Etiquette?

lol whaa i cant believe you get that. women love to have the door held open 4 them, their chair pulled out and so on. well thats what i thought. keep being your nice self.

Oh I love it when someone is nice enough to open the door for me and such things. I teach my children the importance of good manners. I teach my son to let the women and children go first or help the older woman or man when they need help or a little slow at something or don't understand some of this world's new technology. My girls are very polite and say yes mam and no mam or sir. I think it is respectful and helps make for a nicer enviroment to live in. It does not mean weakness of any sort and if someone thinks such type thing, I believe they have personal issues and are maybe not so secure in who they are.

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It is an amazing thing that so many of the younger generations are so rude and so unaware of what ettiqette even is. Public schools are not allowed to teach it, parents don't spend much time with their kids to begin with, so when would they have time to teach a child good manners? I was brought up to respect everyone around me UNLESS they give me a darned good reason not to. I don't understand the lack of respect for eachother.

First, as a young woman, I would like to apologize for those sneers you have received. I appreciate receiving politeness and assistance from strangers and friends. Shame on those who cannot be gracious enough to receive it. And shame on those (male or female, old or young) who cannot contribute good manners and decency! Perhaps etiquette a la Emily Post is disappearing. This occurance is most likely natural as most generations cast off what they view is useless. Every generation charges the next with ruining civilization. The courtiers of Louis XIV would have been outraged by the Victorians and the Victorians would assume we are all going to hell. My father complains about my generation being useless slackers. And my friends and I complain about the brainless teenage drones. I haven't decided whether good manners are disappearing or not. I know a large part of it is we always remember the rude people. It's harder to forget the insult and we take the kindness for granted. I actually had a discussion about this subject with a few friends the other day. We were talking about how it may be easier to be rude today. With WWII, Vietnam, the counterculture of the '60s, the internet, and the rise of consumerism and me-ism we consider everyone and everything fair game. So if this is the attitude there is no need to acknowledge or defer to anyone since this would go against our personal sovereignty. We all want to believe we live in a class-less and equal society. And as jfglassworks and devideddi rightly pointed out, the lack of manners also points to the circumstances of one's childhood. If a child is not taught what manners and social conduct are that child has a good chance to keep their ignorance into adulthood. I would just like to add though, a person can only be taught ideals. They cannot be made to practice them. I have met nasty adults that have sweet, decent parents. And it can be said everyone has a different idea of what constitutes good manners or etiquette. Ok, sorry about the rant. I will just urge everyone to keep saying "please" and "thank you." Oh, and don't hit anyone who slams a door in your face.

I love when my husband holds the door open for me!! I think we should bring the etiquette from th old days back!

I don't think there is no place for etiquette . There always are some people who fails to realise your courtsey , but you should not be disappointed at it . Your good behaviour will definitely be valued by more in time .

hi friend, to gain proper etiquettes is a most apprecible thing. In case of your neighbours thinking of you as a sexiest person that depends on your behaviour bcoz if you'll clear them they could think like that bcoz they dont have any kind of clear cut behaviour information about you to gain faith on you. Otherwise if you go talking in a neat and clean way to them they will definitely let to know the well mannered and areas of yours in your society.

Yes, good etiquette will never go out of style. There will always be some of us who have enough self-respect as well as respect for others to use good etiquette. As for your holding the door, that is something that one should do for anybody approaching the door...be it man, woman or child! Sadly, some insecure women are trying so hard to be secure that they see your general etiquette as being sexist. I am really bothered by women who take the sexist crap too far. Why should you lower your standards and then feel badly about yourself, only to please a few insecure women! Lets see, wasn't it Lincoln who said, "you can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time." Continue on with your etiquette dear man...you are part of a dying breed!

Etiquette???? We need more. I tried to teach my sons the finer points about manner, eating, opening doors, giving up thier seat to someone else etc. Nothing too refined, but at least they know to stick out their right hand for a good old fashioned hand shake

I consider myself a feminist and I love when any person, man or woman, is kind enough to hold a door for me. I always do for others when I get the chance. I like it when my hubby opens car doors for me. We are teaching our sons how to be gentlemen as well.

Ya i think some people really have good manners and etiquettes but most of them have never followed gud rules..!!

good etiquette are already uprooted in ones self even if we are bombarded with different cultures. it will always be a reminder of the things that are appropriate.

No matter how people deny it, i think majority of decent girls would still love it if men open doors for them, and even old people. Actually, etiquette is everything! You cant set that aside. Those people who cant accept that are narrow-minded. When you meet someone with proper etiquette with just the right amount of that, dont you feel good of having met him? And in some way, you want to copy his ways, even just a few of it. I feel that way. And I always thought it would be a much better place if all of us would show courtesy to everyone most of the time.

Don't ever let anyone laugh you out of good manners. Maybe it wasn't a sneer, maybe they couldn't believe that there are actually people left in the world that are mannerly. I applaud you for trying to keep good etiquette alive in our crass society.

i agree with u in this regard i also feel that mannerisnm is now art forgotten

I know what you are talking about it and it's shame that it's happened to you. I know I always thank someone for holding a door for me. I also will open doors for others even if I am female, I just think of it as being nice and polite. What realy irks me is when I see someone who is having trouble opening the door and there are others nearby and they ignore them. I rush over to help and the person is grateful but all these others could care less. My thought is be helpful to one another. I don't think the newer generations are learning such things as Black Tie affairs. They certainly don't know what RSVP means. Try planning a birthday party for a kid and not having any clue as to how many will be there because the parents never call to let you know. Etiquette should still be taught, should still be honored. It makes us better then just cavemen. It is very sad to see how society is going with some things and realizing that nicities we took as being part of the world are fading away.

Good manners and etiquette are still appreciated. I think it's sad that so many people lack them. I used to love to read etiquette books and its a disappointing thing that so many people lack in those social graces. I love to go out for dinner and have my husband order for me. Of course I tell him what I would like before the waitress comes but there is something to hearing him say "my wife will have the...." We recently went out to dinner with a group of people and the quiet exchange of what I'd like was missed by one of our companions. Later she remarked on my husband ordering for me and I filled her in. Once she realized that it was a courtesy and not a sexist thing she thought it was very sweet.

Etiquette is still appreciated. I appreciate it when my guy opens the door for me and I gave him a resentful look when we cross the road and I am on the danger zone. His sister commented his action once when she saw us crossing the road and I'm on the danger zone. I once told him "You are not a gentleman, you don't know how to take good care of a lady, you should not be my boyfriend." He was shock and from that day on he watch his manners. lol. Sometimes you just have to say it for them to understand.

yes it does have place in the society. i appreciate it very much when men becomes gentlemen once again, and when girl becomes ladies. i think that we should look back at those times when the society was refined with their mannerisms, it looks good and feels good when you know that you are surrounded by people who knows some good etiquette.