parents of boys

Yes. Our seven year old girl and three year old boy fight constantly. One will have something the other doesn't which starts a fight. Then again our three year old just wants to play when the seven year old just doesn't want him around. We just about pull our hair out. Now if they can't get along in the same room, seperation is needed. That's the only way we can ever get anything done around here and to keep peace. Then they beg to play again together. Well just when we think they realize the boredom without each other,it happens again. We usually get both of their attention on something they both can do with nothing different. They write on the chalkboard,watch a movie,color or whatever we can think of for both.So far it's working.

There's a great book called 'Siblings Without Rivalry' that I find myself reading and re-reading all the time. The same author also does a book called 'How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk' I find that both books remind me of ways I can communicate with my boys that will alleviate some of the insecurities and competition. I need constant reminding though - which is why I re-read the books all the time.

Yes, I'm experiencing the pleasures of raising two boys. The are both older now and still have their rivalry moments, just with greater strength and intense...just not so often. While your boys are younger... its critical to teach them how to handle those arguments appropriately and help them understand its not good to treat someone that way. It may seem like you're doing this often and its unproductive, but it is sooooo worth the time and effort as they get older. It's definitely a natural and normal occurence and things will improve. As my boys got closer to being teens, I had to start assigning consequences like chores--not normal ones-- to make the point of yelling, arguing, etc. not being appropriate. That helped them quickly to find alternative methods of their own to make things work better. Good luck to you and don't give up..

that probably happens with every children.even i use to do the same thing when i was kid.but if they learn such things from kid they would become better when they grow up.

Well, I have an elder brother and this topic made me remember my childhood days. It was something similar to this and we used to fight for everything. I am not able to think how we got out of it.. But YES! Now a days we don't fight at all. Think it will disappear as they grow.

even me in my childhood use 2 play wid cars along wid my big bro..................but now i miss all those a lot as my bro is u.s. & i miss him a lot..........

ME! ME! ME!(raising my hand) I have 4 boys ages 10,6,3, and 16 mos.I go through that and then some. I usually take tv and playstation away for a day and they miraculosly get along....lol... you should try that and see if that helps. or take all toys and put them in the trunk of the car where they can't get them

It goes both ways in competition. I have 3 girls then my son. The girls were always the same way and it hasn't stopped yet and one is married and has 2 boys herself,the other is in college and the other is just 15. They are all so different if makes you wonder who their parents are at times. Even in looks one is a red head one is brunette and the other blonde. I still here she took my clothes, my cd or she thinks she is so much better than everyone else. Now it has escalated to you give her more than me or you treat her different than the rest. Even as adults my siblings are the same way with my mom at times. I know she has heard it several times from me that she is always with my brothers why can't she come visit me for a change. I don't think we ever get over it we just don't do it as much. Learn to overlook it and keep it safe is all I can say.

Yes i have two boys 5 and 2 and the do it every day and it drives me crazy.

yes i have kid even he does da same he play only for a minute with a toy and he'll go for new one..

Oh yes and it get worse my 13 to be 14 next mo. thinks he is the boss of his brother 15 and his father and I. But what is worse is that my 15 year old take it and I tell him all the time your brother is not your boss. They both race go-cart and the youngest has to have it all if we buy something new for the oldest he will though a fit. He is cocky and just plain right down bossy. And the oldest is so easy going it is unreal. So yes I no what you are talking about.

yes I have the issue on a daily basis, having a 5 and 2 year old. My 2 year old tends to get the brunt of it alot. He will be playing with something and my oldest will take it right from his hands and say it is his to play now

they are niceeeeeeee

My sibling and I have a couple of rivalry issues. One iss the issue of who gets to do this and that in the household chores. Another one is who gets the most number of favors granted by parents. My parents, most of the time, think that my younger brother should be well cared of and that I, as the elder child, should be selfless. I am getting used to it. I guess i have outgrown that feeling due to maturity.

Same thing here. My nine year old thinks he needs to be in charge of everything that he and his seven year old brother do. From what I hear it is quite normal.

Sounds very familiar! We have two boys, the older one is 6 and the younger one 5. In many ways they are good with each other to the extent that they call each other "best buddy". However, there are times when they just go at each other like they are each other's enemy! In a situation like this, I tend to freak out and use up all my energy trying to stop the fight that is going on especially when they get physical with each other (kicking, punching, wrestling, etc..). But all that I found useless! I end up with a raspy throat and a minor headache. So what do I do? I leave them to fight as much as they want with the condition that none of them will cry, complain, and ask for help. It seems to work and makes their fight last shorter than usual, and in the end, before you know it, they are still kicking each other but this time, lauging out loud (probably thinking how stupid the reason for their fight was all about)! In the end, boys are boys and they just love to play rough, fight occasionaly and still have fun.

oh kids! i dont have yet [cause im too young to have one] but i want to have a family of boys! boys will always be boys, and it does not exclude fighting.. it is just that, the other one wants to have anything that the other one have.. if he cannot get it by asking nicely, he will get it grabbing.. and then the fight begins.. the moment later, they will end up playing the same thing, and the cycle repeats again.. our parents have a solution for that when we were just kids--mom buys two toys, for me and my bro..^^

Well, I was the younger one. My brother is 4 years elder. We have that problem when we were young. He would nto let me touch anything what he owns. Well, most times. And since he is not here, you get to read only a side of the story. Most probably my brother will complain I tend to break things and very clumsy. This kind of rivalry will end as the kids grow up. When they are teens, the problem will be a different one. But when they pass out of the teens, they will understand each other perfectly.

yes, yes, yes! Its a competition no matter what the situation. It really drives me insane. I thought it would get better with age but it has just gotten even worse.

Oh my !! ... like YES! I have three ... all boys. My oldest is also 8, and drives me NUTS some-days. He is always telling the other two what to do, and how to do things. Of course half the time HE is wrong so that's even worse! On the other hand, the younger two will NOT leave him be to do schoolwork, or play with his "big-boy" toys either. I just hope they will outgrow some of this as they get old enough to have different interests. *crosses fingers.... toes ... and whatever else!*