in your country's customs,whos family should pay for the wedding?
By 007Bond1974
@007Bond1974 (881)
Philippines
January 23, 2007 7:44am CST
in our customs here usually the guys family pays for the wedding,but in our case(my fiancee and i)we both would pay for our wedding expenses...coz both our families are poor...so we saved for our own wedding...in you customs in your country who pays for the wedding?
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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5 Feb 07
In the UK, traditionally, the brude's family would pay for the wedding, butthese days here, most people have lived together for several years before they are married, and many have their own homes, so they tend to save up for a few years, and pay for the wedding themselves.
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
same here in my place mam...couples tend to marry in the courts at first(civil wedding)then they save for their church wedding which at most of the time very expensive.thanks for sharing this information in your comment /reply to my discussion friend. tradition can always be broken for practicallity purpose..peace(shalom)!
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
lady im a filipino too...i do agree with you..thanks for the reply.peace
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
5 Feb 07
Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for the majority of the wedding expenses, including the reception, but the groom's parents often offer to pay for the drinks. These days, with couples often marrying later, the couple sometimes decide to cover the wedding expenses themselves.
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@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
i think in the US thats the practice am i right friend in our country is the other way around...but now a days the tradition has been disregarded or not anymore applied...due to financial issues etc...now many couples prefer that they both spend for their wedding,or both family spend for it...thanks friend for sharing in my discussion.peace.
@mishang (498)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
tradionally, here in the philippines, the guy should pay for everything from the gown to the food, as in for everything. but people now are becoming more considerate and practical, that it really depends on the discretion of the people involved. mostly, the couple that are suppose to get married are the ones that are saving for a wedding that they both want and at today's generation, that is something acceptable and i think is fair because it's the couple's wedding, so might as well the two of them should be saving together.
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@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
thanks for sharing your opinion friend...im a filipino too...but your right,nowadays due to financial difficulties..the more accepted practice is for both the bride and the grooms family or only the bride and the groom(if they saved for their wedding) would contribute for the whole wedding expenses...peace
@oakgate (18)
• Nigeria
5 Feb 07
Hi bond 007, here in Nigeria there is what we call traditional wedding before the church or registry wedding. In the traditional wedding the groom is given a list of what to bring and the cost of this item ranges from N50,000
To N500,000.00 depending on the part of Nigeria you are from.
Late last year when I got married I spent close to N120,000.00 on this items for traditional wedding.
Then the families of the bride are expected to provide food and drink for the guest at the reception after both the traditional wedding and the church wedding.
But what I did was that I assisted my Inlaws with A cow and the wedding cake just to kind of assist them.
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
wow thats a lot of money dude!here in our setting the church doesnt realy require the parties to bring anything before the church(is the items for rituial porposes?) except of course for the documents for registration purpose,its up to the grooms family to spend for the wedding clothes to wear,food drinks and the place to do the reception or party("the traditional concept"),but as time goes the spending is now shared(financial issues),though in some provinces the tradition as to the grooms families obligation to spend still remains in practice...THANKS for such an informative item you shared my friend...now i have some knowledge as to other countries practice with regards to this topic...if its ok with you can i invite you as friend in this site?SHALOM(peace)to you my friend!
@jimpatrick_cute (23)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
i think it is the family that can afford to pay the expenses.
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
opinion well taken...a good answer based on practicality...peace thanks for the rely and opinion...peace...may i invite you as friend if its ok with you?
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
5 Feb 07
It's tradition that the clothes for the bride are payed from the groom and the clothes for the groom are payed by the bride and the general wedding plan is the church etc for the one who marries the couple, the festivities afterwards for both families.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
24 Jan 07
In the United States of America it is the custom for the girls parents to pay for most of the wedding. The men's family pay for the flowers and booze usually. Alot of people pay for their own, and don't want to tax their parents. We paid for our own wedding.
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@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
thanks for the reply mam...im still looking for other countrys wedding practice...one of my nephews assignment in world history and culture...thanks again...peace.
@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
25 Jan 07
in my country as per customs the brides family pay for the wedding.but the modern times exennses are so hight that its become 50-50 affair.
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@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
samr here with us dera friend...economic and financial issues has overcome traditions and customs...thanks for sharing...peace!happy valentines..
@risk_taker20 (2096)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Here in the Philippines, it should be the guy who will spend for the wedding but sometimes it happen also especially to both professionals that they contribute both for their wedding, more practical reasons.
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
yeah manoy,thanks for your opinion...can i invite you as friends comrade,if its ok with you.peace(shalom)
@JohnnyMurder (611)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Well i think both sides of the family should help out. Im getting married soon, but niether side is "paying" for the wedding. *sigh* Would be nice tho!
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
thats a big problem dude...i think you and your fiancee should save money starting now...peace to you friend.
@xiongqh (791)
• Hong Kong
24 Jan 07
In my country, the boy's family will pay for the wedding.
Of cause, China is a big country, there are many diffrent custom that have diffrent way to deal with it.
most of chinese boy will pay for wedding, and their parent don;t need to pay it if the boy can pay.
But in some area, the girl's family will pay for the wedding, and give a lot of property to boy, it is a diffrent custom.
I think boy pay for the weeding is good, because boy always get better job abd get higher salary than girls.
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
so some of your countrys customs are the same as to ours...in inquiry to your additional info..is it realy true as to what you said that men in china get better jobs in salary?is there gender discrimination there?here in the philippines i know some woman who has a better high paying jodb than that of their husbands(wemen empowerment)you can post a discussion in this matter for you chinese wemen to be heared...dont you worry ill post my response.SHALOM(peace)my friend!
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
yeah i think in some countries like the US these is practice...but in the philippines its the grooms family or the groom that pays for the wedding or at least generally practiced...but now a days,maybe due to financial difficulties and for practical purpose both the groom and the bride or their families share for the expenses for the wedding....peace
@072006 (1276)
• India
23 Jan 07
Well well well!!
We dont have anything like who should pay and who should not!!!
It is weddind of not a one person , or one family, its wedding ...where two families are coming together, so we have custom that both side will share expense of wedding, it minimizes the burden which comes on one family.So its good to share joy , excitement as well as expense. Say what?
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@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
yeah for reasons of practicality i realy dont agree with our countrys customs...as it applies only to moneyed families...as for me and my fiancee...we both accord to save for our own wedding...thanks for the reply friend...can i add you as friend if its ok with you?peace(shalom)
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
originally its the guys family who will pay for the expenses but nowadays it was change and depends on the financial capacity of the couple. Nowaday both families of two couples helps on the wedding expenses if the guy couldnt really afford to pay all.
@007Bond1974 (881)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
thanks for your reply friend...im still finding out other countrys customs as to marriage...if you know anything maybe you can share i ...peace!
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
In our country, the groom is the one who will have to pay for the wedding because that is the tradition. Because women and precious and therefore, the man who happens to be the head of the family should show that he can be a good provider.
@awesomeone (55)
• Indonesia
10 Feb 07
in my country, the man will pay for the wedding party, but it also can be both...
@jsae29 (1120)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Here in our country, it's the parents of the groom who usually spends for the wedding. But this was true in the early days, now it's ok if the both family helps in the expenses. And also now, its the couple who usually spends for their wedding, parents are no longer required to spend.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Well as far as I know, in our custom the family of the bride usually pays for the wedding, and sometimes its split between both families. When I got married 6 years ago, we paid most of it ourselves. Our families contributed to the cake, decorations and cars and the rest we paid for.
