Bad Night
By Island_Geko
@Island_Geko (3759)
Canada
January 3, 2007 8:49pm CST
I just had one of my wost night on a long time. I had an hour and a half nap and my hun tried to wake me but had a hard time. I knew he was calliing me but it was like my body was fighting to stay asleep and my face was swelling. I eventually woke up, but started to shiver (nothing unusual so far). 2 minutes later I went into a massive flare-up, my neck muscles seized and my legs cramped from my hips to my feet. The whole time this was happening my hun never left my side, infact he allowed me to squeeze his hand until the pain subsided. My Hun has been the best thing in my life, I have never seen a man so dedicated to make sure I am ok. To me this is a true sign of love. In my past relationship the guys well lets just say they saw and split. To any of you who suffer from a debilitating condition---- how does your partner help you on bad days? Does your partner still feel lost when it comes to your disability needs or do they knows how to comfort you during those needed moments? Is my hun a rare breed?
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@armywifey (882)
• United States
4 Jan 07
It is great that you have someone who will take care of you like that. He is a rare breed. I know most people would look at someone with a chronic disease as having the plague and it is very sad. I also have a good man. I was very sick when I first found out I was pregnant, throwing up and running a fever so high that I was delusional. He never left my side and would get me what I needed and made sure I had my medicine when I needed it. I fell so much more in love with him after that experience.
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@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
It is good that we have found men that really love us. It is also good to see that there is such things as caring, thoughfulness and trust left in the world. thanks for the post. May you and you hun have many happy years together.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Your hun is a sweetie and he must love you a great deal. It shows in your story my dear.
When I am ill my hubby will make me go to bed. He tucks me in and lets me sleep. He will come in every few minutes to check on me. He will bring me tea and rub my back.
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@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
I think we need to show the world there are men like this out there and tell other men and women that if you work together and help eachother the world will be a much better place. Thanks for the post
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@AnythngArt (3302)
• United States
4 Jan 07
I think all of these lessons apply to family or friends or anyone who extends their love and support, including husbands.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
4 Jan 07
I was told at one time that it was unusual for people to be loving and unselfish, even caring for a loved mate. I did not think so, I cared for a dying spouse. That is just what you do if you love someone. You are lucky, but I bet he is lucky, too.
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
I am sorry you had to go through the loss of a spouse. I am lucky to have my guy very much and I know together we have taught eachother so many things that we would never learned else where. thanks for the post
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@AnythngArt (3302)
• United States
4 Jan 07
I think that when you care for anyone who is dying, not just your spouse, it is a very special experience. Hats off to you; this is one of the most difficult things that anyone in life can face. I don't know how people are able to keep their sanity in a war zone like Iraq or Darfur or anywhere a conflict rages out of hand and you know that at any moment a loved one could be taken from you.
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
4 Jan 07
When I had my first MS flare up and didn't know what it was my THEN husband was mad I asked him to drive me to the hospital (despite the fact that the doctor said I should go by ambulance). He literally went to the car in the driveway and waited there, knowing I couldn't walk. I crawled down the stairs, Tried to stand and fell onto the car, pulled myself around to the door and finally got it open. He pulled up to the hospital and I literally fell out of the car to crawl to the ER. There was a male nurse there that immediately asked me who the idiot in the car was. Needless to say, I'm divorced. But oddly enough not because of that... but because of his abuse to our son and later to me a few times.
You are a lucky woman indeed.
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@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
he did not understand, and because he did not understand and did not have to paitents to understand he took it out on you and becme a jerk about it. Men like that don't deserve happieness. thankks for the post
@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
4 Jan 07
It sounds like true love to me. While I'm sorry you suffer with your condition. You are lucky woman to have found such a loving, kind, and compasionate husband. Those qualities are difficult to find in alot of people, man or woman.
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
Soul mates i think, and lucky to have him. thanks for the post
@andrew_lbp (44)
• Singapore
4 Jan 07
I would definitely do the same for my wife if she were to have the same medical condition. I'm not doing it out of responsibility. I do indeed love her and would gladly do anything for her that would make her more comfortable. Caring people are not a rare breed. I think the caring personality is within everybody. Its just that for some people, this caring trait is hidden temporarily and it would surface one day.
