Is it true that moslem man is allowed to be married to more than 1 woman?
By pearlypearl
@pearlypearl (95)
Indonesia
January 17, 2007 9:53pm CST
Can a moslem man married to more than just 1 woman? And how about the woman? Can they marry more than 1 man? If they can't, why is that? It's just a thought out of my curiosity. The topic is oftenly discuss in my country local TV channel, esp on religious shows. There isn't enough information from the show anyway. Sometimes what you hear from people who don't understand the essence perfectly can be very misleading. What do you have to say 'bout this?
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@PhMaker (250)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Technically speaking yes Muslim men are allowed to marry more than one wife. The Maximum number can be 4. But the conditions are very difficult to fulfill of the equality and agreeing.
Dr. Zakir Naik Explains why its allowed, here is a link.
http://www.irf.net/irf/dtp/dawah_tech/mcqnm1.htm
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@dangerdvd (320)
• Italy
18 Jan 07
it is for this thing that I think that muslman consider women same a thing!
bha! in my personal opinion the love is beetwen one man e one woman! e stop!
@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
19 Jan 07
I agree with you Froogle. This is one of the most disgusting things I find in the Islamic religion, culture and societies. Moslem men are allowed to practice polygamy but women cannot have multiple husbands. Men can contract temporary marriages called Muta'a. In Arabic it means ecstasy marriage. Men can contract Muta'a marriages on payment of money.
Women, on the other hand are treated like chattels. In some countries women are even punished for showing their face in public. And then all these sanctimonious posts on Mylot!
@manu_ghimire (2626)
• India
18 Jan 07
well yeah ! they are allowed ! their relegion allow these things !but i think there are some conditions too ! i dont know ! one can clear it better
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
Yup, there are conditions. And the conditions really really really really really (that's 5 times really :D ) heavy. It is not easy to polygamy. A man must be responsible for any unwanted consequences if he did have several wives. If it turned out to be a burden, then the man has failed in his responsibilities.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
Yup, there are conditions. And the conditions really really really really really (that's 5 times really :D ) heavy. It is not easy to polygamy. A man must be responsible for any unwanted consequences if he did have several wives. If it turned out to be a burden, then the man has failed in his responsibilities.
@cyb3rjunk13 (470)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I really disagree with this statement, and i dont think you should make any statements without having any knowledge of the religion islam
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
I'm not gonna curse you for saying Islam is a biased and pseudo religion. Perhaps your knowledge in Islam is still shallow yet you make your on conclusion based on your shallow knowledge. :D Just open your mind and listen to reason, not your emotion. Respect other people belief, just like how Muslims respect yours. Don't be stubborn, then no explaination, not even the best one would satisfy you.
@zorif313 (43)
• India
18 Jan 07
First of all i would like to tell you that the pronountation u r doing of this religion is wrong. Theword is Muslim or Islam instead of Moslem.
Now the reply to your curiosity. Yes a muslim can marry more than one time but, there is one condition and that is the man has to take permission of his existing wife. If she permits than only he can marry to another woman.
If the man is doing another marriage than its his responsibility to take care of his wifes. He has to fullfill all the necessities regarding food shelter etc..... There are some more things regarding this.
The women are not permited to second marriage except, his first husband expires or they got divorced. According to me its the good and wise rule in Islam Religion.
Suppose a woman got the right to do second marriage and she also had to follow the same rules which a man has to follow. Think yourself that from how many troubles she has to suffer. She has to take care of her husbands, than her childrens, her in-laws etc...
I think you can understand the other points like human body requirements.....
Hope you now understand and ur satisfied.
@vaibhavsawke (820)
• India
18 Jan 07
ur reply proves that islam is biased and
donot respect women right
@cyb3rjunk13 (470)
• United States
18 Jan 07
well i think its very disrespect full to make a statement when you dont know anything about the religion..
@puneetdhawan100 (165)
• India
18 Jan 07
yes muslim law allows upto 4 marriages.lucky men ,but women cannot remarry ,sorry girls.....but i dont think the modern muslims bother too much and the women remarry too.
@taipingonline (128)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
There are no modern or whatever Muslims. Rules in Islam never change...
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I have a muslim friend whose father had 5 wives. Her own mother was the 1st wife, and she still lived in their native Tunisia. My friend, however, moved to Paris to attend college where her father was living. To me, that was not a father. All he had done was give her mother children to care for and then moved on to another woman. What kind of a life is that for women? Men in the middle east treat women so badly!
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
19 Jan 07
No moslem man are not allowed to marry more then 1 woman. And the same for woman. I dont know where you heard this but its not true.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
19 Jan 07
According to the law of Islam, it is "allowed", but it is not a must, even forbidden if the marriage just bring harm to anyone. In United States it is not permitted, but in some Islamic countries, it is allowed, although not encouraged to do so. A true good men can't be found anywhere, and a man seems good enough probably still doesn't has what it takes to support more than one wife. Thus, polygamy is not an advantage, but rather a responsibility. If you fail with your responsibility, prepare to face wrath. :D
@executivedon_inc (43)
• Nigeria
18 Jan 07
well according to thier doctrines they can marry more that evn 5 wives ...but i dont think it is ideal any way..
@yourssaket (85)
• India
18 Jan 07
Muslems have these strange set of laws which guide the path of their life. A man can keep any number of wives and if he wants to divoce her, hell just have to the say the worhs 3 times and pay her some small amount of money as was fixed during their marriage.
