Wouldnt it be nice if people would take time to actually care?

Yes, I do think it would be nice if people would actually take the time to care. I find a lot of my so called 'friends' are fake. By fake I mean, they say they care and that they're always going to be there for me, but they never are. I haven't even seen most of them for the longest time. I feel like a lot of people are just 2 faced and only care about themselves and it makes me soo madd!! I also have come to the conclusion that most of my friends don't care.. when something is wrong they're just asking because they are nosiey and just end up judging me when they find out something is wrong. I have only met a few people in my life that actually CARE, it would be nice is there was more.

I've noticed that just when I think no one cares about anyone else, and everyone is out for themselves, something happens to surprise me. Recently I posted on a FreeCycle group for a coat for my oldest son. Only one man replied, he asked me to bring my son and meet him in a public place, he had a coat for my son. We met him at the appointed place and time. The man walked up to me, pressed something in my hand, told me to get my son a coat and started walking away. I saw the $20 bill he had folded up and gave me. He wouldn't stop walking when I tried to stop him, he wouldn't give me his name. When my son and I got back in our car I handed my son the $20 and said let's go see if the thrift stores have any decent coats. He looked at me and said "mom, there's fifty bucks here!" Needless to say, my son got a fantastic coat. I never did get the man to reply when I emailed him to thank him. We're all caught up in our own dramas, but if you look close enough you might just be surprised.

I understand how you feel. However...just remember that there are still good people in this world even if you are faced with these feelings and thoughts. I am the same kind of person. I have been persecuted in my life very badly..and treated badly..and have suffered and cried many times. However..I still know that I am a good person..and to me that is all that matters. I think sometimes the nicer you are the worse you suffer in this world.

I agree with you completely. Most not all, but most people are not here to help others they are here to help themselves and they forget the people that they left behind on the way. I am surrounded by alot of people that are only in it to see what they can get out of you or what you can do for them, but they always forget the people that helped them along the way.

WOW, you hit the nail on the head with this one. I totally agree with you. Sometimes I think we'd be better off without all of this technology and go back to the way things used to be when people actually cared about each other. Back when a town rallied together for one another. Back before all of the violence where we were free to play on the streets and not worry about things. I feel that I've dedicated so much of my life to others, and have received nothing in return. Not that I'm looking for anything return, but, well, I don't know. It's just hard to explain I guess, unless you've got the same feelings.

I think the world is in turmoil. Everyone is into their own schedules & deadlines. We all have so many things on our minds that we forget that the people that surround us are actually there. Some people just don't care at all. But others are just lost asking themselves the very same question. I try to take time out for everyone. I hold the door for the elderly, I will even sit and talk to a kind stranger instead of walking off. I try not to judge others but sometimes it's hard. We are all human. People don't stop and listen until catastrophe hits home. Such as 9-11, I am a New Yorker and I know that City is about hustle. Everyone is in a rush. After that trauma to the entire city and the world, I think we have all humbled ourselves and realized we are all together here. Sometimes we forget but we are not alone. We should take more time to listen to others and reach out.

i agree with you i myself went through a kind of metamorphasis i got rid of my material possesions accept what i neede for my apt and gave them to needy people and helped people when i can also trying to do something nice for some one everyday/well ive gotten burned time and again been ignored in the middle of conversations and seen alot of fake people its kind of turned me into a loner but this has not stopped the good spirit in me to help and do good things for others i still have skills that i can donate and share with others sometimes i feel useless and lonely but imstill here and i never want to live life like i did before im careful not to "butt in"or ignore others cause we are all equally inportant

It's rare these days to find people who are genuinely nice. There are more people who are high-strung and rude out there to ruin the day it seems

I was asked a question recently which I answered asking if you would remember some who shook you hand. I said sometimes depends. I think a memory of a person may need a little more such as a simple concern or a simple comment of a compliment of some kind. I also have remember people who sat down and talked to me and or I went out with at least once or more to dinner, lunch or breakfast. I think a simple loving or carrying word or compliment can speak loudly in someways.

I am actually just like you in some ways!! I am a very kind, generous , loving and caring person and this does get frustrating. In this world though there are only so many people that we can look to and rely on for certain things and those people come in our lives when we seem to need them the most!! God Bless!!!

