Okay so my girl friend might be pregnant i need some advice

Well are you able to take care of this baby? food? clothing? medical? and crying? school when ready? DO you have a stable job or your gonna rely on your parents? This is the questions both of your parents going to ask. So have you thought about all this stuff?

Whatever happens, don't ever leave your girlfriend if you really really love her.

I suppose one issue you may have to face is whether you have actually broken any laws and may have to deal with that. In the UK the age of consent is 16 so both of you would be fine, but here if you were under that age you could be charged with assault if her parents decided to. I don't know where you live but if that is a potential issue you may need to get her parents on board very early on to help diffuse any legal consequenses. Otherwise, get a test done as soon as you can, and tell peopel as soon as you know if it is positive. Get the parental reactions out of the way as soon as possible so that you can have their support if at all possible. Best of luck!

Do the right thing. Stand for it. Do your responsibility as your a father now. It's already there so even your both young you have to take the responsibility. Its the consequences of what you both did, the fact that you know your still young you still engage into that thing that cause your gf pregnant. So its the lesson to ponder. You have to learn from that. Be responsible and be good. Your still young so i think both your parents will support you until both of you can stand on your own.

YOua re going to have to bite the bullet. You are probably better off if the two of you talk to YOUR parents first! They are less likely to be as scandalized as her parents will be. Then, you might suggest that your parents be with you and the girlfriend when you talk to HER parents. This might keep things more civilized than your trying to face them alone. Don't face her parents alone....this could get really ugly.

FIRST OF ALL,u would not have done this at an younger age like 17.dont think taking care of ur GF and her baby as an easy thing.at this tender age u will not be able to manage the situation correctly. first convince ur&her parents that they will accept ur marriage. after getting married,complete ur studies being at ur respective residences. the welfare of ur child may be taken care of any one of ur parents. after u get a good job,take the responsibility of ur wife&child.

I must appreciate your views on keeping the baby. When I just saw the post title I was worried about the baby. I suggest if you are sure that she is carrying then both of you can talk to the parents of both sides. Then you have to listen to their advise. On my opinion both of you should take the care of the child like a normal parent and wait till your girlfriend attains the age of 18. I will also suggest that if possible you can try to keep a low profile during this period, though I know it is difficult to do so, but it will be better if not many people know about your status. You can also think of shifting the base if the situation demands so. Hopefully both of you will be able to pass this test.

You have to get a job so you can provide your girlfiend and your baby a better life. That is the way I see it now since the act had already been done so both of you have to face it for the good for the baby,isn't it?

Well let me give you kudos....major kudos, for even thinking of carrying through with this and actually sticking with the mother of your child, at your age that is a rare thing, so first pat yourself on the back. About her mother...well put yourself in her shoes, and do a scenerio with your girlfriend, present your case, your facts, and your solution, and act it out between each other, to gain responses for what the mother may thro out at you when you discuss this with her. Having a baby is a life changing experience, but I have four, and they have changed my life for the good. Keep in mind that a baby does put things on hold, but not forever, such as going to college, or pursuing careers....but thats not forever, and you have to keep a goal in mind, when it comes time to actually pursue these things. Raising a child at a young age is hard, hard at any age, because there are no right or wrong ways to parent (well there are wrong ways). I think if you both can be responsible when it comes to this, and show her mom that you can handle this, it's a bump in the road, but a good bump. Now are you actually both ready for marriage, this is hard also at a young age, and is a serious responsiblity....you will be responsible for two more people in your life....if you can handle it...and remember that you and your girlfriend are still young, and have a lot of life a head of you, that will now be enhanced with a child, then...go for it....and be persistance and smart....dont make silly decisions just to rebel....think about this...act out scenerios, and go from there.....I respect your decision for not wanting adoption or abortion, very good....you already are doing the right responsible thing.....as the saying goes..."you made your bed...now lie in it"!...but remember it's not going to be a picnic, there are trials and tribulations that come with babies and marriage...theres a lot of help out there for things you may need for the baby, and the mother,and I suggest to seek some pre-marital counseling before you totally committ....doesn't mean you cant have the baby....just make sure it's what you both really want, reguardless if a baby is involved or not. Definately find out soon if she is pregnant, because pre-natal care at her tender age is so important, remember she is still (your girlfriend) growing, and maturing too....and will need extra help from you, but the support of a parent is really important as well. I wish the both of you luck....remember to go with whats in your heart with your decision!!

