I'm engaged and I don't know the first thing about planning a wedding!!!

finding a wedding dress of course. because everything else must be matching with that and yourself. dont even thing about the groom. his job is just to be there !!!

Plan the kind of wedding YOU and your fiance really want, not what people think you should have. If I ever get married it'll be something really small and symbolic to us, not a big over-blown affair. My cousin is marrying into a family that expects a big wedding, and she thinks she has to have one, so she is. She told me one day that she wishes she and her fiance could just elope.

Yes, you should start now. The first thing is to book the place where the wedding will take place, as well as the reception. Get the locations secured first, and the minister (or whatever you are using). After you get the date and locations secured, start making your guest list, and get your invitations ordered. Looking for dresses and flowers and cake and photographer is what you'll be doing over the next few months. Making sure you give yourself and bridesmaids time for alterations to dresses and stuff.

Well, you have the date, so now you have to figure out where on earth you're going to have it. I'd definitely book your wedding location to make sure you actually have that set for the date you want it. After that, work on the dresses and tuxes, invites, food and everything else. I'm sure you'll get the hang of planning once you get into it.

im with you hun. im engaged too, and i dont know a thing about planning. we have brought the odd magazine but i find that they are just full of adverts and no real help. so i would advise you to not buy them and save what money you would spend on them, as most are around the £4-£5 mark, which is extortion. we have decided where we would like to have our wedding so now its all about the saving. i dont think we will be getting married anytime soon, as we really need to start to save, as we dont have much of an income.

It isn't hard: http://www.bridaltweet.com/ is a site devoted to wedding plasnning. Lots of brides ans all sorts of wedding professionals belong. They have great free advice including an audiocast, and when you have made our decisions, you can choose from amongst the many wedding planners, photographers, wedding dress suppliers/seamstresses, venues, celebrants, musicians, caterers etc registered on the site. We come from all over the place, including Colorado (not me: if you want your wedding photographed under the Sydney Harbour Bridge with the Opera House in the background, THAT'S me).

I agree with the others, start with the location. Some places even have wedding planners that will help to make sure you don't forget anything. If you have to have a specific place, you need to get the move on as weddings are booked more than a year in advance in some areas. Next big thing is finding a dress. This may take you a while. Then it will probably take a month to get it ordered and in. Then you have to have fittings to get it altered. Depending on the dress, alterations could easily take another month. Do you know who is going to be your maid/matron of honor? She can help with a lot. Choose and ask your wedding party to give you the honor, then pick out bridesmaid dresses with plenty of time for altering them too. Tuxedoes don't take that long. Get your guest list started. You will change it a lot depending on your budget. You will find that you may not be able to afford to invite everyone you want because of space requirements or cost. Once you iron out all the details you need to get invitations out at least 2 months before the wedding. That gives them time to RSVP and you time to plan accordingly. Find a caterer and get estimates. Same for a cake decorator. Again, some places will include food and the cake, and this makes it a lot easier. You have to pick out flowers and a photographer, or videographer if you prefer. You have to get someone to officiate the ceremony. Make sure to apply for your marriage license ahead of time. Some places you have to take couples classes before they will marry you. You have to think about colors and decorations. Decide if you want a DJ or just to play a CD that has all the songs you like. There is a lot of planning to do. The most important thing I could tell you to do would be to get someone to help you. Whether it is a wedding planner or just your best friend. You need someone to help share the stress. There will be plenty. Besides having someone to help means that when the big day comes, you can sit back and enjoy it with little or no worries! Congrats, good luck, and best wishes!

Congratulations! I do think you should start planning now. First thing is to set the date, which you already did. Second thing is to visualize the wedding you want. Would you want a garden wedding? A church wedding? Or a simple backyard wedding? Third is to set a budget. How much are you willing to spend and who pays for what? How much money are you willing to allocate for each aspect of your wedding? There are good wedding sites like www.theknot.com. They have a lot of resources, including a timeline and a budget calculator. Enjoy your wedding planning!