Does it bother you if your husband/wife/partner doesn't go to bed when you do

Definitely, I can't sleep without him in bed with me. If he's not ready for bed I will lay on his lap on the couch and go to sleep, he'll carry me to bed when he goes.

Not really. Whenever the other is tired and wants to go to bed, they should go to bed. I don't think you two should have to feel obligated to go to bed at the same time unless you have a special evening planned.

I think people will go to bed when they are tried. We don't have to do EVERYTHING together.... people need to do things on their own too.

Well me and my wife work differnt shifts so she's either already alseep or waking up when I get home. She sometimes tries to stay awake and wait for me so that we can sleep together but it doesn't always work out that way. For while I couldn't fall asleep in our bed alone and would just sleep in my easy chair. Now we've gotten use to sleeping at different times alot so its not so hard.

it doesn't seem to bother me at all, im quite happy to go to bed own my own and leave my boyfriend to what he has to do or if he goes to bed before me, he nags me so much, i shout, lol, he doesn't like me sitting up on my own but i like it becuase it's nice to have a bit of peace and a quiet moment, plus to get things done, what i haven't been able to do! :)

actually not .. Sometimes the other person has some thing one her mind and needs some time . and may be she is not in mood to go to bed ..

well I'm not sure how he really feels cause I am always the one going to bed last... I couldn't tell you the last time that my husband and I went to bed at the same time, it just doesn't happen in this house.. my husband goes to bed just too early and I always have a heap of things to get done in the night.. I wish that we both went to bed together at night but I just cant otherwise the work wont get done.. there is a couple of times that my husband has been away working and I must admit I find it VERY hard to sleep when he isn't there so if it was the other way around I would want him to come to bed with at the same time cause without him I cant sleep.. :) .. have a great day

At times it does. My husband and I lead such hectic lives that It can't be helped at times.

My partner used to get upset when I didn't go to bed with him. And I am not a person that sleeps that much. So he had to endure me chatting to him, tossing and turning, poking at him, me getting out of bed several times, me wiggling my foot back and forth, sighing because I couldn't sleep, and me being just a plain nuisance. LOL But now, he has come to understand that I just can't sleep the same hours as he does. So, if I go to bed at the same time as him and start to irritate him, I will either get kicked out of bed to go read or I will willingly leave saying I do not keep him awake. ha ha

Yes, i can sleep unless my partner is there although when it is the other way about when i finally go to bed i cant sleep for her snoaring. I think it is something in your self consience which is used to your partner being there and being with you. i always stay up or watch the tv in bed until my partner comes to be.

It doesn't bother me, but we always talk before bed. If one of us goes to bed first, we have our chat first and then off to bed for whoever is tired.

It used to bother me as well in the beginning, but now it really doesn't bother me at all. At first I thought we were supposed to sleep at the same time, but then I realized that we each have different schedules. Sometimes I will sleep before him, and other times he will sleep before me. I think it just depends on what we're doing.

Hi, I know how you feel. My husband and go to bed without each. At 1st it bothered me too. But over time I got used to it. Now it just seems normal. It's never because we are mad at each other as we have a rule not to do that and it has served us well over the yrs. At first he was the one sitting up and now it's me. At first I thought there was something wrong with our marriage, and feared it would not last. I began sitting up with him and found it wasn't that he didn't want to sleep me. Turned out he just had problems sleeping at night and he didn't want to keep me awake at night. So to anyone that does have this problem, don't assume there is a problem with the relationship. It could simply be your mate or spouse is trying not to disturb your rest. Oh and it wouldn't hurt to discuss this in the beginning and not worry in private. It nearly drove me nuts till I figured it out.

Does it bother you that your husband doesn't take a crap when you're taking one?

One going to bed ahead has never been a problem; however if the other sleeps on the couch regularly, then there is a problem!

well in my case. my husband goes to bed sharp at his time. and i dont feel sleepy till late night. he insists me to sleep with ,atleast to talk to him. i too di dit , but before i could realise he will be deep asleep and i would have been talking to walls. so i dont prefer to sleep when he goes to bed.i keep spending time on the computer. still for long time he felt offended that i dont spend time with him when he sleeps. when i explained to him hat he alomost sleeps immediately in bed, he left me to my chioce.

It does not bother me if my wife goes to bed sooner.I never used to persuade or force her to wait till i finish my work.She would be damn tired after a long day's work.In my opinion Its always good not to trouble others for your own comfort.

Me and my wife have funny sleeping habits. When she changes into clothes for the night after supper, she sets the alarm. She falls asleep in her lounger and I fall asleep on the couch. We haven't slept in our bed for 2 years!

It used to bother me the first couple years of marriage but now I've learned to take advantage of it and hog up the whole bed while he sits up.

Jenalyn, I am currently going through a divorce (which I think this could have been a small factor in all of the many that contributed to that happening)- but it seemed that I was the one always going to bed first. I believe that couples should go to bed together. Even if one of you isn't tired, you can always stay up and read in your bed, or watch tv, or whatever. I still think that it helps relationships if the couple does small, insignificant things like these together. I also like the comfort of having someone next to me when I am in bed- Thank God for Dogs!! :)