Atheist get married in church??

many people do it because its fashionable ,or because they have to have some kind of ceremony an they didnt want to make thier riends go thru some corny one they make up or i am not sure only your friend can tell you why but in japan we all usually exchange vows at a church in a wedding gown then d the same at a shrine located on the same premises huge places called wedding castles that allow all forms of marriage then later after 2 ceremonies we go to a huge balroom where lavish 7 course meals are served and we get drunk and pass microphones around makeing speeches about the bride and groom who are now dressed in ball gowns. after the big thing is over the bride and groom dress once again into evening wear for going out on the town and they take a group of thier friends about 20-30 and they go to 2-3 driking establishments lol

who cares what other people are "offended" by. It's their wedding, their lives. Let them live it and do what they want. (in response to the 'coming before God' comment) I personally just think people get too involved in living in other peoples lives and what they should do with their lives. When really people should be worring about their own.

I would say if they both are atheists, they dont need to get married in the first place. Because it is only religion which provides the bond of marriage. Marriage is like moralizing your relationships. And if they are only doing it for tradition too then they dont mean anything to God, because a non-believer is a non-believer no matter even if he or she is in the royal presence of God itself.

Are you sure they are Atheists? Did you check their atheist cards? Don't worry about it. The Creator knows the perfect way to handle this union. Take care KK_84in

I am an atheist and chose not to get married in church for a couple of reasons. Firstly I thought it would be hypocritical of me to do so, and secondly, had we gone that route, the service would have included a number of references to God that I, quite frankly, wasn't comfortable with given my beliefs.

The tradition thing is probably to blame for an awful lot of atheists marrying in church. It baffles me entirely. Pretty much everything that gets said during the standard wedding statements would mean nothing to an atheist, from the words "Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in the sight of God......". Well, as far as an atheist would be concerned that statement is a lie. Why would you want to start your married life with a lie? If an atheist and a believer want to get married, then they have a hard decision to come to. No doubt the believer would not want a registry office wedding because then presumably they would not feel married in the eyes of God. But equally they should not be forcing an atheist into doing something they don't believe in. Personally, I think the best thing would be to not bother getting married at all, but again you probably find that a lot of religious people still believe in the "living in sin" thing and would not be prepared to do so. It's a total minefield! I think it's shame that people cannot separate marriage and religion. A wedding ceremony should simply be about 2 people stating that they want to be together (and not necessarily for life!), and stating that in front of friends and family. And then having a really good party!!!! Since you asked if the answerers would do it: No. But then that is because a) I'm an atheist who doesn't believe in hypocrisy and b) because I also don't see the point of marriage.

They should not do it by family pressure. They are getting married, not their families. They are opening a big door for more problems in the future. And once this door is opened it is very hard to close, and I talk from personal experience.

First of all let me define the true meaning of "Church" a greek word, meaning ecclesia or the called out ones, Church means the people called out from the world who gather togather in one place to meet, worship and sing songs and fellowship. So that defined the places people marry or actually just a building that society incorrectly calls a church, when it is only a location of where the actual church body meets. So if your friend wants to get married in a building that houses a body of church people on Saturday or Sunday, why not, the rest of the week it is just a building and can be used for other purposes. If it makes her feel special fine. Or maybe deep down in her soul she is not a true athiest. Either way the building is technically not "the church" or "a church"

In my opinion if they don't believe in God and they are getting married in a church they would be basing their marriage on a lie. If I got married in a place where the beliefs were not the same as I ~ I would think the marriage to be true or official. Why let their family or the beliefs of others bully their decisions? If their family knows they are atheist and obviously still care about them they should respect their wishes and beliefs buck it up and let them do as they want. There is no way that I would let others force me to get married any other way than what I have chosen. When I got married I did have a few people in my life try to lure me into a certain "type" of ceremony and have certain things happen at my wedding. I plainly spoke up and told them..."I am getting married not you....if you want that at a wedding then you should of done that at your wedding." Seems almost hypecritical to get married in a church and not believe.

well i dont see any wrong with that. If you're an atheist, getting married in a church wouldn't hurt you. You just have a perception that this is only a formality for the marriage. it doesn't involve anyway of religion. its just a perception and purpose.