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@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
It is an act of love, it is not a responsibility. However there are few people out there that would put up with a chronicly ill spouse for long. I rarely get upset but when someone is suffering alone that bugs me big time.
@AnythngArt (3302)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Well said Andrew, and I believe that all the love and support that we show to others comes back to us in life. Maybe in a different form, but the universe has a way of knowing.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Wow, I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I normally hate marriage and have some issues about it, but in this case, thank God he was there and that you two are married. He is a rare one your husband. Better do what you can to keep him.
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
Actually we are not married we don't aswell believe in it. We however have promised to be together forever. I am trying my hardest to keep him
@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
An occasional bad night should not be a problem between a couple if they both share and care.The good nights probably outnumber the bad ones .Also,maybe the two of you appreciate more the good days when you have had a bad day or two.
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
One bad day sould not cloud over the many good days that are soon to come in the future. Thanks for the post
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@BlueBell101 (192)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
I have unknow Chronic illness, it is causing my arms to go numb and my nerve to send sharp twinge pain. One doctor says it is pinched nerves another says it is muscle atrophy. Anyways, my husband doesn't help me, actually he gets pissed off when i break dishes. I have learned to ignore it, and have got a friend to help me around the house. It has helped save our marriage.
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
Sorry you have a pin head for a husband. Some men are so old fashioned, I hope you get you conditioned figured out. Thanks for the post
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@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
4 Jan 07
u r lucky to have just commited husband! not all husbands are caring.its sort of 50-50%.some men are caring and some are not.and u got from the better 50%.i would just like to know what is it u are exactly suffering from?
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
But some partners panic in these type of situations, and some people get scared for they can't do anything to relieve their spouses suffering. thanks for the post
@hassanchop (820)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Wow, that's awesome that your man is so good to you. There are a lot of people who don't know how to handle a partner's sickness, let alone a partner's debilitating disease. I used to be pretty lame at it, but I've since learned how to handle it when a partner is sick, and if they are driven so out of their mind by something major as to be grouchier toward me, that I shouldn't take it personally. I like being taken care of as well, but only when I'm so sick I can't get out of bed physically - anything else, and even though my body says "no no no", my pride will be saying "yes yes yes" and prompting me to get up and go do what I do anyways.
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@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
It is hard when your mind want to do something and your body can't. It is a point basically of pushing yourself until one can push no more and thats what I am doing, which is causing more problems.
@gargisback (58)
• India
4 Jan 07
I would definitely be there close by my wife if she were not medically well. I wont be doing it out of responsibility I would indeed be the love her and would gladly do anything for her that would make her more comfortable. people do care its just they have diffrent way of doing that.and yes may your husband keep taking care of you with all love ...
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@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
thanks and it is good to see the you care to about your spouse. Thanks for the post
@bindishah (2062)
• India
4 Jan 07
Something like this happened to my mom - well she does not really suffer from a debilitating disease or anything - but a couple times it happened that she woke up from sleep (actually was half asleep) and she felt she could not move or breathe. She choked up, tried to call out for my dad buit now ords came out of her mouth. She felt like she was paralysed or something. Luckily, my dad saw her like this and massaged her hand and feet for her. This made her feel better and after a while she came back to normal. It really helps if you ahve someone who can take care of you in such conditions - if you are alone then the magnitude of things just escalate. Im glad you ahve your husband there wiht you.
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
i helps calm down the anziety of a sudden attack. also helps relieve the stress of the situation which can also ease the whole situation. thanks for the post
@tanyananaimo (2)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
hi there , i had a friesnd once who was kinda in the same situation, she wassleeping but hse said that she could hear everything,but she couldnt open her eyes ,also there was another time when she was awake and she couldnt move its really strange ,but what she did was placed abilbe in her room and aparently it doesnt happen anymore...
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
6 Jan 07
it is a strange feeling alright...don't wish anyone else to feel it. glad to see you on board and thanks for the post