These things have been said as per my knowledge and i may be wrong.
@clover (104)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
let me answer this. I might not be so knowledgeable in this area but I know a bit. yes, it's stated in the quran that man can marry 4 womean. BUT. yes there's but, it's NOT EVERY MAN's RIGHT to actually marry 4. the very requirement is a person need to be just in giving the needs to the wives being it material side or spirritual thingy. however most Muslim man know misunderstood this and take that as their right, as every man's right which is just not right. man with good economy think that they can marry more just because they have more money to buy thing but treating wives justly is not just about many. they're required to spend equal day for each wives and so on so believe me it's not easy. only certain good peson can actually meet the requirement. but we know, men and their lust.. because of that lust they're making the statement so simple. because it's also stated in the quran if a man who practice poligamy is unjust and don't have what he is required he is being sinful for marrying more than one!
why woman can't marry more I'm not clear enough. but one of a small reson is because if they ever being given the right to marry more, then if she's pregnant it'll be hard to determine which is the father? forget the DNA for this matter. it'll be hard for the four husband for example to take care of her as tey can go on and being so hard on the fact that the child is not theirs and so on. there might be other reason behind this but I might be ignorant about this.
@clover (104)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
some misspelling sorry
*..most Muslim man NOW (not know)...*
*....justly is not not just about MONEY (not many)*
in conclusion, it's SINFUL for a man to marry more than a wive if he can't be JUST to EACH one of his wife. ... this is what Muslim man's ignorance often is.
@darckj (885)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
yah.. the moslem man can marry as many as he wants as long as he can provide their basic needs.. that is what i learned from school.. the moslem women cannot have more than one.. they will serve their [common] husband and work for him.. you know, just like in old times, women are treated to be inferior than men, or so i guess.. i just do not know if this info are still practiced until now.. maybe there are moslems out there who can really answer and [confirm the info here] your question..^^ correct me if im wrong..
@umair2hot (1220)
• India
18 Jan 07
Mister darck ... if u dont know so please dont write any wrong thing abt muslims...as many as ur wrong sentence...made
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@072006 (1276)
• India
18 Jan 07
First of all its sound too funny!!!
That according to religion , man is allowed to marry with more than 1 women ...n women doesn't????
I dont think so any religion allows ths....even if its there...ppl just take responsible religion only ....why arn't they responsible??
i think its totally unfare that man has rght n woman doesnt??
basically it shudn't b a part of rght....tht he has n she doesn't??
it shud b part of their own choice n menatlly, n circumstances...thts all!!!
dont blame religion for this!!!
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
Well, there are reasons behind everything. Allow me to elaborate a bit on this, I think it's already been told in another topic already, but it probably got pushed down.
First, the main purpose of marriage is to create a new generation. It is impossible to achieve this purpose if a women is allowed to marry more than one husband simultaneously, unlike men. In marriage the person who gave birth to children is the wife. If a man has more than one wife, it won't be a problem. But, imagine a single wife with four husbands. All of the husbands want their own kids. Even though they do take turn, imagine the wife has to give birth every year for her husbands. This is not good for her condition, and even could harm her.
Next, another reason for having more than one wife is to protect and provide them with everything they need, food, houses, spendings, etc. So if the husband can't afford this, it is forbidden for him to marry more than one. The concept of polygamy is responsibilities, and it is a heavy one. ;)
@hinduzionkafir (3)
• United States
19 Jan 07
YES! In Islam, women are considered nothing more than property. Thus a Muslim man can have upto 4 wives while Muhammed himself married 12 times, NOT including all the women he raped and forcibly inducted in his harem. His examples are suitably being followed by Muslims who have no qualms about raping outside of marriage.
@Naseem00 (1996)
• Pakistan
19 Jan 07
Here is something that I have come across in the B"If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the first-born son be hers that was hated: then it shall be, when he maketh..."
"If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the first-born son be hers that was hated: then it shall be, when he maketh..."
(Deuteronomy 21:15 )
"if he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall her not diminish."
(Exodus 21:10)
Can any christian explain to me why are muslims always accused of suppressing women by marrying more than one when their own book tells the same
@taipingonline (128)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
hahahahahahaha.... I love this question... I don't why people love to choose this point to show that Islam is unfair... Listen this my dear, where a baby comes from? Sure from the mother. What will happen if there are two dads for the baby? Which one is the real father for the baby? If you're the baby, I'm sure you want to know your real father right? That is why, woman are not allowed to have 2 or more husbands. Why men are allowed to have 2 or more wives? Don't think it negative... think it postive... look at this situation... let say you have a husband... suddenly, your husband die... and you've 3 childs... can you take care of your childs alone? You need someone to help you right? That is the used of men. So, do you think this is unfair?
@taipingonline (128)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
wait...wait...wait... I think, I wanna add some more information to my comment. In Islam, you're right... a man can have maximum 4 wives. However, there are some guides in the Koran which the man should follow before he gets marry to another one.
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
i have a college friend who is a muslim but his father have only one wife it is, of course his mother, but as for the question he said that muslim can only marry more than woman if they can provide for the needs of the both family. set for example if the muslim is rich of course he can marry at least four because he can provide the needs of the four family.
@FinalNemesis (23)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I'm sure its been answered . . . however. . . my younger brothers are Muslim. They told me you can marry more than one wife but they all have to be treated equally all the time. If you have 7 wives you would have to spend one day a week with each of them. What I think is ridiculous is that you are allowed to hit your wife (lightly it says) if she is out of line.