weddings, bridesmaids

Your wedding is suspose to be the happiest day of your life. it is not about what anybody else wants, its suspose to be all about the bride, so you pick who you want to be your bridesmaids and dont worry about what other people think and say just tell them this is my day and i will have what i want

Your wedding is YOUR DAY! Don't let anyone try to convince you that you should do something that doesn't make you happy. The memories of your wedding you will treasure for the rest of your life and everything should be just as you and your future spouse wish.

listen to your heart ..

Yes i think so

I noticed that you stated it "a ONCE close friend". It doesn't sound to me like she's been much of a friend, so why have her stand up with you on the most important day of your life. It's your day, choose people who are there for you and care for you as your bridesmaids. Enjoy your big day by the way!!

If I were in your position I'd let her come to the wedding, but not as a bridesmaid, cuz to me a bridesmaid is somone very close and special to you, not just an aqcaintance

Well, if you want her to be a bridesmaid than yes, but you should have no stress on this wonderful day, so if you think it is not a good idea, than go with that, If she won't call or email you than I don't think she would be a reliable choice for a bridesmaid. Good Luck.

I would only allow it if i would be comfortable with my decission. If I would have ressentments against her because she doesn't call or e-mail me I wouldn't chose her as it would just put a damper on my day

It's your wedding, you do what you think is best.

Wow, Bridesmaides cause drama. I suggest you keep the amount of them down and only people who will be there to help your day stay drama free. One of my bridemaids kissed my husband the day before the wedding... So if she is still a good friends yes. If she is no longer then just invite her to come.

Its your wedding day AKA the day you have dreamt of since you were a little girl!!! Do whatever makes you happy. If she was a good friend before, maybe something happened to prevent her from contacting you.

Communication, call her, discuss what you need from her to help make your day special, if she isn't committed move on . You can't put your life on hold for her.

I would invite her to the wedding but not have her IN it.... If she hasnt been a friend for awhile and doesnt call or e-mail you, shes not going to be a very good bridesmaid!

no if you guys don't talk or anything then there is no sense in having her in the wedding party!

It your wedding. You got a right to do whatever you want to do on your wedding. Your friend might be mad but if she dont call or email you about the wedding, dont worry about it. I dont think you need to allow her to be bridesmaids.

This is YOUR day and you should do what makes you happiest. If having this inconsiderate girl stand up at your wedding will make for some negative memories later, then don't do it. Besides, if she was really your friend, she would be contacting you in some way. As it is, you should just go on with whatever plans you have in place up to this point and dont change anything to accommodate her. Lillith :)

Your wedding = your choice. No one has the right to just "assume" they have a place of honor in someone else's wedding.