Would you confess if you have cheated on a partner?

i already have confessed to doing it once and i will never cheat again... i felt really bad... but our relationship has been thwarted by the fact i confessed... id advise not to confess and NOT TO CHEAT!!! really... the reason not to tell is because your relationship will never be the same again... if you tell and your partner keeps you... they will never trust you again... even to sit at home on your own... i know i have been through it

I think this would have to be a personal decision. Say you cheat and you tell. The person you cheated with is also married and tells. One of you or both get thrown out of the house and possibly a divorce follows. Two families in jepordy of breaking up. I don't see how anyone would trust someone that cheated and I don't see how telling and hurting the spouse would really solve anything? Best not to cheat, and if you love someone why would you WANT to?

I think that if you truly wanted to repent and not do it again you should just do that. I think to confess could be just an effort to throw off your guilt. It would only cause pain if you truly were never going to do it again.

I would never cheat in the first place. I believe it is wrong. If you have to cheat, then you shouldn't be with whoever you are with anyway. Obviously you have no respect for them if you cheat. But IF I did, I would definately confess. No way would I want that on my concious forever. I'd expect to be dumped for it, and I'd deserve it.

I think that confessing is a matter of honesty. You should do it, you already put in risk the relationship, if your partner discover by himself/herself it would be worse than if you tell. That is what I think.

Telling your partner that you have cheated on him/her will be a timebong ready to explode in your face. If you will not repeat your sin maybe it is right to tell your partner that you have cheated. But will you not repeat it or will you just be a forgivefull person? The truth hurts.

i dont think it is easy to confess before your partner that you cheaed him. I have never cheated him and i feel that would never do and keep myself free from having to ever confess to him. I know how much he loves me and wont ever like ot hurt him. I think he would not say anything if this ever happens but would be very deeply hurt.

I belive from the bottom of my heart that cheating is something i would NEVER do. i have been cheated on and I would never want to cause someone else that pain. I also found out from someone else, actually the girl he cheated on me with. she was in love with him and wanted me to dump him, wich I did after trying to forgive and forget. If I were to cheat I think the guilt would kill me and I would either tell or just break up with him. i could not live with him, hiding the fact that I have let him down in the worst way ever!

It's very difficult to strike a happy balance between idealism and realism in a relationship. With regards to your question, wether to confess or not, the immediate answer would then be the ideal, confess! But considering the things that happen in the real world, do you think that the partner will just respond and say ok, no dig deal, you confessed, that's ok for me. Your confession may ruin your partner and may not be able to recover. Of course it depends on the circumstances involved too. Is your partner the emotional type? After the confession, your relationship will never be the same again, that's for sure. There is no such thing as forgive and forget. Nobody forgets in the sense of erasing it from the memory. No, what you did will always ring in your partner's mind. It will always haunt him/her and will think it happened once, it can happen again. Based on this reality of life in the real world, do you agree that some things are better left unsaid? The most important thing here is for the partner who cheated will repent for what he/she has done and promise to himself/herself that he'll never do it again. It doesn't mean I don't believe in confession, I do. But several factors will have to be considered first. You should know how much your partner can take. You are in the position to know his/her pain threshold. Weigh all the factors involved and decide which one is the best, to confess or not to confess.

yeah...if i will cheat anyone...surely i willconfess...as if i will cheat anyone..then surely i will b cheated by anyone one day..! its sure.! dats why i must not cheat anyone dear.!!

I think it is mostly depends on the character of the individual and how much your partner is broad minded! If she is ready to take it in a easy going fashio, everything adds beauty to life.

Good to tell, it would hurt that person, and probably end your relationship. Though I wouldn't want to be with someone, and not tell them something like that. Living with that guilt would be a big burden. A good reason not to tell, I guess the only good reason if the person had a terminal illness, why hurt that person in their last days/months, no other reason to me not to tell.

will telling the partner help? if oit will...well the...i am ready to...

Maybe In my opinion this depends on a couple of things: - What do I feel about cheating that I have done, and how much is it weighing on my mind? - How mature/understanding my partner is and what are my expectation from my partner after this confession? - How honest have I been with my partner in the past and how healthy has been my relationship with the partner?I guess answers to some of those questions would guide me whether I confess or not.

first i will never chear my partner, but if at any circumstances i find that i had cheated my friend then definitely i will let her know the truth so that the trust still remains in between us. I think this is the best way to deal with this type of problems

there is never a good reason not to tell. we are all responsible for our actions. and being responsible is doing the right thing and letting that person know you were unfaithful.

it depends if it is likely that she will know or guilt is too much i will confess and the only way if she will find out is if i tell her then no.In my life only ine time i had 2 g.f at the same time.After a month i dont know something happenen i said to 2nd one that i have a g.f and i really love her.Luckily first one never got to know about this.i have'nt confessed X

i think do they have to share that thing with the partner if thing is done in past life

If you cheated on your partner then you should better have a confession because you violated the law of marrage and most especially the law of god. But you must really rpent on what you have done because if not, your confession is useless!

If you cheated on your partner, well you better should have a confession because you violated the law of marraige and even the law of God. But do that if you really repent on what you have done because if you're not, the confession is useless!