1st baby -- how old were you?
By monica1216
@monica1216 (509)
United States
January 16, 2007 6:31am CST
How old were you when your 1st child was born. Did you feel ready emotionally and financially at that age?
I was only 22 but I do think that it was okay when we had our 1st because I was ready emotionally. My mom had had a baby when I was 14 and I had gotten the experience of helping to take care of that baby was I knew a lot about babies and young children. Also I had a great job that offered me 4 months of paid maternity leave when my baby was born!
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119 responses
@forjosie (1544)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 07
After I read all responses, I think that I am the oldest that had a first baby...:D:D:D
I had my firt baby at 27 years old, after I finishised my university. I am ready for the emotional, but the financial we had very-very beginning at marriage.
I am glad can pass that a hard time.....
Now my firt daughter is 9 years old, now I am pregnant my second kids. I hope it will ok for everything...amen!!!!
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@symontimea (842)
• Romania
16 Jan 07
i am still not married, and i do not have any baby. and i do not think i will have one in the near future
@independent_inAK (274)
• United States
17 Jan 07
then why did you respond to this?
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@DeepThought (433)
• South Africa
16 Jan 07
My first baby was born about two months ago, and we thought we were ready, but in retrospect it is a lot more difficult to deal with her than either one of us expected. I think it will get better with time.
@monica1216 (509)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Awww... yes it will get easier and easier. I think it takes till the baby is about 4 months old before you really can see some light at the end of the stressful & exhausting tunnel! Hang in there.
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@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
I was 15 turning 16 when I had my first child. Would I recommend it to others,no. Would I regret it, no.
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@cmbb2003 (6)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I was married at 18 and had twin girls a year later. I was young and I do wish I would've waited HOWEVER I wouldn't give up my kids for the world. I'm now 29 and they are 10 years old so I'm look a cool young mom lol I now have a 2 year old too and he wears me out more than ever lol.I hate when people say they are waiting till they are financially ready. What exactly does that mean? Are you ever financially ready to have kids? If I'd a waited till then I'd never have them.
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@monica1216 (509)
• United States
17 Jan 07
yeah I agree that waiting till financially ready is silly and pretty much unattainable.
@nhingneng (131)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
I have mine when i was 23 and now i have 2 boys. i believe that babies are angels sent from heaven to make us happy. though it is a sweet-painful feeling at first. it was all worth it when i see him smile and say's "mama".
@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
17 Jan 07
I had my 1st child at 23 I thought it was a good age I was mature enough to handle becoming a mother for the rest of my life...
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@kawillow74 (1416)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I was 17 when I had my first son and 18 when our second son was born was I really NO way now almost 16 years later I would not change a thing it made both my husband and I grow up and turn out to be great parents. My oldest will be 16 this year and I don't know where the time has gone they are the best thing that every happen to us we have two great boys. It was very hard we moved in to one of my pap rentals thanks god he only made us pay 100.00 a mo. and we did it on our own I worked 2 jobs and my husband worked. We have come so far my husband is a boss at a contrustion company and I can now stay home with the boys we build a new home 4 1/2 years ago and the rest is yet to come we can't wait.
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I was just under 22. I think I did just fine. I am now 29 & just had baby #3 who is almost a month old.
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I was 20 when I had my first. I thought I was ready as well. With helping my parents basically raise my niece and nephew from birth to age 5, and my nephew had the 3 month colic.
When I was left with a newborn, while my husband left for a 3 mnth deployment with the Navy. I learned quick that no matter what you do, a baby doesn't always want what you want. And the best advice my mom gave me was when you tried everything you possibly can to help a baby stop crying. Just walk out of the room and count to ten.
@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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16 Jan 07
I had my first when I was nearly 22 years.
Although financially it was a struggle as I left work for good and we only had one wage coming in, I feel I was emotionally ready.
Its great now as my daughter is 17 yrs and I am still young and I need to be. Bringing up a teenager is the hardest part, alot more things to deal with. When they are young it is so much easier.
My friend had her first at 40 yrs and she did find it quite difficult as she left work after so many years. I do feel for her, as she will be reaching her late 50's when her son reaches late teens.
I don't think I would have the energy!!
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@angel_marie5 (1259)
• United States
17 Jan 07
i'm already 28 yrs old & got married when i was 27 but until now i wasn't blessed yet for a baby.... hopefully this year there may come already.
@myslewis (286)
• Australia
17 Jan 07
I was 20 and wasn't ready in any way! I had no idea what to do and just muddled my way through. It was mostly harrowing and I never had another child. My daughter is now a mother herself - a much wiser girl she had her first at 32 and the next 2 years later. ANd I am having a ball and totally enjoying my second chance to enjoy the babies sooo grateful!
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@silenciobarnes (249)
• United States
16 Jan 07
My mother had me when she was fifteen. I often joke to her by saying "I watched you grow up."
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@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I was 20, I love all my kids, We weren't and still aren't finacially set.
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@lucyobythomas (276)
• China
16 Jan 07
i am married and i had my first baby when i was 17years and some months old,one week to my 18th birthday.
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@monica1216 (509)
• United States
25 Jan 07
That's exactly like I did too but it has worked out alright for us. Our oldest is now 14 and we have had 4 other babies together since then. best wishes to you!
@czarina0527 (307)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
i got married at an early age 22 because of getting pregnant unplanned. i deliver a baby girl last august 12, 2005. there is a advantage and disadvantage of having a baby at an early age. advantage because, you can see them until they got married. disadvantage, because this is the time that your still enjoying as singlehood life.
@jellybean80 (244)
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16 Jan 07
I was 21, pregnant on my 21st birthday :S
Although I don't regret having him at all I'm not sure I was really ready to have a child and certainly didn't plan to have him that young, did make me grow up and get my act together fast though!!!
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@somnolence (460)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I was 21 and I was not ready, but I don't think I ever would have been ready. Luckily it's one of those things you can learn and get better at as you go along.
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@sproutz (260)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
I was 20, almost 21 when I had my child. I feel I was emotionally ready and prepared for him to enter my life. Finacially? We struggled a bit but nothing too serious. He has never gone without, nor have we. In this type of situaiton, alot of times age really is just a number. I see myself as being alot more responsible than some older mothers I know. Scary but true!