I Married an American

Yep! When my husband and I got married, it was after we had my first child. To this day, when around new people and the subject of my wedding date comes up, they are quick to do the math. Yes, some are jerks enough to say an asinine thing like "Oh you HAD to get married". This kills me, she was over a year old. If I HAD to get married, it would have been sooner than that. My goodness she's in my wedding photos for crying out loud. Anyway it kills me how people seem to want to find reasons we married besides, we love each other. To these people you just have to say, “Get a Life!” and go on. You know your reasons, your spouse knows your reasons, so just forget about the idiots.

i was 17 when i married ,i was pregnant but lost the baby before we married . we could have called it off but we decided to marry anyway my elder sister use to make remarks to me like litle mrs. rich but i happened to marry the poorest japanese man in all of japan who has constantly been out of work , i lived off of a business i ran then my husband ran into the ground while i was pregnant and ill with twins, i am currently on welfare and relatives in the US still think i am well to do altho i have never been and certainly am not now.i hate it when they bring things up like how hard it is putting money away for ccolledge for thier 3 boys and thier home mortgage and two minivans ,when i dont even have a car , rent my house and on welfare the rent is not allowed to exceed $340 a month ,and high school is not free in japan so saving enough for my 3 daughters high school is a struggle .colledge they will not go to unless they pay themselves ,so i understnad what you feel about people makeing thier own decisions of what your life is all about it can be quite frustrateing

Yes I have my Ex Parents where under the Impression that I married to get my drivers License and get away from Home Well I was n't and hadn;'t even lived at home before I even met as for the Drivers License well I laughed at that See in the Army even the Wifes get their License free so that is where that one came from He was the one in the end who pushed me to do my License found out why aswell so I could drive hiom around while is drunk

well one of my friend has the same case. she loved and american and moved to us forever. and later on she was accused for the same reason to marry him

it is really hard that you are able to be in that kind of situation that is very dramatical and hard to solve. but for me.. the only thing i can say is that... you know for yourself what is true... then you don't have to react on this.. because if your not guilty... then so what? let them waste all their money effort and time in bothering you

Wow that's tough.. but there are a lot of people out there who are in the same situation as you. Just think of it as they envy you because of your accomplishments which they were not able to grb for themselves. Too bad they hit your emotionl side just to get back at you

I am from Europe (Germany) and met an American also...I got pregnant and we moved to the States where we got married...His family always told me,that the only reason,I got pregnant was...so I could come to America...my feeling,were really hurt..because,when I lived in Germany,I had a lot more money and material things...I lived a good live,but gave it up for the man I loved...at the time.I don't understand people sometimes..how cruel they can be..I know,that here in America,they have a lot of illegal immigrants and people,that come here for money...but please,I came from a country,there the poverty level is really low...probably lower,than the states.And speaking of Immigration...I was treated like a criminal...a spy...I don't know..but I felt very violated...Whiteheather,did you feel that way too?

yes... i also have been accused of marrying my husband to be able to stay in australia and get the residency which is totally not true... it is just annoying when people start interfering with our relationship and say something negative about us... i married him solely because i love him and vice versa... nothing else... the residency is a bonus for me... :-)

Oh sure... my husband is an American, too, but he came to Canada to be with me. He is 12 years younger than I am AND we met online. I supported the whole family for the full year it took to get his Permanent Residence and permission to work. We followed the rules to the absolute letter. Can you hear the gossip wires buzzing? LOL People always have comments... they had comments when I got married the first time ("too young"), comments when I got divorced after that 18 year relationship ("well, whose fault was it?"), comments about the new marriage.... and you know what? I couldn't care less. They can talk all they want. My husband and I are extremely happy, he treats me like the best thing that's ever happened to him and he didn't have kids of his own but slid right into being a step-dad like a seasoned pro. We both work hard and are devoted to family. We are good people, we care about others and we're honest. Anyone who wants to find fault with that.... knock yerself out ;)

as long that you two love each other, you don't have to listen to the other.

i havent been in your situation as i am an american but my boyfriend is also from europe. he is from macedonia to be exact. he has been here since he was 6 years old and has permanent residency here. i think it's absured that people say to legal immigrants that the only reason they got married was to become a citizen here. if you had a very good job a car and a house in europe then i think you're doing pretty darn good for yourself and it wouldnt make sense for you to want to get married for only that reason. many people marry others from different countries for love not to get them citizenship here. thanks for bringing this up.. what country are you from??

hey pls tell me what does "duffel bag" mean

as u have loved that american u married then u r life should be happy as both of u should live happily

just dont mind other people, always be happy and always remeber that your husband is a gift of God to you. my husband is canadian so some of his friends think that i marry him bec of oppurtunity but i dont listen to them bec i know what is true and aside from that i also encourage my husband to lived here in my country so that his friends will stop accused me but now they like me already specially his parents just strong always and prepare your self.

I think people say whatever they comes to their mind. And most interestingly they will go on saying. you cant stop them. What you should be concerned about is what you have actually done and what was your motive behind that.You know people are jealous, they say anything when they feel that others have done something that they could not do. So if your main reason behind marrying your hubby is love, then I would rather advise you not to pay heed to what others say!!

MY mother-in-law accused me of marrying my husband just because I got pregnant by him. I have to say that really hurt not just me but my husband as well. I am as much in love with my husband today as I was 6yrs ago on our wedding day. He may not be perfect but he is perfect for me.

I dont have any experience with that, but in my opinion so long as you are happy that is important no matter what other people think about that.

I have not faced anything like you have, but I would like to say that there are small minded, arrogant people everywhere. I am sorry that people have treated you that way. It is funny how people would rather think of negatives than positives.

I'm sorry people did that to you because your love was real. A lot of people get jealous and say things that hurt others but forget them. I do think some people marry for money but if the person that is marrying them are willing to go ahead then it really is not anyone elses business.

Thats terrible. Though I have never faced or seen such accusations but I can feel the pinch of these comments. It is indeed a backlash of various forms of valid and invalid ways people are adopting to get into America. But making this accusation against one and all is incorrect.