what do u think of relationship that started online?

@sechsey (1831)
Canada
January 16, 2007 9:45pm CST
Internet nowadays is a common tool for people to meet other people of different backgrounds. You make friends and find a special someone. What are ur opinions about this? Please share and lets exchange thoughts and ideas about it.
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36 responses
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think online relationships stand just as much chance of lasting as a relationship that was started in person. It just depends on how honest your online friend is and how much different their online personality is from their real life personality. I know that on internet we sometimes forget there is a real person sitting behind the other computers and we say things or act in ways that might not be normal for us. If two people are honest, fall in love, and work at their relationshp then it can work. All relationships have to be worked at though.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
I totally agree with u. Sometimes people pretend to be someone else and u never know if that how they are for real or just a make believe personality over the keyboard and webcams. But indeed, when u find someone honest and someone who is really trustworthy, then why not make friends and see what happens...
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@opinder (420)
• India
17 Jan 07
I agree. I met my guy through internet and we never lied to each other. And it turned out that we belong to the same city. We have been together since then. and our relationship has grown and matured all this while.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
Good for u Opinder! We never really know when we get lucky huh?(",)
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• United States
20 Jan 07
My first true love started over the internet. We met in 1997. Although, after awhile things didn't work out, it was still the best relationship I've ever had. It's definately true, you never forget your first true love. So, yes it is definately possible. Never say never and always have your mind open....just be smart and safe about it.
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Totally agree with u. Do not deny ourselves with the vast choices we can make. Open mind like u said is important. Its makes us grow at the same time. And indeed, a SENSIBLE open mind for that matter too.
• United States
19 Jan 07
I think it is awesome to make new friends all over the world on the internet. But, we must be careful not to give out anything personal, as the people may not be whome they say they are.
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Yes there are alot of people on the internet even offline who pose to be someone else. We just never know who is the person we really are talking to.
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Although a lot of people are kinda skeptical about the idea, I personally think it depends on the level of communication you've had with each other, like in the process of chatting with them you eventually get to know him/her better to a specific extent that you yourself would know if the whole thing is a joke or not. It actually is a great way to bridge the gap between ourselves to the rest of the world, because we really never know when and where we'll get to meet that someone so the farther your reach the better I guess.
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
That is true. We owe it to ourselves anyway to give it time to know the person a little better. And of course, its all up to us that by then u should have that sense of certainty that u know this person quite well. But in my opinion anyway, there will still be a level of doubt until u meet that person for real.
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
I had a boyfriend whom I met online. Our friendship (We started with that) blossomed through YM chats and Friendster msgs. It was only after we met did the friendship develop into something else. I think that people who scour the internet looking for potential partners need to be extra careful. While I believe a relationship should not be built before an actual meet-up, the internet can be a great tool to achieving that goal.
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
I agree. It helps us broaden our choices in looking for someone special so to say.
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@grayxenon (1313)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
i have nothing against to this, as i for myself met my girlfriend online (thanks to yahoo messenger0. it is nice way to meet new people, gain friends or later find a partner that you are wanting to have for such a long time. i've been to a lot of relationship via traditional way (classmates, neighbor, friend's friend etc.) but i am so much more satisfied with my new found relationship and i can easily say that she is the one.enought of my love story,hehehe there are some pointers i would like to share for those who are skeptical in meeting people on line be very careful, online dating is very dangerous sometimes especially if you are not careful enough to distinguish those real people and the bad people who are taking advantages of it, i've read numerous articles regarding some very traumatic experiences on dating online( actually the dating process is safe bad things happen when they begun to meet personally, some get killed others raped)so before jumping to eyeball(meeting time) be sure to know and atleast ready to meet him/her it is best that you should at least enough time to check if he is really for real, a public place is nice meeting place or you should bring a friend for company especially if you are the girl. also do not invest much feelings on each other when you havent meet yet, because sometimes expectations dont meet the stadards of either the two of you and ending the budding relationship into a dismay.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Yes those are important reminders as well who started to know people online and meet up in person. Always be careful and do not completely trust anyone until u urself know him extremely well. make sure u have a chaperone , a friend with u on a first meeting. If not, crowded place would be best indeed. There's alot of things can happen. I know it may sound paranoid at times but its better to be cautious than sorry.
@oarnamav (2708)
• India
17 Jan 07
Most of the times the relation you are talking about prooves to be a fake or fraud. When you think it's a boy, it may be a old man or even a girl! When you think it's a girl, it can be a old lady or even a boy! Public just plays with your immotions. You can't trust anybody here on line.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
That is true. When u based it on pictures and email, ul never really know who u are talking with. That is why its also important to see him/her in some way too like webcams and the like. On the internet in general, there isnt that much to trust with. Proceed with caution all d time with ur personal data with whoever u talk with or even with ur personal life.
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@Pekachu (1112)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I have made alot of friens online unfortunatly they are all out of state and have not met any in person.without thhe internet and my online friends i would be very lonly so i think its great
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
yep! its a good way to keep in touch with ur long lost friends or even just make new ones whom u share same interests with.
