As a parent how do you...

I'm in that situation now with my youngest. I sit down with her every night to help her with what she has problems with in school. I tell my kids without school later in life they won't be able to find a good paying job to take care of themselves.I also tell them if they try hard enough and still get a bad grade, it's ok I'll be there to help them and to pick that grade up. My oldest two make very good grades. My youngest now is having an A,B, and two high C's. This is great for her. She's getting better. Also the schools around here will provide tutors.

I also was a str8 A student and my kids werent only thing I could do is set down with them and make it interesting to them so they will want to make better grades. Also ya really have to want to excel . For some reason these days gets just dont like school need to find the reason there. Dont push might make it all worse

Don't push too hard. As every year goes by, children must decide their study habits for themselves. Try to encourage self-didcipline now, and she will own her own application in the future.

at 10 years old, you still have plenty of time for pushing. its when they get to be teenagers in highschool that if they are struggleing when they are ten and never got better, they really have a tough time once they get older. its ok to push, just do it gently and always make sure that her self esteem doesn't get hurt along the way!

I have found when my children are struggling and not making the marks I think they should be able to achieve, that it helps if I give them a hand with their homework. Now I don't mean that I do their homework for them, but I will sit with them and make sure they understand the work they are given. I also have a rule that homework gets done as soon as they get home from school. I figure if I start these habits early (my kids are 12, 7 and 8) then hopefully the habits will stick with them forever. So far, it seems to be working. Good luck :)

pushing a child can make them feel innadquit if they fail at something expecialy if they tried their hardest I would talk to her teacher and see if there is any tools or techniques that can be used at home and if the school offers tutoring before or after school if not you maybe able to contact your local high school to see if they have a studant who would be interested to come over a few nights a week to help her with her studies for a small fee.I dont know about your area but here in iowa we have a home work hot line and you can always go to wal-mart they sell educational work books that are fun that you can sit down with her and do and you can always take her to your local library you can take her interest and use them as a learning tool like swimming if she likes to you can make a math qiuze such as how many laps to make a mile it doesnt have to be hard just an example and always encourage dont make her feel bad let her know that you understand that she is trying her hardest and then ask her what she thinks the problem was and what the both of you can do to make it better.

Ok also that has a son that struggles and the worst part his brother is a straight A student without any studying. My oldest really struggles and I was really hard on him but I came to relize the more I pushed the harder it was on him. So I did relax and give him more space and he is doing better and no he does not get straight A's but he get mostly b's and c's which is fine with me I can except the fact that he struggles allot but does his best and that is good enough for me.

I think that it's hard not to want our kids to get great grades and I was one of those "good students" too. I think you may want to see if she's not getting the grades that she is capable of or if she's really doing the best that she can. If it's a matter of motivation-you might challenge her with something or set some guidelines. I have a 13 year old who by all means and test scores should never slip below the honor roll unless he's sleeping. What I have realized, however, is that if I do not stay on him and put a little pressure on him to make good grades-he will settle for less. I do think that if she's struggling with getting the grades that you might be able to get to the bottom of that and help her to develop her potential. Talk to the teacher and see what he/she thinks maybe.

First off, so many parents think a "C" is HORRIBLE. "C" means AVERAGE...what is wrong with being "average"? Not everyone in the world is "above average" or "above average" would actually be "average", right?! After realizing that, you know your child's potential. If she doesn't seem like she's truly doing her best possible, sit with her and help her out. When she does bring home something that shows her skill and how well she can do, reward her. Not always with money or an item... maybe you can tell her that you're so proud you and she can go make a batch of brownies together and sit and watch any movie she picks off the shelf. Sometimes showing her that her doing well will help her realize how proud that makes you and she will strive for that each time. I think the biggest thing is to be realistic. Once I myself realized that "average" is perfectly fine... my life was a lot less stressful... and oddly enough my kids normally get above average. But when they don't... my house is a lot more mellow now! lol

Don't push your children to hard. Because it can make deppretion. Give them motivation, make them like friends.

