Is it necessary to say "I love you"?

I think some couples can operate well without it, but those are the minority, and the majority of couples need to hear it, and therefore, should say it. I'm one who does need to hear it when I am in a serious relationship, and I'm one who says it too. Maybe words of affirmation just aren't his primary love language - try not saying it to him for awhile, and if he doesn't really notice, then that is the case about the words.

I think it depends on the person. It seems like more females I know say "I love you" vs. males. I know my husband will only say it on the phone if I am gone at my mom's for a few days. I don't know why that is. If I say it to him in person he will make a joke out it. I know he loves me, but it can still hurt my feelings. I guess if the person is showing they love you in other ways, than you are doing o-kay.

I think it depends on the couple. I tell my family that I love them everyday. I expect my husband to tell me he loves me everyday especially if I tell him that I love him first. If he misses a day without telling me he loves me I point it out to him. I know that he loves me but he knows that I expect him to tell me that everyday because it is important to me to hear it from him. So I think that you should just tell him how you feel. Ask him why is it that I tell you I love you and you don't tell me? Ask him if he still loves you and tell him your expectations. If he loves you it shouldn't be that hard for him to tell you that everyday.

thanx for starting a nice discussion. well, what did u do is perfect :) it's really do necessary. by telling it to them, they know clearly that you love them so much. it's an analogy, when you show abc letters to your kids their will see it but when you don't tell them that's ABC, they just look at it without knowing the thing is. it goes the same thing with love. you told your husband and children about that, for sure they feel you appreciate them so much in yr life and it's really important in one happy family and marriage

Yes I think it is important to say I love you and every one of us needs to hear it this is a healthy sentence in my point of view it gives the person confidence and feeling that he is loved by others and hearing it is very important. Keep saying it and say to him that you like to hear from him.

actually, we chinese think love is to show instead of saying and the more you say "love", the less it become valuable. i never said "love" to my parents or brother, so do they. but we do love each other deeply. we show our love by being considerate, by tears and laughter, by unconditionally giving out...but never speak out our love. this is also the case among couples. we would feel it not so exciting if we hear it every day. while we would feel excited if we hear it only a few times all through this time. think about this: you can drink water at anytime now and you would never be excited seeing it as you would if you are in desert. so i think it isn't so necessary to say especially to hear "i love you". only if you love each other and you can feel the other's love, that's ok.

It would depend on the couple if those words are important or not. It seems it is too you. So, just talk to your husband about it. Let him know how you feel. Don't hold it in, as it will put a wedge between you in time. I need to hear it sometimes, not all the time. My husband needs to hear it all the time, so we both say it to eachother with meaning everyday.

It is something we always said to each other. I think you really need to hear it. I think anytime I felt like he wasn't saying it I would stop saying it for awhile to see if he would notice. But yes i think it is important. We all as humans need to hear it. Especially children. It does so much for their self-esteem and it really makes a difference to them so it's only natural that it means as much to us.

Hmm im wondering if there is still something bothering him from Christmas? Maybe ask him... I don't know my DH and I usually say I Love You a couple of times a day, so ... I really can't say for sure if thats not normal or not...

Sometimes men think that saying "I love you" is not needed since they show it everyday, my husband said that to me when I asked him why he does not say I love you to me everyday, until I said I need you to tell me that, it makes me feel better, so, even if he felt awkward before, practice made him say it all the time with ease already, even to his family I hear him say it now. They are just not so used to it sometimes that's why.

Absolutely, without a doubt we all need to hear those words for the ones we love.

I don't think that it is absolutely necessary, but I think that it should be said as often as possible. I guess if the question is anything to do with whether it is strange that he hasn't said it since Christmas, I can't really say because I don't know how often he was likely to say I love you before that time. But it sounds like you two have patched things up, and that is a wonderful, amazing thing. I'm so glad to hear it! ^_^ I mean, it sounds like you have a loving relationship, even if he hasn't said I love you lately. If it really is bothering you, though, I hope that you can talk to him about it and see what's going on.

it is not that it is necessary but it kinda keeps the relationship alive. You make your partner feel special and I think that is a great thing, i mean i would love to feel special. who wouldn't like to be special?..:)

It very necessary to say "I love you "if you real love him or her ,if you do not say that how do him orher know you love him(her).

yes, its important to say i love you.

Hi patgalca! I think in every relationship, you need to say what you feel and hear what they feel too...especially the words of endearment. I always want to hear my hubby telling me he loves me and of course, i need to feel and see it in his ways too and I know he wanted to hear and feel my love for him just as much. It's like nurturing the relationship amd feeling more confident and assured of your relationships. Well, this is just me who always want words and actions. LOL...Have a nice day.

for us wives is a bit important that we hear i love u's from the person we love and vice versa but never do as a habit. say only when you feel it. and it is not necessary for husbands to say i love you when they let us feel what they really feel like what you have said: hugs, kisses, presents, time and etc.

It seems women are more romantic than men. My wife always tell me or the children "I love you". I have no problem with it because over the years I have learned that she meant every word of this short sentence.

Yes, it is necessary to say "I love you" to the one you really love. It sounds easy and simple but it really has a meaning if you say it with all of your heart. I always say it to my children and husband too. They really appriciated it and make them feel happy.

The necessity of saying "i love you" depends on the person who says it. If you think it is necessary for you and for your partner to have those words then do so. I for once always tells it to my husband. Which he does in return. Even our kids tells us so. And we told them, too. It is our way of assuring one another that we never forget to love each other even in a single day. And as a parent, it made me proud to have such kids. Willing and able to love us- their parents. It made me very thanful that I have such a loving and wonderful children. Not every parents have the opportunity to hear and feel the love of their children. Same thing with their husband or wife. So for us, it is very necessary and fulfilling.