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@darkraze (43)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
Relationship that started online isn't all that bad. I also made several friends online. It depends on how you handle it. One thing you should consider is your safety. Never give out information like your address right away. Finding a friend online is nice but you have to make sure how sincere your friend is. Give it time and don't fall for it right away. Remember that anyone can make up his own personality online, sort of an alter-ego, which is far from the real one. So be very, very careful. ^-^
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• United States
17 Jan 07
It could happen! But I wouldn't be surprised if they aren't who you expected.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I fell it is a godsend for people that don't feel right about bar hoping or trying to pick people up in the normal way. And there are a lot of out there. You have a chance, if you choose to take it, to get to know that person pretty well before you even meet. Of course we all put on our best when tryiing to attract someone and the Internet is no exception. But over time even that will not get in the way. I met my current wife on the Internet and we have been married four years now. We never could have met any other way. I was in one city, she in another that I was planing to move back to. It was a 300 mile weekend date for awhile but that worked out fine. Of course there are just enough bad guys out there that women must be very careful with it. But my feeling is if a guy is out to get you he will not put up with a long term Internet relationship. So there ae ways to be careful.
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@hcromer (2710)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I have always been very skeptical of relationships that started via the internet. Websites like Match.com promise to help you find the love of your life and the person who is perfect for you. I just don't think that I would ever even feel compfortable meeting someone that I met on the internet in person. It just seems really risky to me for some reason.
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• United States
17 Jan 07
I think that when you start a relantionship online that you have to worry about just being safe first and then make your decision. Because truthly, I have meet someone online before but I had to kind of check this person out! I mean we talk for a year and a half before actually meeting!
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
Well, u do have to be cautious. Some people to have other agendas and ul never know. Of course, on my part, i didnt exactly hire a PI or something. But its worth taking d time to get to know the person longer and better.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
It doesn't matter where it starts, it can start from work, from the streets, from bars, what's important is how the two people involved handled it. I've always been looking for love online for the simple fact that I'm attracted to American guys, I'm not in America and I have dated some so I'm sure about my preference but I've never had the luck that the guy actually comes to meet me. They send packages, call every day, chat and write letters but they make you wait forever then just disappear. There are a lot of women here in the Philippines that have married people they have met online so I'm still hopeful. Just like with any relationship, it has it's ups and downs... advantages and disadvantages. Maybe it will all just depends on your feelings for each other. I do know if you really want something, it will happen, if you don't, there are so many excuses.
@madcat08 (287)
• Canada
18 Jan 07
I meet my husband 7 1/2 years ago online. We both were not looking for anyone it just happened. We believe that we are soul mates and were meant to be together. We feel we both found each other for a reason. It was something that I felt was so right when we meet. I feel its something though that you ave to be careful with when meeting but you have to be careful meeting anyone anywhere even in bars etc.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
Oh my! falling in love anywhere , online or not still gives u the crazy butterflies in ur stomach huh? I was so in love with my then boyfriend now hubby whom i met over the internet. For us, it certainly was meant to be. We hit it off right from the start. We were just making friends and getting to know each other but we really enjoyed each others company and conversations which surprises us both even at first chat. We were cautious still but it was still surprising for us to laugh that much and how great the feeling was just getting to know him.
@egisugiri (842)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 07
nothing wrong from where you got relationship. As long as she/he is a good person and you sure about it.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
That is true. That's why to avoid anything bad, always be cautious, trust ur inner instincts and not just mere feeling. Giving it time for both of u to know each other. Like in one reply here, it is the same anyway online or offline.
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
20 Jan 07
It's like any other relationship, if it started and based on honesty it can last forever, the internet makes it easier for people to lie and to deceive but this is not the rule. I saw a few relationships started online and was very honest that two has ended with marriage.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
like me! hehe But that really doesnt mean i didnt experience some bad times while making friends online. I had my share of experiences which i did encounter people who make up stories just to get other people's confidence.
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• United States
20 Jan 07
I think online relationships are, in a sense a joke. Online, people can be anything or anyone. Only knowing the person online doesn't let you see the actual person. Online, you are a lot better at hiding things, and those things could be major. I just think that in general online relationships are bad.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Do u mean relationships that stay only online? What if from online, u meet each other personally but have to continue having that relationships online and communicating through the net because u live or have established lives far from each other?
• Pakistan
20 Jan 07
American dollars - A bundle of american dollars
It means that you are experiencing the discussion topic. You naughty girl :). Once I have found out a girl on internet and we became good friends and slowly slowly we started to know everything about each other and there was nothing secret between us and we share each and everything with each other. We were use to do chat on msn messenger. Our friendship has crossed 3 years and we have never met each other. We have seen each other in msn messenger display pics. One fine day she proposed me and I rejected because I dont believe in love and she left me and since from that day we have never chatted.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Lol i wouldnt want to start a discussion i know nothing about or im not curious with. So yes, i have been involve win an online relationship. I happen to marry someone whom i met online but of course after a year and a half of travelling to meet me and each other, ALOT of talking, calling, letters, communication, meeting his friends, meeting my friends. I should say im just one of those few cases who got lucky and found a great honest guy online. (",)
@saswat_13 (127)
• India
20 Jan 07
it can be a healthy relationship provided you are very honest while interacting online.. i have a friend who is involved in relationship over internet....they are still steady n going goog..
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Good for them!(",)