Emotional Cheating.....

well, even though it is a sign of insecurity more than cheating probably,i can relate. mine is more of jealousy than anything! my husband gets calls from women sometimes (friends from before he met me, that are out of state, or co-workers asking a question about this or that) and i can always tell its a woman by his tone. BUT, he isnt this "nice" to me. If i call him, he's like 'ok im busy. i gotta go'. but if they call he's like 'heyyyy...what are you doing?, blah blah' and im thinking...how can you be so nicey nice to this woman, but not me, and im your WIFE. sometimes ive said to him 'that must be your gf'. Ive met some of the girls he works with and im sure that they are just friends and i wouldnt mind if he invited them to a party or something. Your friend should let the woman come to the party so she can feel her out and get the scoop on her. see how she interacts with her own husband, and then with your friends husband. i sure wouldnt NOT invite her, that would show insecurity big time! she needs to show confidence in her marriage.

I think if the wife keeps acting the way she is that this man may feel more at ease turning to his co-worker and this could definitly lead to an affair. I understand the wife is upset but she should'nt doubt her husband without good cause. I think there should be trust there because that is what makes a relationship strong.

I think that this is pretty unacceptable of the wife. She should really try to control her feelings if it is obvious that nothing at all is going on with her husband and his friend. I have several guy friends and it irks me to no end when my own husband acts like this. She is really just jealous, but if her husband has a great friendship with someone, then why try to deny him this happiness? Maybe if she spent more time with this lady she would begin to like her as well and all would be happy.

I don't think the wife should be freaking out. There is actually a phenomenon called "work spouse", where people share stuff that the real spouse doesn't necessarily know about. No big deal. My husband has lots of female frieds, and I'm not bothered by it one bit.

the guy should understand her wife feelings and sholud not get involved with this new relationship... if her wife is saying no to this relationsip then he should stop this at once...as this can cause problems in their relation... but if the wife always do the same then its wrong on her part... what u say?

I think she'd be better off keeping the woman close to her if she's that worried about her. Invite her to the house and get to know her and her husband. the woman does sound very insecure though. And anyway I reckon that if someone is going to cheat they will do it somehow, so even if she never sees him talking to another woman it doesn't mean that he's not!!

I have a close relationship with several women where I work. My wife works at the same place and I think that makes a difference. When I was in grad school I became close with a woman. We both only went to grad school during the summers and we started at the same time. We had many classes together. We went to movies together and ate out together. We both graduated in 1992. I live in Michigan and she lives in Missouri. We still keep in touch with each other. We have never taken our relationship beyond just being good friends. I think that an affair can happen if both people are looking for that to happen.

ithink that if she is jealus so much it might turn into because she might be pushing him away and closer to her now if she trys to befriend the lady then it might be okay and theycan both spend time all togteher she can alos talk to the guy and tell him hoew she feels i dontthinkit is right but some women have been hurt in the past and very self careing and that scares them you know you bnever know what happened in the past that could have effected her and lal.

Seriousl;y telling you that in a relationship if anything ever goes wrong is not by just one persones mistake but its partly both of theres... so if a woman feels so insecure wen her husband talks to sme other woman or friend of sort so that means its not just the fault of the woman but also of the husband as he hasn't given her enough of security yet so that she may not worry.. moreover she should learn to trust her husband cause these kind of stupid insecurities lead to bigger troubles for sure... they both have to work it out together....

No I don't and your friend seems very insecure in her relationship.

Well personally I think if he isn't having an affair now, the poor man may soon be, if his wife keeps up such a ridiculous, jealous attitude. Surely she wants her husband to have a pleasant working environment and to get on with colleagues.

It sounds like to me that she's insecure. That's too bad becuase some times insecurity can cause probs in itself between husband and wife.

I think she should tell her husband how she feels and make and even try to get to know that lady herself. If she is feeling a certain way than it needs to be addressed.

This is a possible affair cropping up. My husband does not have women friends and I do not have men friends it only causes problems. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. My husband talks to his secretary at work but he is not have lunch with her or has any emotional ties with her. This can be a form of an emotional affair.He should do these things with his wife. If she feels uncomfortable with this women then he should knock it off. He may be trying to make her jealous maybe something is missing in their relationship.

I think that ALL people have the right to have friends from both sexes. i have male friends and my bf has a few gf. i know alll of them and he knows all of my friends and that is the way i want it. If he would start hiding them i would think something was wrong.. Clearly this is just a friendship since he wants to bring the woman home to meet his wife - people having an affair would normaly not do this!

Ok, I think that there are times when women just know that something is wrong. My husband had a female friend at work much like this other lady. They went to lunch together, talked throughout the day ... often if I stopped by his work (he worked at a printing press and I owned a newspaper that was printed there) I would find him taking his break in her office. As a couple we became friends with her and her husband and for a time I would watch her kids on Wednesdays. Her husband was a farmer so he would have lunch with their son and my daughter. We would spend weekends out together from time to time. I really felt as though this woman was my friend. But, there were times when I just felt like she like my husband too much. For instance, we all went out with some friends to celebrate her husband's birthday and she spent a lot of time with MY husband. It turns out that this woman started making plans to leave her husband and told people at their work that she was going to leave him for my husband. My husband had no idea that she felt that way and since has severed the relationship. I think that it's fine for him to be friends with other women, but there are lines and if we aren't careful with these lines that one or both people will find it easy to step over the line.

I know what you mean and believe me the society has to be particularly blamed for this, because just think how many people we personally know who has experienced wrecked marriage. Even on the news everyday we hear man cheats on wife and vice versa, now this women is very insecure, she might be thinking all negative things, is it her envoirnment? or is it that she personally knows someone who has a wrecked marriage life?, that is one question that only she can answer best. The only piece of advice I can give is but it will be hard to carry out as you have stated that she is an online friend, is that her husband needs to reassure her that nothing is going on between them and that she is nothing but a co-worker and that he loves her. I think that might just do the trick ... But then again if she is possesive by nature ... well that is a different story then, because it will take one hell of a job for her to get rid of this habbit. Well hope this helps :)

Well, like a few people have posted here, it sounds as if the wife is struggling with some insecurity. I do think this could be a, affair waiting to happen. Several years ago, I was involved in something similair. I was engaged to a really good woman and work with a different woman that worked very close with me everyday. It seemed over time the better my relationship got with the woman at work, my relationship at home was beginning to suffer more and more. There was no hanky panky, perhaps some low grade, innocent fliting, but I do think I was substituting at work for the shortcomings of my realtionship at home. I think your friend should welcome her into the home and get to know her, if she is willing to show up with her husband that's probably a pretty good indication that nothing is going on.

I don't understand why she is so suspicious. I guess she is too possessive over her husband. if she continues behaving like this i am sure he will start cheating on her. i mean she is putting all this thought in his mind. come on ask her to grow up.

Forgot to answer the question if it's "emotional cheating". Hmmmm...I think that would need to be a question to ask the husband. Does he HONESTLY feel like his relationship with his coworker is 100% innocent? If so, then no, it's not emotional cheating.