don't waste your time regretting life, because life is now in the present. You have your whole future ahead of yourself, concentrat on that and making the best of it! Good luck!

Yes.. that's true especially if you still love that person... but if you found someone who will love you again i think it is more easier for you to forget your past.. and a matter of loving your new life and treasure your present..