Work VS Staying Home

I don't know about in the States, but here, in Britain, we have Mother and Toddler groups, where you can take your son along to mix with the other kids whilst you get to know the other mothers. It's a good pre-school exercise because the children end up going to school in a group where they all know one another, and the Mums get their couple of hours of freedom from their homes, whilst getting to know others with kids of a similar age. That would be a start, and perhaps when your son goes to a kindergarten or nursery, you'll know enough mums to take turns in visiting each other's homes for coffee, or popping out together for a couple of hours whilst the kids are all together in the kindergarten. Then, when they get to school age, you could drop them off at school and either get a part-time job until perhaps half an hour before you need to collect him from school, or go back to school yourself, if there's something you particularly want to learn. Take small steps and you'll go a long way and your son won't miss out on anything with you and you won't miss out on anything with him. He'll also have the security of you being there whilst he starts his way in the world. Good luck. This is tough, I know, but I've tried to consider the best way for the both of you. I hope it helps some, and that you find a more fulfilling way of spending your motherhood days. Bright Blessings. :-)

I am interested in what people respond to your post! I just had a baby 3 months ago and I begged to stay home. It took a lot of thought and discussion and FIGHTING! Now that I am home, I feel like I am secluded from the whole world. I love being home and wouldn't trade it in for a second, but then I want to go back in a way. I am a teacher and will have the chance to go back in August- but I dont know if I should or not. I feel like I, too would miss out on everything. I don't want to miss her growing up and all her firsts! I dont know what to do! I HATE daycare. I teach Kindergarten and the children who came from Daycare konw so many things they shouldn't know. I am sure not ALL daycares are like that though. Its just a little scary!

Well I stayed home and raised my son..and I am so glad I did. They are only young once and you want to remember those times..not have someone else taking care of them. If you can stay home then do it. I would try to get an interest...or try working from home..or something a few hours a week...that may help...also try getting out with him and meeting other parents too...good luck.

There is no better job than raising kids. You have to ask yourself, "Do I really want someone else raising my child?" Afterall, when you are working, the daycare provider will see him more than you will. I find it funny that while I spent so much time trying to get out of my job so I could be with my kids, other mothers were spending time trying to get into the workforce and away from their kids. Both have pros and cons. I've spent many years asking employers for permission to attend my children's school events or to stay home with them when they were sick. I wouldn't recommend that to anyone unless there is a money issue. School is a very good thing, but have you considered being a volunteer somewhere?

I have been there. What I decided to do was start a small child care in my home. That way I was able to take in a few other children (helped their parents), was able to stay at home with my children, I made some extra money and believe me...I was not stir crazy anymore! :) It was great. I grew very close to the children I took in and it turned out to be a very rewarding experience.

Hello, I just wanted to let you know how lucky you are to be able to stay at home with your son. Why don't you look into going to school part time in the evening a couple of days a week. This way it gets you out of the house for a few hours and you don't miss out on your sons growing.

It can be a bit limiting to spend all of your time with a one year old. Do you belong to a mommy group or anything like that? Interaction with other adults kind of makes you feel better. Maybe you could take one class a week or do something that is just for you.

I guess your husband makes a good living, since you would have to consider your expenses would go up a lot if you did that. You would have to pay for school and also pay for daycare. Between them that could be close to $2,000 a month.

ooh moms' hearts dont worry about your son little mom he 'll be good at the day care

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i am facing the same situation with me. but now i am not willing to go for job as i am very much attached to him. i cannot even think of staying away with him. now he is 2 yrs old. i feel that we still have time later in life to continue with our career. but the most enjoyable years are the childhood years which cannot be compromised for any cause. i want to stay with him all day and watch him grow, watch him say new words everyday. i dont want to miss all this. so take care of your baby now. be with him for his every needs and enjoy the time with him. when he grows up u take up a job. :) Happy motherhood.

Just try to make out time of this pretty-looking young boy ,i believe he really needs you to be close to him all the time....

ya i can understand ur problem but u have to think of ur sons future too right u have to make a habbit of leaving him for a while and u can take care of him once he comes from the day care or the school. and too much care and love will spoil ur child's career

me im working and taking care of my daughter.its too hard but im sacrifice because of her future someday.i want to earn money to prove for my only one daughter.his father is have not sufficient income why im working.

I have been a work @ home mom for 12 yrs and love it, I can't imagine what I would have missed had I continued to work, I dont regret it for a minute. I was able to be there for my kids for school functions, sporting events and here everyday when they came home from school. If you are looking for a way to earn some cash and work from home check out my site www.earnwhileyouburn.com/jgannon or www.jillybeans.scent-team.com

i am a working mom! but i only work 20 hours a week! and i work in the evening so i need help for just an hour or 2. i go to work at 15.00 hours, so my mother comes over to watch my 2 daughters. My husband gets home by 16.30 and do the rest! one week i work mo/tue/wen, and the othere week only mo/tue. this is a good solution for us, no daycare needed!

i love working, i love my job and love to sleep at home :) stay home with my family. :)

if you stay so much home ...when is your earning you dont' have money for buy what you want ...so ...i think if you work somewhere you can make money and buy what you want

I'd rather stay home and rest than work, But now that I think about it work can be a great thing, it helps you spend time, gets your angers out and resting and laziness can get you depressed.

I think it would greatly help you and your son if you where to go back to school. Do you have someone who can watch him for you doing part of the day while you go to school. My mother use to watch my children while I went to school at night.