Trying to please people

most of my life, i've been trying to please people, even though that meant having to sacrifice my own happiness for them. maybe you ought to tell your mom that even though you're not the person she wants you to become, you're still the same person who loves her very much. being different is not a crime, and if your mom loves you unconditionally (as i believe all mothers do), then she'd understand and come to terms with your uniqueness as a person.

I used to work really hard at pleasing other people, I would go out of my way to make sure they were happy, and I would do things that I didn't want to in order to please them. Then one day I realized I had lost myself in all the pleasing for other people, and it turned out that I was not happy or pleased. So I learned that I have to please myself first. It is unhealthy to alsways worry about what others think or what they want. I know this may sound selfish but it isn't. I am a good person, I care about other people, I ma nice to other people and I do take into consideration what other people want, but in the end the decission is based on what I really want. Sometimes what I really want is to please another person and that is fine, becuase it is what I want. If you go thorugh life pleasing other people, you end up not having any idea who you are or what you want, and it can and does cause health problems. In order to be around to please these other people you have to take care of yourself, and that means pleasing yourself. Having a thousand people love you means nothing if you don't love yourself, and when you spend all your time trying to please other's you are not showing yourself any love.

Yes I used to have that Problem when I was married but it did not matter what I did I could not please him and save the Marriage so after 21 Years I gave up on the whole performance as he did not really want the Marriage anyway.

yeah.. i hate it when i try my best to please a person and i dont even get a thank you not even a smile!!

hey friend, wat i cud learn fm ur posting is tat, u often deliberately try 2 please your mom.. i'm sorry to tell u, but if u try deliberately, the things may not work the way u think.. u pls dont be artificial.. u jus keep doin your duties as a good son to her..., like, lovin her more, taking care of her.... askin her how she is alwz, and keepin in touch with her as frequently as possible.. may be she might be knowing ur heart frm inside, but she's not showing it outside.. jus keep doin ur duty as a good son, never fail in that, and never lose hope.. she will definitely, one day realize u.. keep trying, even if it costs ur life.. wishing u all the good...