You are engaged but about to die--set your partner free or tie him to yourself?

You don't say, Purplehaze, whether you are talking about yourself, here, but I'll work on the assumption that you are. I think, firstly, you should sit your boyfriend/fiance down and explain, word for word as the doctor relayed to you, your illness and the position you're in. After all, you've already accepted his proposal, so now, he's a part of your life. He could take this news two ways; he could either become despondent and want to wander off and think things through, or he could feel that he doesn't want to lose a moment with you, and become quite clingy, which I'm sure you won't want. Talk it through, encourage him to reveal his innermost feelings about it and tell him yours. He'll need to hear how you're feeling about it. I certainly wouldn't cancel the wedding plans as this would make him feel that you don't trust him to take care of you in your illness. Let him decide what he wants to do about the wedding. After all, you're going to be leaving him in six months anyway, and what if, miraculously, you suddenly found that the disease was either curable or had left your body, and you had longer than you originally thought, perhaps another twenty years. How would both of you feel then, if you had called off the wedding or indeed, the relationship. I feel you have to come to a mutual decision, and don't be afraid to talk about how you feel about dying. He'll want to hear it from you. Spend what time you can, happily, together and without secrets. Good luck to you. This is a tough one but my man is dying from cancer and I can see inside this situation. Brightest Blessings and Good Luck for your Wedding Day! :-)

I would let him choose. I'd be completely honest and open. It's his choice, really. He has to live past me, if he wants to have been my husband, I will gladly marry him. If he doesn't, I would completely understand.

I belive that I would not go through with the weddingplans and get married, however I would explain everything to him and then i would leave it up to him to stay or go. If he loves me I am guessing he would want to be there with me and I would like that. I do not think I would be doing him a favour by forcing him to leave straig away!

Better to set him free.

I would set him free, but let him be there by my side until he wanted to leave. I wouldn't marry him unless he would benefit in some way, or if he was going to take responsiblity of my daughter. It would depend on the situation, but I would certainly not tie him to me for a selfish reason. I would only do things that would benefit him.