Do you know how to catch a cheater?

I myself have never cheated, but have been cheated on. I am pretty intuitive about things like that, and if I have an inkling that I am being cheated on, I will follow up on it. My ex was cheating, and was very good at hiding it. He was not actually seeing the other person, it was a long distance affair. I knew something was up though, so I started my investigation. lol I got our cell records in detail from the company, called the numbers he had called that were not familiar. He calls this other country often, so the number did not stand out. I pretended to be his sister on the ones I did not know. I finally got the girl on the phone, and told her that he was ill and needed her to call. His phone rang in the other room and I walked in. I asked him to whom was he speaking. He said his Mom and started to walk away. I asked for the phone, and he tried to give some excuse. I then asked to speak with Yolanda(her name) and he turned white as a ghost. I later found out he had been talking with her for about a year. He had sent her lots of money, and his letters to her spoke of marriage and a life together. I in turn ruined his life here in the U.S. I have my ways about things like that. He is now living back in his home country without the girl, as she was a little shocked of his family here also. I tell my current hubby, he need not try and fool me. I am all knowing, and he is pretty straight up about everything he does. lol

I had never cheated but I was cheated on and it was so sad. I found out because common friends saw him at the mall with this girl.. And one time I received a letter with him stating that he LOVED some body else. but apparently he has been dating the girl behind my back.. What a jerk

A friend of mine was able to install 'key logger' software into her computer. It logged every single keystroke and website that her husband visited. She was able to read all of his instant messages, emails, etc. and caught him cheating. I'd say it's something to look into if anyone is suspicious that their mate is cheating on them.

In my puppy love days yes I cheated I don't know if that counts. However I have been cheated on a few times too. One time I went to see the guy I was dating by surprise and the other girl showed up. Can you believe he went and hid in the shower. I told the other girl she could have hhis sorry a$$. Then there was the time my best friend asked me to barrow some money for a pregnancy test. I lent it to her and come to find out she thought the dad was my boyfriend. I found out because my boyfriend was black and she was white. Her parents did not agree with interracial dating and she was scared she was going to have a mix child. SHe broke down and told me and asked my advice. I said well for one you can lie in the bed you made and Peace Out.

I had no such relationships in which i had the scope of cheating but i had one relationship in which i got cheated. It was on the internet i used to chat with that guy all the time he was cute very handsome but one day i came to know that he was just fiddling around with me and just wanted someone to chat when he got bored. He confessed it to me and i was so pissed off from that day and i prefer not to look for love on the internet.

Most of the time people who i trust the most cheats me, but some how i come to know, i really have no idea about..

I am also a writer...so if you ever want to talk. I don't subscribe to associated content though...I do have a website at http://homebody2001-ivil.tripod.com I did cheat on someone in the past and regretted it after..if you want to talk..? I also used to go with a couple of guys who went out with other women...although...I actually seen them with the women...so I don't know if that is considered cheating? Anyway...I will read your article and good luck...and please feel free to contact me. Sincerely,

