Getting married coz' you're at the point of no return.....will it last???

Marriage is really not something to rush into. I've been married 8 yrs. We've had our ups and downs. We dated about 2 years, including a 1 year engagement, so I think we're probably average or maybe a little bit "fast" in the marriage area, but we were ready to commit. We laid everything out beforehand, though, and that helped. People should not feel societal pressure to marry, though. It's not easy or pleasant to get a divorce. I've felt that a divorce was a way out of my marriage at times, but have been able to work things through. Above all, the two people need to be able to work things out. If not, they're doomed. Too much can go wrong in a relationship. Without communication and loyalty, they'll never make it. Hopefully she doesn't rush into having kids, though. It's a surefire way to face a divorce sooner rather than later. It's the one smart thing we did. We waited until now. We're in the proces of an adoption after 8 yrs. of marriage. So things can work, but they both need to want to be there.

I had a friend who got married because of similar thoughts and feelings. Since that day things have been going down hill in her marriage and she realizes it was a mistake. He is abusive and she won't make the decision to leave him. She pretty much got married because she came to that time in her life when it was the thing to do. All of her friends were getting married.

Well its very hard when u'll buy any thing and after one week u'll go to return those thing but u'll not b agree because u know u have used that thing since one week and shopkeeper will not it back..so as like it which u asking u can't go back..

I agree, it is silly. There is no need to rush. I feel that whether you're getting married, wanting kids, looking for a job or doing someting here and now...to rush is only to risk failure. It's almost impossible to do something right when you are in a rush.

marriage is really big deal. the biggest of deals.. because it's committing to one person forever. well, there's divorce or annulment but i just don't think that'll work. your kids will be affected. i've known people who got married because they have to and not one of them were happy... their kids too! who cares if you're too old already? what really matters is if you'll be happy for the rest of your lives! this is just my opinion... i really don't agree on divorce or annulment. i just think there's some kind of psychological effect. it's better to wait than to go ahead and suffer for the rest of your life. i hope you'll take my advice. i've seen people destroy their lives because they tied themselves with someone because they have to... do you ever want to fall in love and be happy for the rest of your life?

what?????getting married just because you have no other choice?how can that be when getting married is free for all.you can get into it or not.but to say you are getting married because you are already 27 is not a good idea..age is not the basis in settling down.its your capability to raise a family at your will and that you are prepared to live up with the commitment and responsibilities that goes along with it.

When your friend said she's at the point of no return it means she's deeply in loved with this guy. Noboday knows what our future holds. Relationships need to be worked on even after marriage. Your girlfriend did have her rights and she's chosen to marry this guy.

I agree with you it is plain silly. No one should feel they have to get married because they feel they are getting to old. I got married when I was 36. Why? Becasue I waited for love. I dated and could have been married twice before but no I didn't love them enough to spend the rest of my life with them. I waited. Age is just a number no one should feel they have to because they feel they are getting to old

Well i don't think that makes alot of sense. She is only 27 what can she mean by point of no return. More ppl today are waiting till there 30's before getting married so why rush it. If she loves the guy thats one thing but if is only because i see her being just another divorce statistic.

Yikes! She's young, too young to feel like that. It sounds like her maternal clock is ticking and she's found herself a sperm donor; and maybe everything will work out someday??? I'd much rather 'waste time' being single and sure than married because I felt the need to settle. It doesn't sound like your friend has her priorities straight, or has much self-confidance.

Your friend must have taken the decision after thinking. so dont worry , after all its her decision for the lifetime. They will manage very well as they know each other for last 3 years. Thats sufficient time to understand each other.

I like to be married when I feel that the time is right, and when I'm certain that I've found the right person. I don't think age matters when one gets married. Except of course if one aims to significantly lower the risks of birth defects, when having a baby.

if you're sure that he's the one go for it if you only do it because you're more than 3 years and you're old nah... better not do it.. but if you love him go girl

Oh yeah, that's going to last, NOT. I've been married for years and I tell you that it won't last. With her stating this what is she going to do when he finds out this is the reason she is marrying him. Is he really in love with her also or is he thinking this is his only chance to?

We all have our reasons for our actions. The way I see it, your friend have plans of having kids and raising a family. What made me say that? She did say "I don't want to waste anymore time" didn't she? What I'm about to say isn't a sexist remark so don't take it as one...the prime time, so to speak, for a woman to have her first child is from 25 to 30. There might be complications if you have your first kid beyond 30 years of age. Tick tock tick tock, her biological clock is ticking....

you will never know is he/her the right person or not until you have been trought it but one thing that you can count on is ask your heart and it will answer your question

you're right, its not good to marry someone because you just don't have any other choice where in fact 27 is still a young age to marry. she still has a lot to accomplish in her age. poor guy maybe he doesnt know anything about it. all the while he thinks hes girl loves her that much to be willing to marry him. advice your friend before she enters into marriage make sure she loves the guy and vice versa.

yaa it's right,getting married just becoz u r getting old is not the best option,u should also think about the person to whom u r going to marry that whether that person will kee u happy everafter.

You have a point, getting married because you are pressured to marry because of your age or because you got pregnant is so silly. Personally, i got married at 21 because i got pregnant with our second child. 2 years after, we are already talking about annulment. So my advice for people with the same situation, think a million times before getting married. Even if you strongly feel that it is your heart that you should follow, use your head...

being at 27 isn't bad for being unmarried for a woman...but since your friend is more concerned on her status that she disregard the other factors in getting into that kind of commitment..she has to deal with the consequences that might arise inside her married life.its good to know that she's going out with the guy for more than 3yrs,there are worse cases.as for making the relationship last..it will depend on the couple...they alone can make it work or break.just wish them well. :)