Is It Right For Children To Have Two Fathers or Two Mothers

Answer me this question please. What is normal in todays society? Honestly, what is normal? What is normal to you may be strange to me and vice versa. What is wrong with a gay couple who are in love with eachother adopting a child? As long as there is love then there shouldent be a problem. you would be surprised how many schools are tollerant of children coming from gay homes can be. A child with 2 mothers or 2 fathers can still thrive and grow just as much as a child with 1 mom and 1 dad. The gender ofthe parents shouldent matter just as long as the childs needs are being met and the child gets enough love and attention then it souldent be a problem.

I believe it is. Alot of people think that just because two gay men have a child they arent getting a motherly type role in their life..which isnt true. I am not an expert on the gay culture but usually in a gay relationship 1 is more effeminate than the other..and still another point: think about this..single fathers and mothers raise children by themselves everyday..they dont have mother/father roles in their life..in a gay relationship it would be like having an extra. Then you have people say, well its not normal..its sinful..well who are they or you to judge.. you cant dictate normal and it is gods job and his job only to judge them when there time comes..

As others have said it's pretty hard to define what is a normal family nowadays. I'm a single mum (and while the kids father is still in their life I'm the one they spend most of their time with) and that could be considered normal now as their are a lot of us around. I'm of the belief that as long as the child(ren) are loved and cared for that's all that really matters, you mention them being bullied if they have same gender parents - for the most part kids are going to find a reason to pick on other kids regardless - whether it's their weight, their looks, the clothes they wear or a myriad of other reasons - unfortunately it comes with being a kid and I think nearly everyone goes through it. The thing is though that having same gender parents, a single parent, no parents (being raised by other family members) etc is often par for the course now so kids are pretty used to it and are generally more accepting and less inclined to use that as a reason to single someone out. As for positive male and female role models, well I guess they can come from anywhere - just because a young boy has both a mother and a father for example doesn't mean his father is a good role model. Instead it could be an uncle, coach or teacher etc.

Well in this society, I think nothing is impossible. Since there are so many homeless children these days, adoption helps in lessening the number and of course more homeless children will be given the opportunity to have a better life. About children with two mother or father, being bullied by classmates in school, I guess there are no way to get away from the reality however it is still the love and care that the child gets from the person who are taking care of him/her.

well its ok but its not good for the child.if i was a person like that whats the use of haveing childern

if the child has no problem i think its ok,but others want exept it if u want to do so i think u can,if u can give the boy or girl a good life its ok u have to look each and evry think of the child till they grow up and i think it will be difficult till that period so u should be in a responsible role througout the childs is 18 and if u can do this you can.

I think that gay people can be excellent parents. And just because parents are gay - doesn't mean that the child will turn out that way. It also doesn't mean that they are perverts in any way and will do anything to the child. Most of the gay people I know are very nurturing people and if they have the money and the time to raise a child - then why should anyone stop them? There are so many children out there with no families - why should they be denied just because the adopting party is gay? And they haven't been granted this right in the US - well at least not as of my Law class last semester. We did a couple case studies on it.

well, maybe the problem is with our society that would bully and ostracize and not the gay parents or the family itself. i dont see how having 2 fathers or 2 mothers can have a detrimental effect on a child. its never been proven. just because a child has a father and mother doesn't necessarily mean that he will be in a "stable" and "normal" family.

Well lets look at this a minute. What about those children who had a parent killed at a young age, they did not have a male and female influence. What about the kids that have a Father and a step-father, or a Mother and a step-mother, these kids basically have two fathers and two mothers. Let's go one step further, what about the kids who have a Mother, step-mother and father? etc. You can do hundreds of scenarios and kids can survive most anything. They adapt and adjust easier than any other type human. To deny a child a loving home because there are two women or two men raising them is so close-minded. I would much rather see a child have a loving home than one where they are beat or sexually abused by having one Mother and one Father. Wouldn't you?

Who's to say what's normal. since civilization began, many children were raised in single family homes, or in homes with grandparents and uncles and aunts present. Its only been in the past century that the norm is for a family to only be 2 parents and their children. I really don't think it matters who raises a child as long s he/she is raised with morals and respect.

i have no problem with gays, so i dont think it is wrong for a child to have either 2 fathers or 2 mothers, because in the end if they love the child and raise it properly then that is all that matters.

I agree with you. I think a child needs a father and a mother. A father can teach and give a child different things and needs then a mother can. And the same with the mother. She gives a child the nurturing he/she needs that a fother can't give. It's ballenced that way. Having two fathers or two mothers isn't ballenced. And you're right, that can lead to complications for the child because growing up he didn't get what he needed- a mother And a father.

Nobody has the right to tell us what's right and wrong to do. What's important in life is happiness. If a gay couple adopt a child, there's nothing wrong with that. I think people nowadays are more open-minded and it really doesn't matter what's the gender. What's important is that the child should be brought up with good morals and be a God fearing person.

no no no

No , Its not ok to have two parents of childrens because childrens can stay with their original parents from whom childrens is in the world , So they can pass their life without any interuption of alot of questions wich will come in front of them..They stably live and pass good life with original parents ! Have fun my friend !

I was raised mostly by my mother and grandmother, so yes, I think it is perfectly fine as long as the children are being loved and cared for.

As others have mentioned what is normal to you may not be normal to me, ect. The issue is the child. A child is in need of a loving, caring, stable, environment. If the potential parents can give this & can afford to raise a child (if the child is being adopted the adoption agency would have checked it out). Who cares what the parents are, gay or heterosexual. The child will have a better future with a family that loves & cares for them than whatever the alternative would be. Steps off soapbox now :D

The only thing I will say is this: There are a lot of children in the United States that need homes. A lot of parents, a man and woman, want a certain type of child. This is a general statement on my part but it is something I have heard repeated by people who work in social services with children. Most people want a white, healthy baby. It is harder to place toddlers, children with emotional problems, children of color. Do I believe that in the best of all possible worlds that children should be raised in a loving home with a man and a woman? Yes? But would I be willing to deny that there are committed, loving gay couples who are willing to take children that a lot of other people look over? No. Maybe it does have its own unique complications. But there have not been any studies done. This is really a fairly new trend. It will be years before we know the effects..but I don't what to deny children a home because what might happen. Adopting a child is a long and scruntinized process. It is not like you go, I want to adopt a baby and boom they give you one. It can take years. If a gay couple passes the test, which in all liklihood is harder for them to do, that says a lot.

Actually I have to disagree with you . Love is the most important factor in raising a child . And if the child gets picked on or teased in school this just shows the ignorance in which they were raised with . People should not be judged on who they are with they should be judged on what kind of person they are themselves .

So are you also saying that if a child is being raised by parents that are no longer together, but do have a new partner then they shouldn't be raised in that home? Afterall that means they might have two mothers and two fathers. Even though the couple is gay doesn't mean that the child won't have the role models it needs. I mean they might have a great uncle or aunt to use as a role model. When I was growing up I had a friend that was raised by a gay couple and they turned out to be more stable then some of the people I knew that had a normal family as you put it.