Cheating spouses- just caught mine cheating

The decision is yours. If you look the other way can you truly respect yourself? You have to deal with it one way or another.

I definitely think you should leave him because the chance of him cheating on you again is very likely and you and your kids do not deserve that. Since you are not working, you will need to find a decent job or a couple jobs to help take care of your kids. I would file for divorce and get child support from him as well. Do what you think is best for you. Hope you and your kids will be okay, no matter what you choose to do.

At this point in my life...I would look the other way. Because like you I am a stay at home mother, don't have any income. So I would say to you, look the other way but start looking for a job so you could leave him. I would never stay with someone who cheated on me. He would do it again

Unfortunately to many women stay for the sake of the children or financial side. It is extremely hard on you, however dont you deserve to be happy and be loved by someone that truely loves you. I myself could not stay, i would be gaining as much knowledge as i possibly could on my options before confronting him about it, he has just shown you what he really feels toward you , geesh you are the mother of his children. I am really sorry for the position you are in and i sincerely hope it all works out for you... if you stay in this situation you will forever have negative thoughts on where he is at ect it will only make you more bitter , especially when the day comes that he turns around to you and says hes leaving. Its hard and yes its a battle... but you need to be strong and take a stance...for arent you and your children worth it ?

I would look the other way if I was in that situation. When I was married I was a stay at home mom, my husband did alot of cheating that I overlooked. After a while of taking the bull, I decided to do what was best for me. Slowly I was able to begin working and taking care of my kids on my own. I was able to do it because I had alot of support from my mother.

i think you should talk to him about this.make him understand that you need him and that he is responsible for the 4 kids.if he does not approve then ask him to get you a divorce and ask for a large child support

It is a sad story. But you have to think twice as you have 4 children already plus the fact that you have no work to support your kids for the time being. Talk to him about it, heart to heart talk. Let your feelings be out and say what you want so that he will know how hurting his cheating did to you and your kids. You have to listen to everything he will explain, it is important. Weigh if you can give him another chance for what he tells you if he still wants you..

This is a decision you are going to have to make on your own. If you decide to leave it will be hard with the kids, but I am sure you will find a way to get through it. I personally could never stay with a man who didn't respect me enough to stay faithful. And if it has happened once it will happen again regardless of what he says.

As they say, once a cheater...always a cheater. Can you trust him again if you do look the other way? And if so, what if he does do it again? I think I would start looking for a job and kicking him out the door. File for a divorce, seek child support and everything you can get. Good luck...this won't be easy with 4 kids.

once a cheat, always a cheat, i can't tell you what to do but i divorced my husband. because i felt as though he had no respect for me himself or our family.when a spouse cheat he/she could possible be putting their mate in danger of aids or other diseases. i had to think about the well being of myself and my children. don't let you being a stay at home mom scare you take him to court and get money for your children and yourself,by law he will have to keep you living in the way you are use to living.

I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I think if this is his first time cheating, you should talk to him about it and see if you can work through it. I've always felt that cheating is a sign that something within the relationship isn't working...is there an issue or issues that need to be dealt with? At the same time, I would start looking into ways that you can earn an income. If your children are very young I would consider a work at home position. There are lots of jobs out there that would allow you to telecommute. In any case, good luck to you and be strong!!

I've always thought that cheating was a sign that something wasn't right within a relationship. Is there an issue or issues that needs to be resolved? Is this the first time he's cheated? I think if you talk to him, and you are BOTH committed to working through it you can make it work. At the same time, I would start looking into a work at home job. Especially if your children are very young. There are tons of resources out there for mothers who want to work from home. In any case, good luck to you and be strong!!