People just like the western concept of the bride in a white dress marching up the aisle and the whole shebang :P In many asian countries they do this, then they dress up with their traditional garbs and take photos for posterity, even though they had a western wedding. Obviously, most of these people aren't even catholic or christian. The same thing happens in the West with atheists and not-so religious people. They just want the white dresses and the priests words and the vows and the wedding bands and so on. It's a concept that's been sold to most people, romaticized in novels, television and countless movies. People are saps, aren't they? Many people are not catholic but they get their children baptized because it's "tradition" and because without the baptism, they are not allowed to have a wedding in a church. So they don't really do it because of God, they just do it because they like the ceremony.

I myself would think that an athiest would want a ceremony not at all related to God, but to their love for each other. There are plenty of nice places to marry besides a church. It really makes no sense to me at all why they would marry in a place that they do not believe in in the first place. How can you promise before God, if you do not believe in him? I think that it will be completely meaningless. I owuld want something that meant something to me, not totally against what I believed. To each his own, and I hope they do not regret their meaningless vows one day.

It will not hurt what they believe, nothing wrong in pleasing others around them and keeping a tradition, they may just like the ceremonies and all although they don't believe it's necessary.

its not really tradition, its just romantic n i doubt that they see it in any way religious..

A traditional Church wedding, with all its fineries is the lifelong dream of most girls (and many guys though most probably wouldn't admit it). For quite a number of years now, this has been possible apart from a Church. Many weddings are conducted in public halls, in clubs, in restaurants, in parks, on beaches, or just about anywhere - complete with all the fineries and traditions. A civil celebrant will conduct the ceremony and many will allow the couple to write their own vows. They don't even have to mention God. Have your two atheist friends considered the alternatives? Could you suggest them to your friend? I am a Christian and would disagree with atheists on that subject, but they have a right to their beliefs. I do believe, however, that if they choose to marry in a Christian Church, they are making a mockery of the Church as well as being extremely hypocritical. In Christian Churches that I know, I doubt if they would be able to use the Church. Most pastors of Christian Churches will not marry a couple unless they undertake a period of pre-marriage counselling, and would, under the circumstances, advise the couple to look elsewhere.

Many people do not understand what they do, they just follow what has been done and traditions. Well yes, if you're a real atheist, you should not marry in the church where God is present. Just do what you want without God because you do not believe in God. I hope atheists will realize what they believe in. They believe in a person who made that big bang theory and that person is not perfect.

Before I even decided whether or not to believe in God, I decided I wanted to get married in a church. Marriage this way is about symbolism and it's a day for YOU and your Partner. It's a way to get everyone together and celebrate the fact that you are married. Basically we are sinful human beings who want attention and will get married and have the spot light on us even if we don't believe in God. Even if I ever changed my mind about God, I think I would still get married in a church. I want that special day with everyone, and to celebrate my love for my significant other. marriage is about love now as much as it is about God.

well that is not a disrespect,......we follow certain traditions when we know or feel that they are unnecessary.....so what is the matter if an atheist gets married in church?....he is making his family happy, and friends happy by marrying according to tradition, whether he believes in god or not is not, is secondary....the most important thing is keepin happy your loved ones....i bet their parents may be very much delighted to know this and ,may even hope that they mayturn believers later on.....

I'm not a Christian believer (I don't belong to any organized religion, but feel a spiritual connection to a Greater Being) and do not want to be married in a church. I was raised in a Christian society though, and feel that many people will conform to the standard just to be accepted by their peers.

Although I do find it funny they decided to get married in a church I don't think it's wrong for them to want to wed in one. I guess to them it's just a pretty place to get married. I'm sure, as long as they show respect to everybody there, that it isn't all that disrespectful either.