How often do you actually "get out" without the kids?

Oh man...not very often, and when we do..it's always with limits...don't get me wrong..it's great of my mom-in-law to help out once in a while, but we usually have to have the kids picked up by a certain time or can only be gone for a few hours (not even enough time for the movies and dinner!) I can't remember the last time we got to go out with NO restrictions..even if the kids are watched overnight, we have to get them before 10:00 am which eliminates staying out TOOOO late, because we have to be up by 9:00...I want 24 hours of babysitting..say from 2pm to 2pm...sounds good!

We try to go out at least every other week without my daughter-- But its easy for us because she goes to her dads.. Or a friends-- She is 10 and is the social butterfly.. Tonight she is going to grandma's for some quality time there-- We are going to an adult game night-- Cards, board games, snacks, drinks-- but no kids! Its very important to still do things with your spouse or sig. other without the kids... You need to keep that relationship strong and your connection strong too.

Nope, so far for us its been maybe twice a year. I've left my son with my sister and father for a day or two at the most. They live an hour away so its a bit of a drive. We are planning something for our anniversary so we MAY get to take a few days away. Its nice to be a couple again. I feel guilty of course, but as long as I'm sure that my son knows we love him and he's safe then I can stop the guilt.

What's with the guilt of hiring a baby sitter? Don't you feel guilty not giving your husband some undivided attention? How old are the children? Why not have a friend exchange an evening of babysitting every couple of months? I used to do that with friends so I didn't lose my sence of being a wife and spending a much needed time alone with my husband. Now that my kids are older and are able to stay for a while by themselves. My husband and I still have date nights or luncheons after 20yrs of marriage. You will never get over it until you just do it a time or two and really let yourself enjoy the time with your husband.

We go out once a month or so without the kids. I need the break sometimes so we normally go out to eat and talk. Try a babysitter if even for just an hour. Go after dinner and have dessert! That way you won't be far away and it won't be for long. I would just make sure to pick a babysitter that your friends use or one that has taken the babysitting course!

Going out without the kids? Is that even POSSIBLE? Seriously though, I don't get to go do something without Aubree with me. The only exception would be for little things. Like a place I can't take her into or the other day I went and filled out an application. Since I was doing it in the car, I didn't think she would be able to sit there for a 1/2 hour while I filled out all the info. On those RARE occassions, mom watches her. If I get a job, mom'll be watching her and I can truely say that I get to go out without her. Even if it's only work.

since I have a daughter and she's still a baby, and she's so attached to her mother, then if I'm not going to work, we always go together, either to the mall or go out eating, we're always together. But I don't know in the future, when the kid has grown up, maybe she'll choose to go with her friends than her parents.

Just yesterday, which was rare. I had a job thing to do in Traverse City, which is about an hour and a half drive. All the kids were in school and my husband went with me. It felt odd with it just being the 2 of us. We couldn't do anything though cuz with the long drive, we had to hurry back before the kids got home from school!

i feel about it that this is a goodness of your that you have your child and you are getting time to handle them and it is good for you to take care of your child.

give support to your child

I do not have a problem with that coz my daughter is studying the residential school and me and my husband have lot of time together. It is very important to spend quality time with each other specially after some years of your marriage.

We go out on Wednesdays for 2 hrs. without the kids when we go bowling on our league night. But I feel guilty asking my mom and dad to watch them to often. Me and my husband our talking about taking a vacation in Feb. sometime, so hopefully I can talk mom and dad for watching them over the whole weekend then.

Right now my wife and daughter are in the province havin a vacation, I cant go with them since I have work. So I guess no weekend outside for me and my family. But When theyre back. I'll see to it that every weekend of the month. I will spend it together with my family.

When we had one child we got out about once a week, now that wehave two we get out about once every other week, So how do we do it without feeling guilty. 1) when we are with our kids we give them a lot of attention 2) we realize that for the household to stay healthy we need time to ourselves, and then we won't be pulling our hair out of our head as much. 3) we go out after the kids are asleep. usually not leaving the house till about 10:00pm and getting home about 3:00am so unless there is an emergency they don't even know we are gone.(easy to do in Vegas maybe not in smaller cities) 4) we have some very mature and reliable babysitters, this took us the longest to find.

My husband and I have a similar problem. We moved away from all of my family about 3 1/2 years ago, and now live closer to my husband's family. But they're still about 2 1/2-3 hours away. we do not know anybody that we could hang out with, and certainly not anybody I would trust with our kids. None of our neighbors would be able to handle it, except possibly the people behind us (they have two little girls about my daughter's age), but I don't even know their first names. The majority of our neighbors are elderly. The last time my husband and I were out alone (if I remember correctly) was last February, and that was for about an hour and 15 minutes or so. We drove up north to his parent's house to drop the kids off, so we could have dinner. LOL We do that maybe every year, at the most. Because my son has Autism, I recently applied for respite services, so that if we needed to, we could have somebody come in to watch him and my daughter, but I would much rather bring in somebody I know. Thankfully I can do that, but this still means somebody has to travel from way up north to watch them. It's ridiculous. :(

you are right.childrens wont any other close relation ship except their mom and dad.this was felt by me also as a young boy.but considering some other social things there may be some situations to go alone.

Trust me, they grow up so fast that it will be no time and it will be just you and your husband. Then you will be able to go out whenever you please. Enjoy what you have. Every minute of it, cuz these are the good ole days!

My husband and I hardly ever go anywhere without our children in tow. We have two grandmothers in close proximity but they aren't very willing to help out, or if they are-it's only to take one child, not all three. Unfortunately, the extra money has never been there for us to hire a babysitter, but if it was-I think I would also feel too guilty. I don't believe I would be able to trust anyone with my kids, unless I really got to know them for some time. My husband and I usually make a nice dinner after the kids are in bed, around once a month. Sometimes we'll even use candles, or our nice dishes (I don't think he really cares, but it makes me feel more romantic). Yes, we do have to wait to eat until 10 at night, but who cares. It isnt' the same as going out with him minus the kids, but at least it's our time. I've given up on going out to dinner with them. Even if they do behave and don't bicker, it's hard to have an earnest conversation without my kids interrupting. As everyone always says to me, "They'll be grown and out of the house before you know it." So try to enjoy them while they're young!

My baby is only a year old and can't walk yet. Me and my hubby doesn't go out much either but we make sure that we have time for ourselves. We don't have a car so it's kinda hard to bring a bay around but here's our deal: If our sched permits us to go out with the baby (which means the sun is still up), we take him with us. But if the only time we have is during the night then we have the time for ourself. The baby stays with the nanny.

we are in the same situation. i am staying away from any close relatives and i dont really trust a baby sitter. how are we couping with it? it is rather easy because we love the company of our 9 yr young daughter. we are always together