arguments

When the children are argueing I tend to just make them do seperat thing like my nephews use to argue about the video games that they play and I would just set them up on a time schedual for when theyget to play. If they are argueing bout something that don't matter I will explain to them my thoughts upon it and I will ask them questions about it to see if it really matters to them. Most times it doesn't matter at all to them and I show them how pointless it was to be argueing about it. Then if that don't work I make them go do chores till they deside that they can be around each other without argueing. That has worked great for me cause now for bout the last year they have not had many arguements at all. Hope it helps.

When my kids argue, I tell them not to talk to each other, not to play together. To play on their own and mind their own business. Or I tell them to face the wall. At least for an hour or so the house is quiet.

There is no way to solve this. You have only to make them realise that if they treat eachother that way, at the point of real need no one is going to be there for anyone.

I think the arguing is pretty much normal. My two are 16 (daughter) and 14 (son). They each try to tell the other who's boss. Sending them to their rooms, housework, and yardwork are great argument stoppers. But when it gets to the point of total insanity, putting a song on the cd player that they absolutely hate and turning it up loud usually does the trick in my household (hehehe). Just a thought ;)

Oh..well now. Someone on here was nice enough to tell me that she made her children hold hands for the amount of their combined ages...but I took it a step further and my kids don't argue half as much now! Sit them arms length apart and make them hold hands, but make them keep their arms raised for the duration. My kids only need to hear "Do you want to sit and hold hands?" and they get along extremely well :) Hope this helps.

Introduce an incentive programme, like a reward system for good "mature" behaviour. With the 3 kids being so close in age, arguments are inevitable, but targets and incentives do work. My children are 12, 6 and 7 and this does work, although it takes a little dedication on your part to keep the system going.

Sounds like the kids are showing there own personalities. You could try to get them to talk to each other as a debate rather than arguing. Tell them they have a right to have different opinions but to try and look at each others point of view as well. This will help them when they are older and in the work force. Give them certain times they are not allowed to argue. Show them ways they can discuss things without it turning into an argument.

I don't think there's anything you can do. Some kids get along better with each other while others can't stand each other. My kids are the same way and will fight over everything you can imagine.

hey they r still kids..its natural to argue n fight....u try keeping den buisy wid some gud things..like painting, drawing etc..if u keep then buisy ..they ll forget arguing..but i don't think its dat serious...once they grow up..they ll stop dat..

I had 5 girls and you can imagine how much chatter was going on in my home.Well whenever they would argue,they'd expect me to referee them and decide who was right.I use to say I wasn't there and I don't know who started what but both people involved where banished to another room for breaking the peace and those two could not come out until they were getting along.That was my way of not choosing sides and sooner or later they would get along in the room and they always knew that both children would get the punishment if I didn't know who started what.That worked more times then not because they new the next thing to happen would be a spanking,in the days when a parent could dicipline their kids with out interference from the law.

I use what we call a potty mouth jar, See theres a difference between argueing ie Calling Names, Hitting, being mean just to be mean, and Haveing a disagreement. My kids know that they can have a disagreement and talk it out, but when the Argueing starts, they have to put a quarter in the Jar, in order to get this Quarter either the one that started the arguement or me get to tell them the work that they have to do, when they do the work they put it in the Jar, The money in the Jar is used for paper and pencil to write {10/15/20 depending on how bad it is} down why the argument started and what steps we could of taken for a different outcome. Then they have to read it to the Family after dinner. By the way I have 2 11 year olds and a 13 year old. 2 are my step kids, but the kids have been togather in each others lives since the youngest were 6. Hope this Helps.

Ignore them and let them get it out of their systems. Arguing is actually a good way for siblings to get their anger and anxiety out. If you act like you don't really care about their little tirades, they'll save it for times when it actually matters to them. Right now, I bet they think they're getting extra attention as part of the deal.

Ohhh I feel for ya. Maybe offer them a treat or reward if they can all get along for a certain amount of time or maybe some time out for each one to think about not srguing over everything.

Honestly, i dont really know how to raise children for i also have two and there still young to argue... but base for my experience when im still a child... my mother use to stop us but we wont stop not until my mom stops to talk to us at all... imagine she didn't talk to us 4 2 days... and that serves as a lesson 4 us... but now were all grown ups... we use that events to our past as our main disscussion and laugh out loud about it... so if i or you just let them argue until they got tired of doing it so... but dont forget to remind them that there siblings and to love one another...

Arguments are part of our lives. Without arguments i think life will be dull..

Its ok for kids to argue. Don't let it upset you.They will do that even if there is a lot of age gap.I tell my kids to go back in their own room and do what they want, but not anywhere near me, as it makes me feel like yelling too.See, once they start getting serious about their studies and leave your home for further education, they will turn up as the biggest suppotrs or each other.These interactions are important to make them understand each others faults and abilities.

Arguing is a part of learning. They will learn the pros and cons of arguing and also whether a topic is a fit subject for arguement. If they dont argue now, they will become confused in later life. We as kids argued a lot, my friends did, now my sisters kids do. In fact none stop arguing. Oh, let them do whenever they get time, but i think you should make it a point to stop their arguements and strictly say 'no more arguements, we will make some other time for that' when it comes to do some serious activities like school work and the like. Allow them to argue in their leisure. Slowly they will get tired of arguing on unnecessary topics. On certain topics, they will always do, even elders argue.

arguing this will not do nothing only by controlling the children is must by motivating some activties like games ,reading novel's etc.,.............give them value education that they will help u in future......this is famous idea most of the parent's are doing....

thats normally if your children argue because the distance of their age so nearly. as a mommy you must neutralize them and said that they cant argue but dont take it too much because they are brother and sister who must take care each other....ok

Well i dont have any kids but i have 2 twin lil brothers that r 12 and we fight all the time there is nothin u can do to stop it unless u seprate there rooms thats wat kinda stoped us from yellin at each other alot but i have a older bro to and wen it was just me and him we didnt figt alot cuz we went our own seprate ways