I think the harder you push the more they don't care or rebel... just based on experience. I have a 6 year old who gets really high grades and I barely even help her with her homework. I was even surprised when I found out she could already read! Most of us had to be taught how to read by our parents, but I am in school full time and have loads of homework when I get home so I really don't get to sit down with her and yet she is doing really well in school. My 9 year old is too busy with playstation and I'm strict with him but he doesn't do good although when it's vacation he loves to play school, he would do math problems but now in school he is failing math. Teacher said his attention is short. But if he has to write about sports he gets A++... Try not to push and see what will happen. Praise your child when they achieve something.

you cannot compare yrself with yr daughter. talk to her, understand her prob and lastly, accept her as what she is

I have to ask this, if your daughter is struggling and not doing well, has she been evaluated for learning disabilities. People often overlook girls in this area, since it seems LD affects boys so much more. Immaturity is often blamed for learning problems. My son was in kindergarten and could divide in his head and come up with an answer including fractions. There were 28 kids in his first grade class, when the teacher asked, on the first day of school, how she could find out how many kids were in the classroom. She wanted to know how many kids could count to 30. My son jumper up and answered, there are 5 tables with 6 chairs at a table, that is 30. There are 2 empty chairs, so there are 28 kids here. Yet 2 1/2 months later, when he could not read at all, not the simplest words, she blew it off as him bing immature. She said to give him time. In June, she said next year he will get it. The 2nd grade teacher talked to me about having him evaluated for learning problems, the school finally got around to it, about 4 months later. They said that to be learning disabled he had to be 2 full years behind. In 3rd grade, he was evaluated in september, he was at a 1.3 reading level, still he was not 2 years behind, In January he was retested, he was finally 2 years behind. With less then 3 months left in the school year, they set him up for 20 minutes extra help a day. Which was to carry through to the following year. At the end of 4th grade, he was still at a 1st grade reading level. He tried very hard, he cried doing his homework, he cried whenhe saw his test grades. Get your daughter help NOW! Don't wait to see if the problem resolves itself. Turn on the b*tch switch. If you want more info, feel free to contact me.

Try to talk with her, know what she thinks, and express your ideas. Talk together and compromise on a goal together, and maybe reward her if she accomplishes her goal. Communicate often and encourage her whenever you can. If she does get a bad grade, let it slip by a few times, and then less and less. Hope this helps!

I dont push my kids at all. I was not the greatest student in school and all I ask of my kids is that they try there best. What I do is after school I pick up my kids and bringthem strait home. As soon as we get home my girls know that they need to get right to there home work. Since I am a stay home mom I am available to help my kids with there homework when they need it. I keep asking open ended questions to get them to think about the answer and get it on there own. My husband is the one who will give the answer just so they can get there home work done faster and have more play time. That is why I help with the homework before he gets home f rom work.

Helping by doing their home work and all will spoil them. you can help them by giving them clear idea about what is what in a way they have the capacity to understand the subject they study. motivating them ,inspire them .do not panic. try to understand your child.things will change

First of all make sure you tellher you love her and will always love her no matter what grades she gets. Unconditionally. Next make sure you're involved with the school. You are getting the homework assignements and are helping her. Not doing it for her or coming down on her for not being right but right there beside her as she's doing it. For now she needs your support. Understand where here weaknesses are. Talk to the teacher. If she's weak in math. Buy math games for the computer and challenge to complete the game for a reward. Start with one a year behind her maybe to build her confidence and make it seem easy. And gradually increase the levels until she's doing work that's ahead of her class. My son got a tremendous head start from the computer games. He was playing third grade educational games by the time he went into first grade. I think it helped his confidence a lot and made learning fun for him. Reward her for reading on summer breaks helping to pick books that will challenge her and ask her questions about the story and characters.

Remember, there is no person that are the same. You cannot ask for your daughter toe as good as you are. Try to take her just the way she is. Do not push her very hard, just keep her in a good competition with her friends.

maybe if you start giving rewards whenever she achieves a high grades she'll work harder for it. and thats what i intend to do when my 2 boys begin to study. they are into computer games so i can give them pc games of their interest that way they will be inspired to study harder.

There is a difference between supporting her and pushing her. As she is only 10, then you should make sure she studied properly.. do her homework etc2.. She should know that studying is important.. let her know that you think she is a brilliant girl.. however, she could do better than the grades she got nowadays.. let her know that you trust her..and that it is her responsibilities to study properly. When i was around that age.. my mom gave me incentives to study properly.. In my country.. we have many daily exams.. so whenever I score 95% or above.. I got stickers (I collect them at that time).. or dolls etc.. so I was encourage to study properly and get my reward.. maybe you could try this.. Though, as she grow up later on.. reduce this kind of things.. It is her responsbilities to study after all..