With all due respect, what do you do that allows you to provide the means to take care of both you, your girl friend and your baby? This is pure specualtion on my part but I don't think that you have any idea what it takes to raise a child, and I am not just speaking about the monitary side. The physical and emotional toll it can take on a person could be extreme. And with both you and your girlfriend at such a young age, I fear that it could have a very bad effect on both you and your girlfriend as well as the child. The most important think that you can do I believe is one take a pregnancy test to find out for sure. First start with an over the counter test, then go to a real docter. There are prenatial vitamins that are very good for the baby that you girlfriend should take. Also, as much as you will hate to do it, you need to talk to your parents. Of course they are probably going to be upset at first, but they will get over that and hopefully they will be a good source for help. Good luck. Keep us posted.

I'm very pleased with you. You sound mature. Try becoming emancipated, declared adults by the court (you can do that in America; I don't know where you're from), if it comes to that. But it might not. Parents can surprise you. You should definately take a pregnancy test before deciding anything, though.

Hey.. all I can say is that.. you really need to be prepared.. You will have to work ya butt off no matter what the job is. One way or another you all need to survive. You will have to face your responsibilities because "YES" you WILL be a Father and YES will grow up quicker than you think when Baby arrives.. YES its gonna be HARD Emotionally/Physically/Menatlly and Financially.. YES it may cause a few problems and YES you may get the lectures and the screams from both parents.. FACE them together. Let them know that you will do whatever it takes to look after her and your Baby. Its gonna be tough but you need to be STRONG.. not only for yourself but for your girlfriend and your Baby. I wish you all the best.

Before you both have done it, u should make sure that she will not get pregnant. Anyways, if it's true, take the consequences... don't leave your girlfriend, take full responsbility to the child.

dude, dont leave them... it really hurt when you wont be with them. i should know because i left mine. stay together, blame no one and accept everything as a blessing. as i should have

Well I think you two are very young to be having a baby..however if you have the money and you love her then you may just have to adjust. You just have to be straight with her parents and hopefully you two can get married...and things will work out.

I think we have the same problem, i think my girlfriend too is pregnant. The thing with pregnancy that sometimes we have to deal with is pressures to get married. But for you, your still way too young, so at this moment just let see what happens first. But if you do love your girlfriend dearly don't leave her panicking alone in a situation like this.

okay... you def need to take control, n make sure u have a steady job. raising a child will be very hard and expensive, but if u both are dedicated to it, then life will be easier. and remember that wen she is really pregnant, she will have lots of mood swings, its a hormonal thing, just dont blame her for everythig she says... good luck

Well from what you have posted and the replies you made, you seem quite ready. I would approch my mom first and tell her what happaned and how you are ready. Then, approch your girlfriends mom and tell her. If you hide it you will be in deep trouble. Just be open and you will be better off.

According to me u should directly go to her mother along with her tell her mother about the situation. If U are able to earn enough to fufill the requirements of ur gf and ur child then u should definitely go for marriage. As far as the age is concerned u cant do anything because U have done something which cant be ignored due to ur age. Go for marrriage I will suggest that.

Well I'll tell you a little about my story, I first got preganant at 17. i loved the man very much and we decided to keep the baby even though I was still in high school.(I did at least graduate)I was'nt living with my mother at the time because me and her were not seeing eye to eye. She tried to shelter me from the world because she did'nt want me to make the same mistake as her. She got pregnant at 15. She found out once I was about 5 months pregnant. I didn't really want to tell her because I knew how she would react and I just couldn't deal with that.Anyways she had my older sister ask me instead of asking herself.She found out from somebody in my family that worked at a place somebody from my school worked.All the rumors at school that started were horrible but i decided to still stick to it. My mother after finding out kinda confronted me and pretty much said that I had ruined my life.I am not with my sons father dispite teh fact he aske me to marry him and all,He was a cheater.I am now with somebody who I have another child with and he takes care of both my kids and has no problem woth it. My advice to you would be first make sures she is pregnant then depending on how you think they would react have a sit down or write them a letter expressing how you and your girlfriend feel.expalin to them you are ready to take on the responsiblity and will care for the child you best know how.(I would suggest not letting them find out from someone else)Even if they are not behind you in the begining and may hate you (after all you were doing something with there "little girl" that they probally had no idea and couldn't even fathom the idea)there are always people and programs that help teenage mothers get along. And tehn of course start buying stuff now for the baby they are rather expensive and you can never have enough diapers, food, clothes. wipes, etc. It really makes me happy that you are looking to do the right thing and I applause you. GOOD LUCK let us know how it goes.