which hurts worse a hit in the face or the verbal and or mental abuse

all of them...

I think it is worse to have mental abuse than physical abuse for I agree that it will last even if not for a life time but for a longer time and it is always on the mind of the person who are being abuse.

It is strange that you can see a difference in abuse as in which is worse. To me they are all equally bad because they all leave emotional scars that won't go away. They may retreat but if that trigger ever rears its head they come back like the drop of a hat.

Verbal / mental abuse is worse, it stays with you longer than a punch or a slap, although a hit is really bad, the verbal and mental abuse is far more torturing and can scar you mentally and emotionally inside and affect you far longer into the future than a hit or a slap which you may forget..or even forgive in some cases.

The wounds which we have no scar to show for are the most painful :(

No doubt its mental abuse, base on your manifestations it pretty obvious that you're feeling a bad taste in your mouth whenever you and and your children recalls what happened in the past.Hope you can hurdle it.Keep up.

both are bad in their own ways but mental abuse takes a lot longer to heal as compared to physical abuse. Most people dont even realise that they are being mentally or emotionally abused and only when it gets very bad, they seek help. Some women dont even do that becuase of fear. So all in all mental abuse is worse.

I'd rather accept one hard slap on the face than heard a very hurting words. Because it will mentally tortures me.

I personally would rather be hit. When I was a kid growing up and my mom would yell at me (not mean words and things) but yell at me for not doing something or another when she would take a breath I would ask her if she was going to spank me now. I would rather get spanked than yelled at.

No one issue hurts more than the other they are all bad and they all hurt and people should learn to respect one anothers feelings.

I agree. I think that harsh words out of anger are worse sometimes then a slap. They are both bad. And I hope that you and your kids are out of this situation. No one should be abused wheather physical, mental, or anything.

Verbal and mental abuse in my opinion can be far worse because it can affect the individuals complete outlook on everything. Physical abuse is by no means acceptable either but even if you get a bruise or a black eye it will heal. Walking away from a physical abuser will ultimately mean that the physical abuse will stop. If you are not present then they can't assault you. Mental abuse however is extremely difficult to escape from because it seems to plant itself in your psyche and is very difficult to remove. Let us keep in mind that physical abuse is also mental abuse because it too messes with the victims mind. Fact is, both are totally unacceptable in any situation and both can inflict long term damage on the victim.

That is a good analogy. The sting lasts longer when words are used. They tend to leave an imprint on the memory. Then again, the physical abuse could be quite harmful as in broken bones or severe bruises. But, talking to kids that way is never acceptable. No kid deserves such treatment from an adult.

Yes u are perfectly correct words hurt more than anything physical. Physical abuse might pain u or hurt u for sometime but the verbal abuse...Those words keep rolling on again and again in ur mind ,they keep coming back to you and u just cannot do anything about them A physical abuse can be forgotten over with time but a mental abuse is remembered always so its better being hurt physically then hearing strong words Words are like arrows that once left never come back...

i agree totally. kids who have been verbally abused are usually noticed right away by teachers and doctors. they are more docile, follow orders without questions, and are generally less healthy and sadder than other children. They are the ones who tend to be victims when they reach adulthood, often choosing abusive spouses or life partners. They have very poor self-esteem. and sadly, often the abuser was just such a child when he as small its the old vicious cycle, doomed to be repeated unless the other parent or another responsible adult steps in and helps the child see whata good, unique strong person they can be.