Wow you are a great writer and you have a wonderful begining I believe for a book. I have been cheated on before also and after reading your work I see you have already heard of the start a fight and he says that he needs to "walk it off" deal and really he goes out to cheat. I had a boyfriend and he needed a place to live, so I guess he kept the relationship with me so that he had a place to live. However I found out a few other ways... for one he was very interested in knowing my exact work schedule. When I needed to start and what time would I get off, would I be coming home for my lunch break. I found out he was cheating on me in my own bed. I worked two jobs. I didn't find out for a long time. My guy friend that was friends with him told me later but he said the code of the men was not to tell if one was cheating. I also found out that on one occassion when I went to that friends house looking for my boyfiend that he was there with is other girl. I thought it was odd that I was not invited into the house and the door was only opened enough for him to tell me he wasn't there. Also I would add that a woman should have complete access to the finances. Any increase in spending on the Credit cards can show a cheater and recipts for resturants in his coat pocket. And what cheater hasn't used the old excuse that they had a bit of car trouble. Now I have never cheated but was accussed of it. I had no idea that he thought that either. We had planed to get married. He suddenly started pulling away from me and I didn't understand why. The more he tried to pull away the more I tried to pull him in closer and the more crazy I got. He wouldn't tell me why, until like six months after the big brake up did he make a spitful remark that I had cheated on him. I was blown away. Later I discovered that his female friend had directed the whole thing making it appear that I was cheating on him and I was no good. She wanted him and she got him for a spell after the break up. I don't believe that he was ever cheating on me during our relationship, there was no sign of that and I believe she knew it. I truely believe that she knew the only way she could get him is if she could get rid of me. She got with him and slept with him then ended it and she later asked me why did I want him anyways, because she felt he was terrible in bed. It still hurts but I wouldn't want to be married to such a fool. Now I have found a wonderful man who I have married. He is military and he sees cheating all around him from his base. He tells me how crazy he feels it all is and that is why he calls me so much when he is away because he doesn't wish to have me even think that it is possible that he would be cheating on me. I know with his job it would be so easy for him to cheat without me knowing. He litterally calls me 4 times a day when he is away for Monday through Friday and only comes home on the weekends. He tells me everything he has done that day and I see all the bills and I have total access to his email address and everything, so I feel secure that he is all mine. Sometimes military can be so hard on a relationship, it takes more work and not only do you have to be faithful but you don't want to do anything that may spark the rumor that you may be cheating. My husband and I keep cell phones on us at all times. I always answer right away when he calls. Thanks so much for sharing, I would love to be your ginny pig for more of your writings, I do believe however that you should write in more detail about the effect the suspicion of cheating can have on a relationship and the how other people could be working to try to make you suspicious, possibly for there own benifit. However you rang true about having trust does not mean you should be blind.

Cheating any body is the concern depends on information about people colleted by the cheater and present by the person got a cheat. A person could gain more cheats if not at all tried to gain a few querries in mind about aspects relations and make the aspects tobe gain true meaning to come out of people but hard to detect. Cheating by me is intelligent one that could not be guessed so much easily the above is alos a cheat of philosopher. Try and catch it.

sorry i don't know how to catch a cheater

I have never cheated but have been cheated on. While I was pregnant with my second child. I called the terminal to see if my husband could call me when he got in (we needed milk and I wanted him to pick it up on the way home) they stated he had already gotten in I just ok and hung up. A few hours later I felt uneasy and he had a lock box so I decided to break it open here he was supporting a wife and a whole other family they were even going to marriage counseling together. So I took her out for coffee and told her who I was and moved out. They had been married for 5 years I had no clue he had told me he was divorced and we lived together. He was an over the road truck driver so we both got tricked.

Great article, Michelle! Very informative!

In my life i caught many cheater using with my little brain and helps with others,but in computer field now only i enter so i hope soon i will meet here many cheater,but we should think will and share our thoughts with our close friends,if you seek many friends with out a proper line means you face trouble with cheater again and again so my advice is think well and consult before we take any action after you find cheater first time you give a warn if they again do the same mistake means you can go with proper law and take action against the cheater.

i looked at the link you mentioned and i say you're a good writer. About the topic on cheating, yes i have been victimized and what is so worst is that, this cheater is someone i trusted so much. It really broke my trust and faith in people. I guess i became suspicious. i lost my self esteem and even my happy spirit. now, i'm regaining my self esteem little by little but it is so hard to trust. i still hate the one who cheated me. i hope one day i will be able to live in another place and never hear from them again.. that's what cheater/s had done to me ... it may look like i'm hardened spiritually by these cheaters, not in all aspects of my life, fortunately, i still smile and see beauty around me. especially people i love so much. as to being a cheater myself, i don't think i have not intentionally and not really what i classify as cheating. i don't know what the term is.

Yes i cheated on many times and Of course i catch some friends of mine