how do you mend a broken heart?

@makaira (1158)
Philippines
January 21, 2007 6:26pm CST
my friend is really broken hearted. she has lost a couple of pounds and no matter what we try to say to her, she just don't seem to listen. we don't know what to do! we are afraid she might get sick or even get suicide for the matter. your suggestions would be very much appreciated
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8 responses
cheenlly
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Hello, oh sorry to hear that. I 've been through her situation before and believe me time can only tell when she can mend her broken heart. It really depends on the person. Personally, it took me a year to forget totally my broken heart and this time i already forgive that person who hurt me. Your friend need time to mourn,its a process but it doesnt mean she should let herself dwell on that, of course she should help herself. A shoulder to cry on and a friend who will listen to her will be a really great help. Help her encourage and talk positively about it. Help her get out and meet some new friends. Make herself busy for her to forget that guy. In time when the pain is gone and she could no longer feel it, then that she already move on. Of course in order to move on she should let go of it and accept it. LIfe is so short to just dwell on it. That guy maybe not really meant for her and if they are both really meant for each other, fate will finds ways to meet them in the future. So as for now tell her to move on and face it.
makaira
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
14 May 07
yeah, i guess time is the only thing that can tell whether is has "totally' moved on or not. as of now, she's getting better in handling the situation. cheers!
wasim989
@wasim989 (2298)
• India
22 Jan 07
Actually you just need to convince her that this is not the end of the world and that everything will be fine and I am sure she will understand it after some time.
makaira
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
okay. I'll try to do that. I think she's just over reacting.
pusiket
@pusiket (1756)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
I just let the pain stay for awhile. And slowly but surely, I find ways to ease it. Until I finally move on.
makaira
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
yeah, I think that's the way to handle it. But my friend is just reacting weird. can't understand her.
cliffcliff
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
15 May 07
But you know everybody gets a broken heart sooner or later. It is only part of life. ask her to have patience and not to desire revenge or hurt toward the other person. This will make it worse. Ask her to try to take it with grace, as the hurt will go away over time. How she reacts to the hurt is important for her own self-esteem. Good luck with your friend makaira!
mimicgurl
@mimicgurl (64)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Broken heart is really hard to cope up. just spend time with friends. Life ha s to move on. She used to live her life without him. It's not the end of the world and GOD will give someone you deserve..
makaira
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
yeah, I know God has other plans for her. Maybe this time, she's not just ready to let go of the feeling..maybe in time, her heart will heal. :(
ututen
@ututen (139)
• Philippines
22 May 07
ok try to give more time on more important and relevant things talk to as many people as you want ask for their advises and share with their experiences..
mayenskie
@mayenskie (1307)
• Philippines
9 May 07
how's your friend doing? Its been 4 months since you posted this. I believe that finding a new love will heal her broken heart.
williamjisir
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
9 May 07
Four months after you posted this discussion, I came to myLot as a new inhabitant to find your discussion. With four months passing by, I wonder,"Is your friend Ok now? Or has she found a complete new way of life which makes her cheer up again?" There goes the saying, "Let bygones be bygones." Life goes on, however.