living together before marriage

Living together is not a good thing. Both the man and the woman will be looked down on by the families. Also, whatever differences you discover are just part of life. Deal with it. If you shack up, all you'll be doing is throwing away the best times of your life, and putting an asterisk by your name.

I personally believe living with your spouse before you get married is a good idea. I've always believed that presumably if a couple is able to get a long living together in an apartment, or in a house together before they are married.. They will be able to get a long with each other after they are married. To me living with someone before you get married helps one to know what type of habits your partner may have. As well as if the two of you will be compatible.. I'd much rather know that in advance before getting married honestly. I find you see a different side to a person by living with them. The only problem is with me saying that is that I honestly believe as well at the same thing though that for some couple... Marriage sometimes can help to change everything. So even though you may have been living with this person before hand.. Sometimes after marrying someone everything may change even afterwards.. I think your taking a risk either way when it comes to living with someone before getting married.. But I don't know I've lived with someone before.. An ex of mine & I am glad that we never ended up staying together.. And that we as well lived together.. Because I saw a different side to him.. He was a very abusive man & I am glad I had found this out before getting married to him.. I know that if I was to do this I would have regretted it by now.. I find by living with him it helped me to see how he truly was.. I don't know my other half & me have been living together for two years.. And I find we fight sometimes, but we also work very well as a team.. And I find that is what makes our relationship work out so well.. That we work as a team & don't expect one to do more than the other. Everyone is different & some people mix when living together, & some people don't. I have nothing against people living together.. I think in this day & age it's becoming more well known now.. A few years before I may have disagreed & thought living together before hand would be a horrible thing to do.. But after my experiences I feel like I've been taught a lot of valuable lessons a long the way.. And I am glad I am living with the man who I am living with.. As we go so well together.. I am very happy living with him as he treats me well & doesn't mind having to clean around the house.. Most men grumble, but he doesn't.. Thankfully.

i dont like the idea of living together prior then marriage. You know there are some custom values and we should alla bid eby that. i think after amrriage you'll get more respect by living togetehr and you'll feel content too.

u know what the answer would be from those living in a conservative background and the answer would be a horrified look at you.well i too come from a very conservative background especially from india and married too.i feel that we should know more about the person we r goin to marry to see if we vibe.but this has not happ to me.i still dont hav the clue about him except his habits.we dont even share any interets and its been 7 yrs and two kids later but i dont feel at home still with him.all this is because i didnt know him and if i had the chance definitely i wouldnt hav married himi feel pity for myself and since i come frm a conservative background divorce is also a taboo.what can i do.but at least i feel we should go out with that person live with his surroundings so we can know the guy really well then than meeting him over a cup of coffee or at a park or discothequefor he will mostly be masking his real nature then.what do u say?

There are many cases of broken marriages and divorce even after living together. People live together before marriage to find their compatibility with each other. But i think there is no use if after doing all this ends in a divorce.

for me, i would prefer to live in with my boyfriend before marrying him. That way, i would get to know him better - both his good and bad traits. it's difficult if it's only when you're married that you would find out about the bad ways of your hubby.

My family is very conservative, and I always said I would never live with a guy that I wasn't married to. Then I got engaged to a guy who lived 2 hours away. The only time I could see him was on weekends and we didn't have money for me to get a hotel room. So, we ended up living together on weekends and during my week long breaks from college. So, it wasn't full time or anything but we were kind of living together. I think my opinion changed once I met the man I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with. It suddenly didn't seem so bad.