When you see an ugly girl or woman , does that make you sad ?

I'm not sure you can tell immediately by looking at someone if they can or cannot get dates. Perfect example, many stars will comment that they are "single" and not by choice... yet they are gorgeous. You sit and think "yeah, right any man or woman would kill to go out with you cuz you're gorgeous" but reality is being gorgeous isn't always as wonderful as people think either. With just good looks going for them and people not caring or taking the time to see the real person, you often wonder how many are asking you out just because they want to conquer a hottie? As for ugly and fat, while perhaps some may not have a line knocking at their door I do believe that there are people out there that can and do get past the outter looks. While they may not be AS quick to get a date, sometimes it's not like they just sit at home being ugly! lol As for the difference between men and women. It frustrates me all the time. You will even see it on tv. "Large" men aren't nearly as quickly judged and even seen more so on tv. Look at the "real life" shows... I cannot say I've ever seen a fat woman, but I can think of at least 3 that I've seen a fat man. (not counting the biggest loser! LOL). So it is frustrating as a woman to see the different standards.

I think it's a little shallow to think that all that matters is the way someone looks. It's who we are that is important not our appearance. Why should women be thought of in any way differently to men?

It is too bad but not for the people that are ugly.The bad is and i fell sorry for them for those ones that harassed and laugh at them.Those are THE UGLY people.They have the ugliness insite of them and this is something not even a plastic sergion can fix it.

i wount feel sad rather than that i make friends with them make them happy

No it does not. There are just as many men that are fat and ugly and can't get dates. Even if they have money! If they get a beautiful girl, then she's a gold digger. And there are just as many beautiful men and women that can't get dates either. Yes it is cruel that there are people out there that make quick judgements and laugh at the "unpretty" people, but you know what? In my eyes, that makes them the ugly ones.

no way. Why would I be sad? Firsly, if everyone in the world is beautiful. the world beautiful and ugly would not exist and we cannot diffrentiate (just like evil and goodness) secondly, whats more important is not the physical beauty but the inner beauty. Inner beauty can change without spending money like many people operate their face to become more beautifu. So I would not be sad

Personally, I think that a person's true character is the best measurement of 'attractiveness'. A physically attractive person may seem less attractive if they are mean, arrogant or selfish... just as a less attractive person may eminate beauty because they are loving, compassionate and giving.... I'm basically saying, "Ugly is as Ugly Does". That's why your last question is rather confusing for me... A person who would harass someone simply because they aren't outwardly as attractive is the UGLY ONE, not "pretty"! I'm not sure I agree with the double-standard either.

doesn't makes me sad at all. Physical beauty is not important for me. What is in the heart is the most important thing in a person.

Beauty is a subjective factor that society treats as they should objective factors. An objective factor to is that someone has more or less knowledge of a subject, more or less skill at a subject than someone else. This is consider objective because it can be accurately measured in a way that others can have an accurate agreement upon. You "can" test whether or not someone is a faster runner or more skillful at a particular martial art. People can agree upon the terms of the test to measure such factors and thus agree on why someone is better or worse. The values that make it objective in my opinion are measurable value that can be agreed upon, that the thing being measured can not easily be changed based on a person perspective. A certain quantity of spilled paint remains the same quantity of spilled paint regardless of your opinion. And that the values being measure or described remain there whether you are there or not. We don't know if the tree really makes a sound if you are gone, but I'm pretty sure that the tree and forest will be there when you come back, thus it is an objective fact that the tree exists, then others can agree upon this as well, and the tree remains as it is regardless of your opinion of it. Now how pretty the tree is changes a bit from person to person, whether the tree is likable or not changes from person to person, and even if the tree is getting in the way or not is subjective as many may disagree on this. Now these things bring into question deeper matters of the nature of reality itself and then the whole equation falls apart. But, for ease of communication and since your question doesn't seem to imply interest in metaphysical matters I've stuck to the basics that most people can agree upon. And, that is that some things are more objective than others. A subjective factor would be human beauty or human tastes, and opinions. I can say that I hate this pencil but that doesn't make the pencil universally bad or disagreeable. I can say that Jen is ugly but that does not make her universally ugly. Popular consent may be that Jen is ugly but there will still be some who do not see her that way. Jen may have a harder time getting a job, but there will be some people who are more likely to hire her because she isn't beautiful like everyone else. Her odds may have decreased in one way but increased in another. When one door closes another one is sure to open. All of our weaknesses also give way to strengths. That being said what makes these people have trouble getting jobs, and a husband is "your" own opinion. You perpetuate the cycle. I'm not saying that you carry these opinions. But, anyone who does allow themselves to carry these opinions is in agreement and thus contributing to the problem. Not contributing any more will not end the cycle but it will lessen the problem by some small degree. Do I feel sad, no because we are all born into this world, and we either accept what we are dealt or do something improve things. And, i can not change the genetic structure of those who are considered ugly. I can choose to see the beauty in that person. That is how subjectivity works for every bit of ugly there is an equal dose of beauty it is just a question of you making the effort to see the other end of the spectrum. Doing such is hard as it requires you to go against your social conditioning but is in every way worth it.

Are you suggesting that women harass other women who they think are ugly? Unlikely in my experience. This post stems from a deep misunderstanding of women. The most beautiful women - at the highest level of society glamour surround themselves with beautiful and attractive women. (Heard the expression? - birds of a feather.... flock together) Abstinent men (as said earlier in the thread) such as Roman Catholic priests may theorize and postulate about how women deal with each other, and they are usually wrong. Distribution, by defenition is not fair. Some get more, others get less. Not just looks, but also brains, logic, religion, money. So what is this indignation all about? Do people need to be self-appointed abstinent indignants? No profit eh?

i believes that every God's creation is beautiful. Fat and ugly is just conditions. I'll share you some secrets about my personal life ... everytime i make relationship with some girl, i never meet her before, just know her through chatting (it's been 4 times). i've had some tragic experience about that, that changed me, since then i never judge book only by its cover. I don't really care about physical conditions. It's the inner beauty that i fall in love with.

see i feel no girl is beautiful or ugly it all lies in the inner beauty and not the outer beauty... we should not feel sad and should try to become their frnd and boost their confidence

I'm not buying the "ugly" idea. Every single woman I can think of that I think of as "ugly", I've heard someone else say is attractive in some way. And I know some seriously less than attractive people that are married or in long term relationships. And if you know anyone who doesn't get harassed by someone for something, I'm surprised.

Trust me, I am NOT shallow. But I think of it this way... You know how people say when they are obese or unattractive and so one? They say that it is something they can't control. BULLS***! They can control it. I was 200+lbs. I was unhappy, unattractive and miserable. I fixed it. I'm beautiful now. And why? Not cause I couldn't do anything about it but because I could do EVERYTHING about it. I don't feel sad or bad or sorry for anyone. You want to look and feel better...do something about it!

Everyone is beautiful in their own way!! I don't feel sad for someone who I don't think is pretty because someone in the world thinks she is beautiful. I feel sad for people who think that men don't have to be physically attractive but women do. Why have a double standard??