What would you do in this situation?

It is hard to care for someone, and know that they lie constantly. You could be very polite about this cervical cancer thing, since you do not really know. Just tell her that you are willing to go with her to one of her treatments. She will then either have to "put up or shut up" but you will not have told her to her face that you believe she is lying. She may actually have some kind of personality disorder.

Do they really send letters out to people stating they have cervical cancer???...i recall when i was diagnosed with early stage cervical cancer i was told by the doctor that i needed to see a specialist where they did other tests ect, it was the specialist that told me the news....hmmm i dont think i beleive her....

Wow, this one would be Hard to believe if this was one of my friends, and someone I believed in at one time. This is almost like the Boy who Cried wolf who did it one too many times, and there was no Help when they needed it the most. She might just be trying to Scam people and have them all feel Sorry for her, or she could be telling the Truth, but I guess if it was me, and maybe if I somehow seen proof of it as in going to a Dr's apt. and them mentioning it there, I would be very leary of them, and probably afraid to ever Trust or want to talk to them again.

It's really hard to trust someone like that. You don't really want to call her a liar, but it just all seems so unrealistic. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt too much and get burned in the process. Even if it's true, I think your friend has some complexes and could use some professional help...

hmmm.i dont think she is lying this time.i think this time you can trust her that she is not lying

This sounds familliar to someone I knew who did something like this. It is really difficult to choose whether or not to believe someone about something so serious when you know they've made such outrageous lies before in the past. This person I once knew (befriended) did a number of dishonest things to everyone, so I guess that's why many people disliked her. She had quite a strange personality though. It was pretty loud and she made herself sound really spoilt and stuck up sometimes, not caring about how others felt. Pretty confusing. If it was me, I'd probably be a bit honest with her and ask "Is this really true? Are you lying to me?" I asked this a couple of times and she'd reply "Would I lie about this (something serious) to you?" So I believed her. Once she told me she would be gone for surgery for her epilepsy and would be away for 10 (i think.. ?) days. I wasn't sure what to think and the factors sounded pretty fishy.. but being the gullible person I am, I believed her. We often got into arguments and we decided we didn't want to be friends anymore and it was getting pretty repetitive about her sort of having a split personality or something. That (mentioned before) is such a close and true explanation, though! Personality lost/confusion, eh.. Anyways, part of my experience I'd thought I'd share.. Good luck to you =

I think I would tell her that the news was depressing for you, but not for the reasons she would be looking for. Its depressing because she doesn't value your friendship enough to avoid wasting your time with these attention getting maneuvers....you needn't actually say that to her though. Just say that you aren't comfortable talking about problems unless there is going to be a handy solution, and that the frustration of having all these problems in her life must be horrible. Then I would try changing the subject. If she couldn't manage to stay off subjects that put her at the center of some imagined turmil, I would be busy everytime she wished to talk with me ot spend time with me. YOu could also start writing a novel about a woman very much like your friend. After all...what are friends for? LOL

My best friend from years ago was a pathelogical liar. He too at one point told me he had cancer and that he was in an abusive relationship. Confronting his partner I found out that in fact the abuse was reverse and later found out he did not have cancer. I was mad. and faced him with the lies and realized that he beleived tem himself. The sad thing I think is they believe so hard in their lies that the boundary between reality and fantasy is pretty much non-existent in their lives and that they live their own lies.

It's hard to care for someone like that without getting sucked into their drama. If you think she might be telling the truth, ask her if you can accompany her to a doctor's appointment, or ask to the see the letter. Is she aware that you know she's lied about so many other issues? If not, maybe it's time for a confrontation.

Sounds like you need new friends. This one just what someone to listing to their drama. She from what you tell me doesn't care about your opinions or your life. She needs a entertainer to fifull her mess. Leave out of her life.

Ask to see the letter. Ask her the name of her doctor. Offer to go with her to the doctor. As for the baby thing, yes, she's more than likely lying. However, she may have suffered some sort of abuse or maybe a rape or pregnancy in the past that she did lose or did abort and is having some sort of reaction. Or not.

Wow. I don't know if I would feel able to believe her at this point, either. I mean, her story about being pregnant and having a baby at 13 and her aunt living in Las Vegas taking care of the baby is nonsense. It would make me very skeptical of anything else that she says. It would also be really sad if she really does have cancer and no one were to believe her or show her any sympathy, however. But it seems as if she is bringing that on herself by having told so mnay lies. And with medical records being private, i can't see how you or anyone else could check to see if her story is true...

First of all when it comes to this type of person, you can never tell if they are telling the truth or lieing. This is like the little boy who cried wolf. I would really distance myself from this type of person. I had a friend who lied so much about some of the same things that I really felt she believed the lies she told. Once she told my best friend a lie about me I was through with her. My best friend also does not speak to her anymore because she knew me better than that. A 12 year friendship beat the 3 year friendship.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! the lion queen! if it was me id set her up, to prove to her that she has a problem. id make her lie then catch her right in her face, then confront her and say "hey im your friend you dont have to lie to me and if you feel you have to we dont need to be friends".simple as that.

Ask yourself this. If you are a doctor. Would you send a letter to a patient to tell them they had cervical cancer? DO you think that would be the procedure for it? I dont think so. I have to say this: she is obviously a bad liar. At least the lies are bad ones that dont make sense. You could still be buying into her crap. That would suck. Honestly I would just ignore it. I have a step daughter who lies about everything. Well she really used to when I first married her dad. She is bad at it too. She seemed to stop, but the other day she told her real mom she got her period. She hadnt. So her mom gave her all this attention. I did too, until I realized it was not true. It all came to a head when I noticed all these pads in the garbage that were used but nothing on them. I sat her down and asked her what was up. SHe admited after a bit that she was trying to feel cool, and wanted to get her period before he older step sister. It wasnt a big deal, other than the lie. But what do you do? I just told her enough was enough. No more lies.

i have a cousin who is like that. she too can make all people believe in her. she wrote a letter to his dad pretending she is her(my sousin) friend. and also she ask her classmates to lend their cellular phones to her. and then she sold it and told her friends that her auntie brought it abroad.. hahaha.. funny but i felt pity on her.. about your friend just try to make some ways to know if she is telling the truth without telling her in order not to offend her.

wow!your friend sure likes to tell alot of lies.If I was you I would take her word on this one only because what kind of person would lie about a life threating illness just for attention.if it turns out to be true and you don't believe her what kind of friend would you actually be if you didi not believe her?and if this turns out to be another one of her lies then i would sit down and talk to this girl about all these lies she has been saying and tell her how you feel but until you find out its a lie i would believe her on this one.

That is truely sad that your friend has a lieing desease. She wants someone to give her some attention. She obvisiously didnt get it when she was young. If you are a friend to her you should confront her with her lieing. Tell you know she has been lieing. It just might be true that she has cancer.They usual send you something in writing when you have a pap smear. I think you need to have a talk with her. If not you are not friends, in my eyes.

This is a hard situation to be in and it is like the story of the boy that cried wolf. It is hard to believe someone that has lied so soo many times to you about other things that are also just as important. I guess that the best you can do is go along with it to a point until you know for sure. Maybe even have a talk to her about the fact that it is so hard to believe her due to her history of lying! Good luck and God Bless!

Thats so crazy cuz I know someone just like that and to believe them is like being a fool unless you have the proff in front of you!! Somepeople just need the attention cuz they think they dont get it enough!!