I can completely see where you're coming from...You give and give, and people just take advantage, and when you need them, they'e suddenly too busy for you, but expect you to be there the next time...I've learned you have to just keep plugging along. As someone here did say, you do find kindness when you least expect it. My wife and daughter and I were in Wal-Mart about a year ago...Money was tight, but we needed to get our car's oil changed. It was the day before payday, but we had to leave that next night right after work to go see my wife's grandmother in Montana, and that night was our only chance to get the oil change done. I had enough for the oil change, tire rotation, and to get us some dinner; that was it. It was getting late, the mechanics were taking a lot longer to even get our car up on the jack than they said they would...My daughter (13 months at the time) was getting cranky. my wife grabbed her a toy to play with while we waited...She was playing, and some guy came up and just started talking to us. This is unusual because over all, it seems people here in the Seattle area are pretty standoffish...Nice guy though; his wife and family were shopping, and he was just hanging out on the bench waiting for them. They called our name on the PA system to tell us our car was ready, and my wife told my daughter she was going to put the toy back. My daughter started to cry, and the guy pulls out $20, hands it to me, and says "I love doing this for people...the toy's on me", and walked away to meet up with his family. He didn't know I was tight on cash until the next day, we never exchanged names, didn't have any idea whether or not I was intending to get my daughter the toy...He just said he liked to give families with well-behaved kids a little somthing to say "Thanks for raising good kids"...Coolest thing I'd ever seen.

Unfortunately this is the world we live in today. We are to obsessed with our own lives to even take one second to think about others.

May I just first say that the last sentence of yours is the longest I've ever seen in here so far. Haha! However, I recognize myself in what you're saying. The only people that actually "know me" are the members of my family. I don't know why but I seem to have trapped myself in a certain character when I'm in school or in any other social situation where I just can't seem to find myself or be able to express myself the way I would like to. It is depressing to know that things are like this when they could get so much better if a chance was given.

I really do get what you are saying. There has been many,many times when im in a conversation with someone and they dont listen to what im saying. It makes you feel stupid too when others are in the conversation and you get cut off and no one will even look at you and say "now what was it you were saying". Just a simple request like that would make a difference. Its really bad when your spouse says how was your day and barely gives you enough time to respond before they start in about their own..In my opinion im gonna get sulled up about it cause why ask if you're not gonna listen!

Well my friend , You are not alone , I have made loads of friends on the net , some I have met and some not , But the ones I have not are no less a friend to me , I pride myself in being a good judge of character , and I can sense that you are a lovely caring gentle person , this comes across in your posts whether you realise it or not , so you are not alone , I hope you can class me as a friend too xx

Dear Steph... I feel sorry if at the moment you feel so bad and low like that... I once felt like that, too. That everything was burdened on me. And as if it was not enough, after doing so much, I was still to blame for many things, too! No caring, no thanking, only judging and complaining. But it's different now because actually when I was like that, it was because I care too much about pleasing people and always taking things under my control. I chose to focus on what I had not. I wanted to do something because I wanted something in return from other people. Which is not entirely incorrect. But it will eat me out inside if that is my reason to live, my purpose to do things. Because people will always disappointing no matter how nice they are. After we're all the same, so imperfect. I now choose to only care about what matters in God's eyes. It is not easy and I keep failing from time to time. But without God, I cannot call it life worth living for. It's been a truly different journey with this focus shifting...=)

Its hrd for people to relate to you if they haven't experienced the same things as you. All these feelings you have and are trying to explain they hven't had to experience. I have depression nd its hard for my boyfriend to understand what I'm feeling. I keep explaining it to him but he never seems to understand me. Thats why I like mylot. There are people here who have gone through similar experience and want to get to know you and what you've been through.

When are you going to stop focusing on you and start caring about other people? That's when people will start caring about you. Instead of talking, start listening. Instead of thinking yourself secure, understand that you're as vulnerable as the rest of us. Instead of thinking you're special, understand that we are all special. Stop patting yourself on the back and pat someone else on the back, for a change. Now is a good time to begin, my friend.

definately...............

Hello steph, as far as I'm concerned, I always treat people with respect. In fact, there's three things that I really don't like about myself. Too trusting, too generous and too sensitive. I easily get hurt by just the slightest comments from a person. Your discussion may be a month old, but I can feel your passion here. People you know before may not be the same today. Like the passing of time, peole changes too. We just try to be the best that we can. We should also understand that other people also have their own lives to lead. Go look for something that you like to do. Be happy, my friend.