How long does it take to move on?

Philippines
January 16, 2007 11:13pm CST
When a relationship is over and you're nursing a broken heart, how long does it take to move on? Not necessarily finding someone new but in the sense that you've stopped hurting and thinking about the past.
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twinkle100383
@twinkle100383 (60)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
for my previous relationships(all serious),it took me not more than 6months to get through it...honestly,im not that resilient to forget easily though i have my ways in hiding what i really feel.im not nursing the broken heart mind you..but jst let my heart go beating with pain till it can beat normally again.once i got back on track there's no turning back and that's the end of it.
vintage_blowout
@vintage_blowout (277)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
I totally get this. I think it's called recuperation. And when it's over, there's really no turning back. Feel the pain, embrace it...then let it fuel your journey again :)
pusiket
@pusiket (1756)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
It really depends on your capacity and way of moving on. If you are very determined and doing your best, then expect the soonest. But if you are lingering on it, then it will take you centuries.
vintage_blowout
@vintage_blowout (277)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I agree! Lingering on the pain will just promote the pain more.
danishcanadian
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
That is a good question, one I hope I will never have to ask. I hope my Sweetheart and I will stay together forever.
vintage_blowout
@vintage_blowout (277)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
If you both DECIDE to keep each other forever, NO MATTER WHAT...I think nothing hinders you both from enjoying a lasting relationship :) Good luck!
Cheryl Larkin
@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think it really depends on who you are and how long the relationship lasted and how much you loved the person. I don't think you can put a generality on it. There are a lot of things you can do to keep yourself busy and not think about the past but the hurting can go on for quite a long time. It is hard to deal with losing a loved one and it is not something to be rushed. Take all the time you need and don't let anyone rush you into anything.
vintage_blowout
@vintage_blowout (277)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
taking it one step at a time is the key! :)
deepu113
@deepu113 (450)
• India
18 Jan 07
i dont know...it depends
jhoanee
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
it depends on a particular person how to deal with it. but for me it takes me a year or more to be back at my shoes again. although people didnt see it but deep in my heart i do. its hard to fall in love coz it will hurt u too much if it fails.
vintage_blowout
@vintage_blowout (277)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
Oh yes dear, that's the risk we all have to take :)
missyd79
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
17 Jan 07
everyone heals at a different rate then other people, after my husband walked out on me it took me almost a year to really com to terms with him leaving me. i mean i dated in that year but that was it.
cheenlly
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
i guess it depends on the person itself and how long she keep the pain inside. If you let go of it then probably it will just take a short time you can already move on but if the person still cant accept the fact and didnt let go im sure it will take years and more to move on and also if the person already forgive the person that it will be easy to move on.
kathy77
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
17 Jan 07
It would all depend on what kind of relationship I had with the other person and for the length. It could take 3 weeks but then again it could take 3 months it all depends on how it affected you.