I am a stay at home mom and proud of it!!!

I haven't really gotten this attitude about me being a stay at home mom. I also run my own in-home daycare so that's my "job". When I first made the switch from working outside the home to working in the home I had a few people look at me funny, but that was because I was leaving a Government Job (working for the county).

YEs, peopel assume that if you stay at home with your children, you must be catcing up on your soaps or something. MOst people don't realize what a sacrifice it is.. to listen to children screaming and whining and try to teach them things and keep the house clean and food cooked. IT's hard work, but worht every effort! Good luck to you!

I don't understand this. I'm a working mother, but by necessity, not by choice. In fact, I hate my job and I envy women who are able to stay at home. A couple of weeks ago at work, I said (in front of some of my female co-workers), that I HATE my work, that's I accomplish nothing good there while I could do a world of good at home, and that if I could, I'd quit in one second, and so you know what? There were three seconds of uncomfortable silence in the room after I said it. Oops.

Oh my goodness, without even reading any of the other responses yet I can tell you I have been there, seen that look.Many years ago I saw it from my hubby, who insisted I stay home with the girls. He got to take a week in my shoes, when I went out of town once, and has never given me that look again. My typical day goes as follows: 4am I wake up, make lunches(hot lunches), get clothes ready for work, school, etc. See hubby off first, then wake up daughter and get her dressed and take her to kindergarten, come home, clean up after all the pets, clean the house, a 6 year old and a hubby can do quite a bit of damage in one night. I get everything ready for cooking dinner, go to store if need be.Do laundry, pay bills, pick daughter up from school, snack, activities with her, get dinner started, feed everyone, clean kitchen, give daughter bath, squeeze in a hello to hubby, lay out clothes for morning, get daughter to bed, unload dishwasher, if time permits, take a darn bath before falling out around 11pm. This is just on a day when daughter does not have Brownies or cheerleading. And we are lazy? Ha, I dare anyone to trade places with me on any given day, and ever say that to me again.

Whatever you do, the most important thing is that you do it with conviction and passion. If others mock you for your decisions, pay them no attention because you don't need their approval anyway. You are your own person and only you can think for yourself and it's only you who knows what fulfills your character and enriches your life. In the final analysis, I think any sane individual will choose to be a successful homemaker than to be a successful career woman with a failed family life.

Yep, they are just jealous because they can't stay at home too. I get the same thing from some of my friends and family. They think that I am a low-acheiver or lazy, but I work my butt off around here and my husband will voutch for that. There's no way they could drywall and mud in a whole house, or build a fireplace, or cut a load of firewood & stack it, I do alot of the work around our house and my husband goes to work to pay for it. I might not have a job outside the home, but I made $43,000 in equity last year by finishing the inside of our newly built house myself. People don't ask me anymore what I do because when I tell them all the projects I have got going on they shut-up fast.

well, since you aren't just sitting at home for hours, you aren't lazy. you are even a good mom to your child and a good wife to your husband. you're there to look after their needs. which is good. some people are just skeptical about other people's lives. after all, they might be just envious on your situation. so, don't feel bad about it! be proud that you're a housewife and you know that you are doing a great job!

You go momma! I'm a SAHM too, and I get looks and comments like that all the time. Especially since I'm young. People are rude, and don't know what they're talking about. It's hard work being a SAHM, a full time job as well. I personally think it's wonderful being able to be with my baby all the time and be able to see all her new "firsts".

yea know that ticks me off as well..when my friend/aquantance said that to me.,.i said ..yes Im a stay at homemom,,and im a maid,taxi,chef,house cleaner,therepist,and nurse..she shut up and left after a quick bye..lol..try that next time,.,,watch then get all embarrassed!!!

I feel quite sad that in today's society we have to feel as though we have to be someone else just to suit a minority of people. I felt a great stigms being a single mum many years ago as it was not my choice to be in that situation at the time! Be proud of what you are doing and the ones that matter are you and you child/children as the rest is irrelevant. Good for you!

Oh yes, I've had that so many times in the past. When we had our first son, i made a conscious decision to stay home and care for him, and his twin brothers two years later. I gave up a promising career in medical research (I have since returned part time). But for years, if ever my husband and I went out, people would almost turn up their noses when I said I was a housewife and mother. One day I came up with an idea and told them, "I used to be in medical research, but now I'm a domestic engineer." They were fascinated by that until I explained what a domestic engineer was...housewife and mother. And now I get heaps because I'm a romance writer (who is also a domestic engineer and in medical research part time)

I for once could never be a stay at home mom. I do wish that I could but i think i would go crazy just beeing with my kids all day, cleaning, cooking and almost not interacting with other grown-ups like you do if you work. Ofcourse - I do not have any kid yet so who knows - i might change my mind!

People sometimes think ill of me because I prefer to be at home and personally take care of my child. When people see me put "housewife" as an occupation, they think of me as some kind of a moron or what. I just pity them because I spend the whole day being with the persons I love most and not with other employees. I am also giving my child the attention and care paid baby sitters are not able to give. I sometimes realize that I even earn more than other employed people because I have work at home jobs. Best of all, I do not worry being late or absent on special family occassions such as birthdays and anniversaries.

your reaction is not new to me. i have a lot stay at home moms/wives and they complain the same. i have to work myself because of financial problem and i'm jealous at my friends who don't (need) to work. i plan in the future to work part time. i think stay at home mom is the most difficult and hardest job in the world! the work is 24 hours/7 days a week, non stop and you don't get salary. so i don't understand people who give bad remarks on them.

my husband chooses for me to be a stay at home mom and i am happy about it because i am raising my kids instead of daycare but he accuses me of being lazy and it annoys me, he doesnt seem to understand that i can feed the baby or feed myself and be on the computer, but i cant feed the baby and do laundry or wash dishes at the same time. so whenver i sit down to feed the baby or eat he thinks im being lazy. id like to see him be a stay at home mom for a day, lol

well, I would like to be in you place. I have a child, too and a husband who is busy working all day, but I can not afford to stay at home. I stayed home until my child turned two, then I had to reurned to work. since then nothing is done properly in the hpouse, i do not have time for anything. I WORK FROM 8 TILL 5 AND SELDONM GET HOME EARLIER THAN 6 in the afternoon. and i had to do all the housework, cook meal for the next evening, wash, iron, clean the house and be with my child, sometimes I FEEL THAT IT IS TOO MUCH. it will be nicer if i couyuld stay home and arrange everything in time without ruch. so i really envy you!!!

that's good. you can take very good care of your son and your family. rock on, mom!

just do what you know is right,,,

I love it!!!! Wish i could be a stay at home mom. Those ignorant fools have no idea what it entails to be a stay at home mom. Your work is never done. You don't have an 8-5 job, yours is non stop. I swear it is more exhausting being at home than an office job. If it's what you want and it makes you happy and fulfilled....stuff them! Enjoy every minute of it......Thumbs up to you:)

Absolutely not,keeping home nice & cooking good meals is also a work which all cant do,it is also a art.with all this you also log on to my lot earning some money,what i feel is this is a good job done & nobody should have problem with this.